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Why Did You Get Married

Would you marry someone because you wanted kids? Why would you marry or settle for someone that you didn't love? Is it that you are/were tired of looking and searching and you settled for the first bus smoking? Were you that lonely that you took whatever, whenever, however, from whomever?

I ask because I know of so many people that are married and so very soon after the marriage they begin to stray. Look for other avenues of release OR the killer is that they never let their side piece go and went into the marriage just plain wrong!

I see a level of pervasiveness that appears to be accepted among society. Its like they know from jump that this may be their last or only chance so they jump. They leap before they truly look and now they are stuck...and they ask themselves, "why did I marry him/her?" Its too late for that (women) wanted that damn day that is supposedly our right in life! A huge fancy ass wedding that you will be paying for like a damn stud…

Wasted Time

How long does a person need to know whether or not you are going to fit into their life? Their future?

Maybe its the extremest in me...I wasted 15 years of my life with a man that I knew with every fiber of my being that he wasn't responsible enough for me to marry or have children with. Don't get me wrong, I loved him, oh how I loved that man, through his lack of employment, his habit forming vices, his carelessness for preparing for his/our future...but I was a mere child of 17 when we got together, and I was 32 when I left. That was my entire youth gone! Time gone!!!
My eyes eventually opened and my mind said "its time to go". I know now that I stayed because I knew he wasn't responsible and that he would not take care of himself without me. I knew that he needed money for food, clothes, rent, water, etc...

Its been 6 years since I left him and I absolutely refuse to waste my time on anyone anymore. Sure, we can go out to the movies, dinner, dancing, and drinks..…


Are you an uninhibited lover, where anything goes and I'll try anything once type of lover...or are you more reserved, not really open to new and different things. Is an uninhibited person scarey to you? Do you consider them freaks? What constitutes a freak? Is there a limit to your freakiness...I mean I know I've asked this question a thousand times before, but I want to there a limit to your freakiness?

Is there anything that you just flat out won't do? Threesomes...Exhibitionism...S & M...Bondage (light bondage) is it that you can't see yourself doing? What is that you can't wait to do or try with someone, hell with yourself...Come on yall...stop playing and be real. We are all adults and when we try to sit back and act like we haven't done this, that or the other, we are lying.

Yes, I keep bringing this up, because folks keep lying. Don't lie to me...admit that you're a freak...hell everyone has a different definition as to…

Sexing The Ex

Have you ever thought about sexing your ex(es)? I mean when you sit and think about how they made you they touched you just they tasted you just right. How their body stroked, caressed, licked, hmmmm...just the way they used to----hmmmm! They new all of the spots to hit and found new ones that you didn't know existed. I mean they took their time to ensure that your loving was good. It was slow at times, lazy type of love...sometimes it was that frenzied type of love---hot monkey sex type!

Have you ever thought about sleeping with an ex again? For those of you that haven't, would you? Nothing permanent, something that you needed just for old times know nostalgia. LOL

I mean it is like Dave Hollister says in his song One Woman Man "...seeing you reminds me of, all the nights I used to beat it up..." remember he she used to make your toes curl, and you screamed out...damn! Fellas yall aren't exempt, there have been some l…

Thanksgiving Blessings

At the eve of my 39th Thanksgiving, I have to pause and give thanks for my many, many blessings.

I am so very blessed to have been born and raised in a loving home with two parents, one brother, and three sisters. They loved me and always encouraged me to be the best at whatever it is I choose to do. I am blessed in the love, caring, and support that they have given me through all of my trials, tribulations, joys, and sorrows.

I have to add to that the love and support that I get from my extended family, not to mention my true true friends.

I want to take this time to thank you all for being there for me! I know that at times I can be rude, brisk, tactless, moody, angry, bitchy, irate, irritable, and at times obnoxious and intolerable, and yet you all continue to love me. You don't hesitate to put me in my place when I become "more than the average human" can bare.

To the readers of my books and the blogs, thank you for reading the my daily ramblings! I really appreciate it!

If I Ask Nicely...

I was sitting here and my mind went to sex, and I have to try this out...

If I ask nicely, will you undress me slowly, peeling my clothing from me inch by seductive inch, exposing my coffee colored body to your lustful eyes.
If I ask nicely, will your your mouth covet my neck with your sighs, will your lips suck my dusky brown tipped nipples? I can't wait to feel his tongue in and on my body
Hmmm, I'm wondering...
If I ask nicely, will you trace your tongue around my navel, slowly moving downward to my clit, lapping at my juices that are flowing from my body?
If I asked nicely, would you tie me up and make me your slave? Please say yes daddy...just for the night?
I asked nicely, would you phuck me in every orifice allowed my man and some that aren't?
If I asked nicely, would you climb upon my sweat slickened body and slowly insert yourself inside me? Would you thrust long and hard, slow and deep, fast and short?
If I asked nicely, would you grind into my body slowly, and deeply t…

What Happens When...

What happens when a woman takes herself in hand and just stops phucking...? She just stop slams off the head, the azz, the puzzy, every orifice on her body is closed...what happens?

What happens when she is dating? Does she continue to date? Will he continue to call her? Nawww...I'm afraid not ladies...I think when you shut the body off, not only do you find yourself and your worth...but you also find out who likes you. If a man says, "If you ain't phucking, I'm ducking." Then you know whats up...don't get mad or upset, just smile and keep it moving. Yeah, I know that statement is a little crass...but such is life...

Puzzy to men is like money to women...its a necessity and a hot commodity...a friend just told me...and he went on to state:

It is hard for a man to understand the inner surface of a woman, or her worth, because he always sees the outer surface first. And since we are so simple and shallow, it takes time for the inner surface to register in our thic…

Simply Not Good Enough

A woman said to me that she didn't feel like she was good enough to "snag" a man. I looked at her stunned and thought Hmmm...what exactly is good enough?

Is her education not good enough? Her financial situation? Her looks? Her Weight? What? I mean there are more and more women living the single life, some by choice, circumstance, some just haven't learned to know themselves well enough to get a special someone.

But this puzzled me, because I hear all the time men and women say that she is a fantastic girl, but, or he is a great guy, but. BUT WHAT? What is it that everyone is on this fantastic search for in a person. As I write this I get angrier and angrier because I can hear folks saying that they want someone but they don't know what it is they want. What the piss is that? Or they say I know what he/she looks like, smell like, feel like, taste like, yet everyone the meet doesn't look right, or feel right, or smell right, or taste right...etc, etc, etc...


The EX Factor

Is it possible to remain friends with your ex?

I wondered about this question, because although I hear people saying that they would have no problem remaining friendly with an ex, my question is why?

If you don't have any financial ties with each other or children, I find it rather odd to just be friends with an ex. Maybe its me and my issues of letting things go, but when I'm done, I'm done. I don't need daily conversation with you via email, phone, or text messages, nor do I need updates on you and your life from family and friends. When its over its is called a break up for a reason is it not?!?!?!?

If your ex is around and/or constantly in your ear/face can you move forward with another person? Is it possible that it may make moving forward harder because you don't want to hurt the feelings of your ex (feelings should already be hurt, because you broke up)? Is it possible that maybe the ex is thinking that you have left open the doors of communication an…

A Soulful Relationship

This was sent to me...the author is unknown...

If you're not married yet, share this with a friend. If you are married, share it with your spouse or other married couples and reflect on it.

An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye."

Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem, make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really important.

Once you decide to commit to someone, over time his or her flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious.

If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you've got to learn to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you.

You and your mate have many different expectations, emoti…

Torn Between Friends

Have you ever been torn between one of more individuals? Is it truly possible to love more than one person at the same time...?

I have a friend that is currently torn between three men...all of the men are successful in their respective careers, and they have great personalities and are terrific fathers.

Her dilimma is that the first man, she knows deep within in her heart that he will never give her the relationship nor the love that she wants from him. At times he can be cynical when it comes to women, and gives the belief that so long as a woman is sexing him, whomever else she is with isn't an issue for him. Also believes in threesomes..etc..BTW, they talk daily...

The second man she's known a little over four years and is considerate, funny, and successful, but she says for some reason he continues to hold himself back from her. Oh yeah, they talk everyday...

The third man she met in April of this year. He too is great, a fantastic, kind, considerate lover, and a loving and c…

Low Maintenance Women

Are the women of today low maintenance?

A comment was made on a radio show this morning that the women of today are low maintenance. That all they require of a man is for them to get their manicures, pedicures, and hair neatly coiffed and maybe a pair of Reebok's.

I laughed, but when you look at the way some people are, that is all that they require. See I think that women aren't demanding men to court them, date them and/or treat them as ladies should be treated. It is in my opinion that some women, have hardened themselves and their hearts because of the expectations that they are faced to live up to. I have heard that some women act as men, but in the end, that woman who has as much if not more game than the man, goes home lonely and alone, because of that outer shell she felt she had to show.

I think that women must first know themselves, before they can allow anyone on any level in their life. Be it a man or a woman, they need to know what first means to be a persons friend,…

Dinner = Sex????

If a man buys me dinner/brunch/supper, am I required to dance the sheet tango? Do they think that I do not respect myself to the point that I am willing to give of myself for a $50 meal? Or is it that they see the women of today as low maintenance? Or is that women are not requiring the men in their lives to respect them?

Its sad to think that in this day and age, we are still of the mindset that a meal equates to an automatic phuck! As forward thinking as I want to believe that WE, as men and women have come, I am still of the belief and mindset that if a woman sleeps with a man on the first date, he is not going to respect her. Let me rephrase that, some men MAY, I say may be able to see past her "eagerness" or "willingness" to sleep with him as two people caught up in the moment, but some wont. They will see her as a loose woman that probably sleeps with everyone.

I remember a friend saying to me, "that when a man hears a woman say "I don't usually d…

I Love You

I love you.

What do those 3 words mean to you?

To me it means, that someone is there for me, through the trials, tribulations, and exciting jubilant moments of my life. It doesn't have to be a soul mate, or a person of the opposite sex, it is a person that genuinely means they love you, and they know that you are human with faults and they accept the person that you are. They do not try to shape and mold you into the person they want you to become. Thats what "I love you" means to me...

Often we will find people that don't know what it means. They throw the word around willy nilly to any and everyone that comes into their life, but they don't really mean it...what they mean is that they love them, with conditions. Ahhh another question...

Is love conditional? Or are their stipulations to your love?

While the love of your children is unconditional, I have been told that people love conditionally, I love you, but you need to loose weight. I love you, but you need to fin…

For Love or Money

I had a conversation with a friend and we got on the topic of love and money. As I tend to due, I romantize love and life, and sometimes relationships, but when they said to me that they would rather have money over love anyday, and that should they deem it necessary to have a mate, then that can be bought.

Basically, this friend said that they'd have no problem having a companion in their live that knew they only wanted them for their money. They said that it alleviates alot of unnecessary drama of feelings, rather in a sense, they have hired that persons affection, attention, and in some cases their loyalty.

I don't know, maybe its me, maybe its my age, or the fact that I am a romantic, but all you ever have in life is your integrity and love. Money comes and goes, but love is something that can, if tilled & cultivated right, can last a lifetime. We can fall in and out of love with a number people, if we are lucky throughtout our lifetime, but to not have that feeling- to …

Gripe Session

I am so tired of listening to women talking about how much they love their man, but he has cheated on me, or they found women's phone numbers, or he doesn't answer his cell phone, or yada...yada...yada...!

Dammit...get a phucking life! Why do you continue to bitch, moan, and groan about he ain't ________________ (please fill in the blank). Women know within their hearts the type of man that they are dealing with. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to tell you that he isn't the man for you. It doesn't take your friends or your family...all it takes is you!

I remember having a conversation with a married friend of mine and she told me that her husband didn't answer her calls after 10pm. WTF is that! I was appalled to hear her come out of her mouth with this...granted their marriage is strife with issues, not the least of which he is cheating AND SHE KNOWS IT. But to tell big mouth me, that he isn't answering your calls...just not the thing to do. Because I …

Emotionally Tied

Do you think that women are more often than not emotionally tied to a man that they sleep with? I thought about this alot and I had to relate it to my own life. Was I always emotionally tied to the man...hmmmm.

I know that I have to find a certain quality and/or aspect about him- a sense of humor, good looking, educated, sexy, tall, responsible, etc...but they aren't necessarily emotional ties. As hard as it is for some folks to believe, women can sleep with a man without any emotions involved. Its an act of routine maintenance. BUT for some women there feelings are already involved if they sleep with a man and by then its too late. They can't go back to him and say "give me my pussy back", they chock it up as a loss and move on to the next man.

Is this a cyclical situation? Are we (women) at the dawn of 2007 still equating sex with love?

I want to hear from the men...what do yall think...are women emotionally tied before it gets physical?