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Truth About Black Men...Written by a Black Man...

This was forwarded to me in an email and the author is from Black Voices whose screen name is CRAMMASTERS...
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Found this statement from a gentleman on Black Voices. I feel that a lot of what he has to say is very true (even if it hurts).

Bottom line--if I sleep with a woman I don't know or care about SEX is NOT going to make me care. (I stopped doing that years ago) That kind of sex is like scratching an itch. Once a man scratches, he's through. He ain't sitting around thinking about that spot that itched or how good it felt scratching it. He's moving on with his life until that spot itches again and it don't matter which hand he scratches it with, just as long as he gets rid of the itch.

Too many women PRETEND they can handle a sexual fling, but wind up getting caught up and wanting us to romance and wine and dine them and pretend we're having a "relationship" when it's NOTHING but a booty call. Come …

God Gave Up On Us...

How many single, eligible women feel that God has given up on them because He hasn’t sent a person into their lives or they believe He has sent the wrong person into their lives.

In Tyler Perry’s movie WHY DID I GET MARRIED, Jill Scott’s character made this statement. We all know that Jill is a plus size woman, but for the movie she had to put on a “fat” suit to give her body more girth, which was understandable in the end. She felt that God had placed her in a marriage with a man that didn’t love her, didn’t like her, didn’t desire her, and just didn’t want her anymore. When he was done, he discarded her like a piece of trash, taking with it her self worth, her self esteem, self love, and self respect. His negative words ripped through her soul and tore through what little bit of her there was left. And then along came THE SHERIFF, who saw this woman for the beautiful, kind and loving person that she was, regardless of her size. However, through all that she went through, she was able…

Dating & Skin Hunger

When did dating become so complicated?
Why is it that its okay for a man to be choosey and picky with his choice of mate/companion, yet not okay for a woman?

Why is it okay for men to ask "why are you single", yet don't want the same asked of them?

Why is it that I am so tired of answering questions like this, that it is amazing...there is so much bullshyt going on now in the dating world to the point that its just crazy...bottom line is...men and women don't know what in the hell it is they want...lets cut out the physical, because I would be lying if I said I didn't want/desire good looking men, but everything that looks good isn't always good for you...isn't that what Momma told you???

On paper folks sound really good, I mean its like "jack pot" and then you get to know this psycho skitzo nut job and you wonder what in the hell happened!

How many of us have gotten caught up with some new shyt and then find out that after you knock the dust off the…

Black Women Are Bitches & Sluts

"Black women, especially American Black women are bitches and sluts and need to be used, and discarded like the trash they are."

That statement was said to me, the gentlemen will remain nameless as I do not wish to promote his website or his radio show, however, I had to share this conversation. When he asked me about the premise of my radio show, I explained to him that the mission of SassyScribe Media Entertainment and Sassy Entertainment Radio "Is to empower women with the understanding that they have to be accountable for their actions, and that there is more to them than what lies between their legs, and unless or until they begin to demand respect from men, they will continue to be disrespected in thought, word, and deed." At which point he stated, "It's fat and fugly bitches like you that make it hard for me to teach brothers how to fuck women without giving up a damn dime, dinner, or anything. That a woman can be phucked within three dates and if no…

How Important is the Kiss...???

How important is the kiss...I've talked to alot of people and they (IMO lied) when they said that kissing isn't important to them...is it me...but do you really want to talk to and spend time with a person that you just don't want to kiss...

There are so many types of kisses...we have the peck, the french kiss, the wett kiss, the vaccuum kiss...but I am talking about the french kiss...those long, slow, deep, hot and wet kisses...the kind of kiss you got before you became intimate with a person... The kind of kiss that reaches deep into your soul and pulls out everything hidden inside of you...all hopes, desires, wishes, and dreams...all wrapped up in one, hot, moist, tongue dueling, mind blowing, earth shattering K I S S...

Damn...its been a minutes...not everyong can kiss...not like that...with passion so drugging that you just cave in and give yourself up for whatever, whenever, however, whereever...that kind of kiss.

IMO Kissing is a very important aspect of dating, relati…

Just In Case

Thinking about past relationships...I keep coming back to a "just in case" clause...we all have had them, you know the ones, "lets just be friends" after you have been together for a minute, a little more than friends, but nothing quite solid...this means they have met another person, and want to test the waters, but "just in case" it doesn't work out, they can try and come back to you...or this is another good one, its not you its me...another JIC clause, again testing the waters to see what works, but old trusty is right there as the fallback guy/girl...

To hell with "just in case" its holding on to something that just isn't meant to be...I mean is it safe to say, that when we continue, these sorts of behaviors or a pattern of having sex with one or more of our exes or past "friends" as the term is fondly called now...are we setting ourselves up to fail for future happiness or relationships? If we continue to hold on to past r…

Love, Lust, & Redemption

Saturday, September 29th I sat on a relationship panel at the Baltimore Book Festival, , it was called LOVE, LUST, & REDEMPTION, and myself, along with fellow authors Tariiq Omari Walton and Kenda Bell, discussed the current state of affairs between men and women.

I spoke on women and accountability, and how we are the gatekeepers to our hearts, minds, and body. I spoke on being responsible for your actions, and to command and demand respect, not just from men, but from everyone that you allow into the inner circle of your life. Tariiq spoke about Love vs Lust and how the to are different aspects of relationships...and Kenda touched on redemption...but all three of us agreed that the current state of affairs between men and women is sad.

Men and women truly want to get together and be companion's, lovers, and friends to one another, yet there seems to be so many barriers and stipulations hindering us from coming together.

A friend recently told me that they wouldn't want to b…

The Law of the Garbage Truck

I received this in an email today. It has some humor, but the end of the email speaks volumes...

The Law of the Garbage Truck - author uknown

How often do you let other people's nonsense change your mood? Do you let a bad driver, rude waiter, curt boss, or an insensitive employee ruin your day? Unless you're the Terminator, for an instant you're probably set back on your heels. However, the mark of a successful person is how quickly they can get back their focus on what's important.

Sixteen years ago I learned this lesson. I learned it in the back of a New York City taxi cab. Here's what happened. I hopped in a taxi, and we took off for Grand Central Station. We were driving in the right lane when, all of a sudden, a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his breaks, skidded, and missed the other car's back end by just inches! The driver of the other car, the guy who almost caused a big accident, whipped his…