This posting stemmed from a discussion about a man who spent a beautiful weekend with his wife and just the way in which he described the weekend prompted the women on the board to state how lucky his wife is to have a loving, caring, and attentive brother such as GRUMPY...it was so on point, that I asked him if I could post it on my blogs...and his response was "if it helps one woman to make the right decision, then hell yeah, post on!"
Here is his response for women...please take heed...
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I would say to the women who claim they want that:
WHAT ARE YOU DOING TO ACHIEVE THAT?
Meaning, what kind of man are you dealing with? Under what circumstances are you with him? If it's because he's all you think you can get or because he's the baby daddy or because he's brainwashed you into thinking that 'ain't nobody else gonna want you' or anything like that, then you won't get that.
Women are like a dealer in a card game; they have the advantage...But most either use that to get over or don't use it to get out of a bad situation. And let's face it, some women ain't willing to spend time getting to really know a man BEFORE they're either head over hills or he's a baby daddy. Too many want a fantasy and are so damn scared of being disappointed or having the fantasy 'broken', they turn a deaf ear and blind eye to even the most obvious bullshit.
So I have to disagree with that 'most women want that' statement; most women don't know what the hell they want til they see someone else with it.
To me, most women want to either join the 'Bitter Bitches Club' where they sit around complaining about a man THEY CHOSE or 'I'll take your man Club' where they only deal with 'attached' men.
Women sometimes want all the fluff and none of the substance because substance takes time; a woman who isn't willing to spend the time developing FRIENDSHIPS with men will never truly learn who a man is. You will only learn who a man wants you to THINK he is. Fucking is not a motivating factor in telling the truth...stop engaging in that too soon.
Some of ya'll give your heart and mind and booty to a man who doesn't deserve it, then want to bitch and moan about it. And most will give umpteen chances to fuckups but will quickly dismiss a man who doesn't meet the 'criteria'. Some of ya'll even dog a man before you get to know him but defend the fuckups and make all kinds of excuses for them.
Seems like I've said s**t like this before plenty of times on this board, but women, you can't f**k or suck or gameplay or nag or browbeat your way into a good relationship. That just doesn't happen. You also can't play with your words with men; say what you mean and mean what the f**k you say...anything else tells him that he can play games with you and no man respects that.
He can like you later; he must respect you NOW. And that's on you...
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Guest Blogger - Grumpy
Here is his response for women...please take heed...
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I would say to the women who claim they want that:
WHAT ARE YOU DOING TO ACHIEVE THAT?
Meaning, what kind of man are you dealing with? Under what circumstances are you with him? If it's because he's all you think you can get or because he's the baby daddy or because he's brainwashed you into thinking that 'ain't nobody else gonna want you' or anything like that, then you won't get that.
Women are like a dealer in a card game; they have the advantage...But most either use that to get over or don't use it to get out of a bad situation. And let's face it, some women ain't willing to spend time getting to really know a man BEFORE they're either head over hills or he's a baby daddy. Too many want a fantasy and are so damn scared of being disappointed or having the fantasy 'broken', they turn a deaf ear and blind eye to even the most obvious bullshit.
So I have to disagree with that 'most women want that' statement; most women don't know what the hell they want til they see someone else with it.
To me, most women want to either join the 'Bitter Bitches Club' where they sit around complaining about a man THEY CHOSE or 'I'll take your man Club' where they only deal with 'attached' men.
Women sometimes want all the fluff and none of the substance because substance takes time; a woman who isn't willing to spend the time developing FRIENDSHIPS with men will never truly learn who a man is. You will only learn who a man wants you to THINK he is. Fucking is not a motivating factor in telling the truth...stop engaging in that too soon.
Some of ya'll give your heart and mind and booty to a man who doesn't deserve it, then want to bitch and moan about it. And most will give umpteen chances to fuckups but will quickly dismiss a man who doesn't meet the 'criteria'. Some of ya'll even dog a man before you get to know him but defend the fuckups and make all kinds of excuses for them.
Seems like I've said s**t like this before plenty of times on this board, but women, you can't f**k or suck or gameplay or nag or browbeat your way into a good relationship. That just doesn't happen. You also can't play with your words with men; say what you mean and mean what the f**k you say...anything else tells him that he can play games with you and no man respects that.
He can like you later; he must respect you NOW. And that's on you...
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Guest Blogger - Grumpy
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