The issues facing men and women are not as serious as ‘experts’ would like you to believe. But one thing that the ‘experts’ appear to be right about is the negative attitudes that some black women seem to have? Maybe some of them have an attitude because they are buying into this notion of their not being any available and/or eligible men. Maybe their attitude stems from the belief that all of the good men are married and the rest are homosexual or incarcerated? Maybe some have an attitude as they see more and more black men dating/marrying outside of their race? Or maybe, just maybe some have an attitude because they take themselves far too seriously! What I have noticed, especially when going to various events, be it a night club setting, private dinner party, or open air cultural events, is that some Black Women really do take themselves seriously. Too seriously! I am the last one to buy into stereotypes or so-called statistical information, but recently I’ve come to the realizat...

Three years ago I read an article in the Washington Post by Joy Jones entitled “Marriage is for White People” and the article talked to adolescent children who claimed that marriage was for white people. It went on to state various statistics, i.e. since the 1960’s the marriage rate for African American’s has continued to drop. Statistics such as this and others of its ilk about Black women and the Black community prompted me to ask why is it that marriage is not preached, instilled, taught, or encouraged in our community. Having grown up in a two parent household, whose parents are still alive and together, I witnessed love, struggle, trials, and tribulations. I witnessed infidelity and counseling, and two people working together to create, grow, build, learn, and love---together. It is the reason why I believe in the sanctity of marriage. I believe in standing before God and repeating vows to merge your lives into one. I believe in the sacrament of the vows. What I don’t believe in, ...

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE: SassyScribe Media Entertainment P.O. Box 232 Pasadena, MD 21123 sassyscribemediaent@yahoo.com IT’S JUST A DAMN DATE: Why We Expect Too Much Too Soon April 7, 2009, ( Baltimore , MD ): Sassy and Dlyte sit down with author Tariiq Omari Walton, and discuss his best selling book ITS JUST A DAMN DATE available at http://www.tariiqomari.com/ and why people expect too much too soon. Tune in Thursday, April 9, 2009, at 9:00pm EST / 6:00 PM PST on www.blogtalkradio.com/sassyentertainment and call in to share your thoughts to 646.716.7414. "A successful relationship is not something you can actively seek and expect to find, according to author Tariiq O. Walton" “WSER Sassy Entertainment Radio™” is a hypnotically engaging interactive radio show streaming live each and every Thursday on your Internet airwaves at 9:00pm EST/6:00pm PST. Saundra E. Harris, an Award winning author, turned talk show host aptly called “SassyScribe”, and Dlyte dishes a saucy discussion ...

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE: SassyScribe Media Entertainment P.O. Box 232 Pasadena, MD 21123 sassyscribemediaent@yahoo.com PART II of INTER RACIAL RELATIONSHIPS: WHY BLACK MEN DATE /MARRY WHITE? February 25, 2009, (Baltimore, MD): Sassy and Dlyte welcomes the return of Ray Williams, independent film producer and director. Mr. Williams conducted his own research and found out the four reasons as to why he feels black men are turning to women of other races. Tune in Thursday, February 26, 2009, at 9:00pm EST / 6:00 PM PST on www.blogtalkradio.com/sassyentertainment and call in to share your thoughts to 646.716.7414. “Black women take themselves out of the game through the four A’s, Attitude, Appearance, Application, and Availability.” “WSER Sassy Entertainment Radio™” is a hypnotically engaging interactive radio show streaming live each and every Thursday on your Internet airwaves at 9:00pm EST/6:00pm PST. Saundra E. Harris, an Award winning author, turned talk show host aptly called “Sassy...

I am a huge fan of Steve Harvey! I love his morning show and I thoroughly enjoy his Strawberry Letter segment, but everyday, it’s a different woman allowing a man to keep his foot on her neck. I constantly find myself laughing and shaking my head, because I find it funny? Is it really that important to be in a relationship? I know that no one wishes to or wants to grow old alone, but damn, what happened to have self respect? Over the weekend, the girls and I went out for a drink and we were talking about how long it takes women to “figure” it out. Why is it that some women have yet to understand themselves and/or know their own power? I told them that a friend asked me why women gave each other bad advice all the time…honestly, we didn’t know, because our sect is very outspoken and at times “inyourface” with our opinions. Added to that he asked why do women hate on each other? It’s as if the minute a woman thinks that there is a possible chance of “hooking up” or getting themselves...

This posting stemmed from a discussion about a man who spent a beautiful weekend with his wife and just the way in which he described the weekend prompted the women on the board to state how lucky his wife is to have a loving, caring, and attentive brother such as GRUMPY...it was so on point, that I asked him if I could post it on my blogs...and his response was "if it helps one woman to make the right decision, then hell yeah, post on!" Here is his response for women...please take heed... ___________________________________________ I would say to the women who claim they want that: WHAT ARE YOU DOING TO ACHIEVE THAT? Meaning, what kind of man are you dealing with? Under what circumstances are you with him? If it's because he's all you think you can get or because he's the baby daddy or because he's brainwashed you into thinking that 'ain't nobody else gonna want you' or anything like that, then you won't get that. Women are like a dealer in a ...

It’s been a minute since I have written a blog because of my hectic schedule and other things, I was thrown off track for a minute, but now I am back. During my hiatus I have been doing a lot of sitting back and watching people—men in particular, interactions between the sexes…watching folk’s reactions to situations and gauging body language of what people reading what is being said and unsaid. Trolling the internet as I do 24/7, I have noticed that there are a lot of blogs, vlogs, message boards, and pod casts, etc. that are constantly denigrating black women. Black women are manipulative, bitter, unfriendly, nasty, mean, ornery, etc. you name it there is something on the web to back that up. It’s as if there is nothing nice to say about black women. As if we are the dregs of society and quite frankly not only was I offended…it pissed me off. For years the black woman has been the back bone of our race. We have had to be strong and pick up where others have dropped the ball, from ...

How much of your sexual history should you disclose to a mate? For some women this question remains a constant conflict because how much of the reveal is too much? I advocate truth telling, although we all know that there are some that live in their convoluted and distorted truth. But, in this day and time, it is vitally imperative to your health and welfare to always state the truth. As adults we understand that you may not want to reveal all...that at one point in our lives we may have done something that was a little wild and/or off the hook and some things you just may decide to take to the grave. But years ago, you know back in the day when dating was easier and fun, you didn't have the issues that you have today. The questions that individuals must ask today are not questions that you had to ask twenty years ago. Today we have to ask questions like: Are you currently sexually active? If so, how many partners are you intimate with? Have you ever have or currently have a sexual...

As a woman I do not believe that I have all of the answers…hell, I just feel that I follow my instinct about men and it has enabled or equipped me with a sense of discernment that I honestly did not have four years ago. In my opinion [and my blogs are just that] dating is not very hard and/or as complicated as folks would like people to believe. On Saturday, March 29th, I facilitated a discussion entitle Technology and Dating- has it helped or hindered the dating process? [blog written Dec ‘07] http://xcapadesofthegirlz.blogspot.com/2007/12/technology-dating.html And it amazed me that out of the fifteen or so individuals in the room, only two of them were dating, and that was myself and one other woman. We discussed the pro’s and con’s of online dating, the high number of individuals that are meeting and marrying online [30k/annually], the ratio of men to women online, the percentage of married men online [40%] and that 72% of women are more likely to find a lover from an online conn...

With the onslaught of the perceived "man shortage" women are beginning to focus their attentions on men from their friends past. Meaning that they are revising their opinions of the once staunchly forbidden and "possibly" offensive rule of not dating your girlfriends exes/baby daddies/or jump-offs, maintenance men, or friends-with-benefits. In other words, if your girl had sexual relations/dealings of any kind, then he is unspokeningly off-limits to her posse/homegirls/sister gurls. Your homegirls/sistagirls especially know that he is now in an untouchable, a forever untouchable position, regardless of how sexy, or fine, or how much the two of you may have "vibed" with one another, he can't be touched. Yet as women are growing older and the pool for eligible men is supposedly shrinking, they are mulling over whether or not to date an old flame of their friends. Statistics show that African American women are the most uncoupled women on earth, to wit it...

Monday, March 3, 2008, I was a guest panelist along with Martina Evans, on THE FRONT PAGE, with host Craig Thompson, on WEAA 88.9 Morgan State Radio. The topic under discussion was dating and relationships...and I have to thank Martina Evans, the author of Worst First Dates and the Lessons Learned, for thinking of and inviting me to appear along with her. However, I have been thinking about what some of the callers...one them stated that she was 46yo and "that nowadays all a man wishes to do is take you back to his home and screw." We touched on this that night and unfortunately, we were unable to delve deeper into the topic. As I continue with research and viewing the breakdown in communication in the dating process I can see how she would get that mindset. It is my belief and opinion that some women are just making it too damn easy for some men. Don't get me wrong there are women that are more than willing to give it up the first time around, but for most men to automat...

The 1995 Box office hit “WAITING TO EXHALE” , told the story of four African American women, one married with an impending divorce, one a single mother, and two single women both struggling in relationships with lothario’s and married men. I watched that movie again this morning (3am) and it got me to thinking…How many women are still “waiting to exhale”? How many of them are still waiting for “the one”…”the knight in shining armor”…their soul mate, the one person who really and truly loves, cherishes and understands them. That one person who can finish their sentence, make their heart race, that one person who would do anything for them…no questions asked. I’ve seen this movie at least 100 times, but this time…it moved me to tears. Angela Bassett lying in Wesley Snipes arms saddened and pissed over her impending divorce. Loretta Divine crying to Gregory Hines over her son leaving to tour Europe and her admitting that he had been the man in her life and how unfair it was of her to burd...

I don't think its a secret that I have been a fan of Senator Barack Obama since he spoke at the DNC in 2004...since then I have been following his career...and it is my hope that he receives the nomination for President. That is why it still bothers me when I hear that blacks are divided in their decision between Obama & Clinton. So when I received this in an email, and although I did not write this piece below, I was compelled to share it...enjoy! When Black is Enough Please, make me a believer! I must confess, I feel that in being a Barack Obama supporter I have missed something or as the media portrays…I have missed everything the Clinton's have done for me, a black woman in America. Since I am truly a socialite at heart who hates to miss an event, let alone a decade of the African-American migration to a better life; please can someone?...Anyone? Tell me what exactly the Clinton's have done for black people that has made our loyalty so steadfast and unwavering! Or a...

Have you thought about how your relationship with your father has affected your current relationships with men? Are you seeking a father figure, someone to mold you and show you that they love you through patience and guidance? Or rather a bad boy that leads (in your mind) an exciting and exhilerating life---a risk taker that leaves you breathless with excitement? Maybe your safe, and because money was tight growing up you seek a man that can offer you the security and stability that you need knowing that although he may not be what you want emotionally, he is what you need to give you that sense of security. Have you wondered why you interact with men the way in which you do? Do you ever reflect on how your current relationships with men is a direct reflection of your relationship with your father? These questions have been floating in my head for quie some time as I reflect on how my relationship with my own father affects my relationships with men. I have a fantastic and loving rela...

First off I want to say, this is the second time I had to write this because my PC phucked up, so it isn't flowing as good as the first one, but you get the meaning...sorry to those that may think this random or whatever....but by now...I can't remember a phucking word of the first blog...do other bloggers get that...that they write something and two seconds later they can't remember what it is they said...well this blog is a result of that illness....SassyScribe "Women are just not cut out for one night stands and those that are, are whores," stated a young woman at one of my Grown & Sexy w/Sassy Discussions. "Women are not built like men and cannot go around having casual sex or one night stands." hmmm...here are my thoughts on this... First off, society does view a man(whore) differently than they do a women(whore)...men can have random casual sex with as many women as they choose, and no one says a word...men can have sex with a woman and feel ab...

I was having a conversation with a male friend of mine today and he asked me to go to his myspace blog and comment. Well I did that and to sum up his blog he discussed how women lie all the time...they lie about cheating, they lie about paternity in general they just lie...and here is how our IM convo went... TiredBlackMan: I just read your comment SassyScribe: and TiredBlackMan: and I must say... TiredBlackMan: YOU ARE THE ULTIMATE BAMA! TiredBlackMan: what the hell are trying to say? SassyScribe: LOL SassyScribe: what TiredBlackMan: yeesh TiredBlackMan: you made it personal SassyScribe: so TiredBlackMan: women lie in general SassyScribe: don't generalize bama SassyScribe: everyone lies in general SassyScribe: men lie all the time SassyScribe: its one of the reasons I stopped dating TiredBlackMan: and that old excuse that men do it isn't a valid excuse SassyScribe: all that do unto others is BS when men aren't honest from jump SassyScribe: its not an excuse its the truth T...

"You know what Sassy, I haven't sucked dyck in a year and it doesn't seem to phase my man at all. He goes down on me and I still don't reciprocate...but I am trying so hard not to go outside of my relationship to get the loving I need that I am at my wits end. I have created the atmosphere, I have created the ambiance, I dress up in provocative clothing, I am sexy and sultry and very seductive. He comes home and surprise I am dressed and waiting for him...and yet and still I can't get the loving I want, need, crave, and desire. I need to be phucked and until my man gives me the loving I need, he won't get the type of loving he wants! But I don't think its working, he isn't even asking me for it and although I don't think, feel, or believe that someone else is giving it to him, he isn't asking me to...how many times do I have to tell him what I want, how many ways do I have to show him what I need---I need help!" ...anonymous in Maryland 11-...

This was forwarded to me in an email and the author is from Black Voices whose screen name is CRAMMASTERS... ________________________________________________ Found this statement from a gentleman on Black Voices. I feel that a lot of what he has to say is very true (even if it hurts). Bottom line--if I sleep with a woman I don't know or care about SEX is NOT going to make me care. (I stopped doing that years ago) That kind of sex is like scratching an itch. Once a man scratches, he's through. He ain't sitting around thinking about that spot that itched or how good it felt scratching it. He's moving on with his life until that spot itches again and it don't matter which hand he scratches it with, just as long as he gets rid of the itch. Too many women PRETEND they can handle a sexual fling, but wind up getting caught up and wanting us to romance and wine and dine them and pretend we're having a "relationship" when it's NOTHING but a booty call. Come...

"Black women, especially American Black women are bitches and sluts and need to be used, and discarded like the trash they are." That statement was said to me, the gentlemen will remain nameless as I do not wish to promote his website or his radio show, however, I had to share this conversation. When he asked me about the premise of my radio show, I explained to him that the mission of SassyScribe Media Entertainment and Sassy Entertainment Radio "Is to empower women with the understanding that they have to be accountable for their actions, and that there is more to them than what lies between their legs, and unless or until they begin to demand respect from men, they will continue to be disrespected in thought, word, and deed." At which point he stated, "It's fat and fugly bitches like you that make it hard for me to teach brothers how to fuck women without giving up a damn dime, dinner, or anything. That a woman can be phucked within three dates and if no...