Thinking about past relationships...I keep coming back to a "just in case" clause...we all have had them, you know the ones, "lets just be friends" after you have been together for a minute, a little more than friends, but nothing quite solid...this means they have met another person, and want to test the waters, but "just in case" it doesn't work out, they can try and come back to you...or this is another good one, its not you its me...another JIC clause, again testing the waters to see what works, but old trusty is right there as the fallback guy/girl...
To hell with "just in case" its holding on to something that just isn't meant to be...I mean is it safe to say, that when we continue, these sorts of behaviors or a pattern of having sex with one or more of our exes or past "friends" as the term is fondly called now...are we setting ourselves up to fail for future happiness or relationships? If we continue to hold on to past relationships, will it not affect our future ones?
Some people have a hard time of letting things go...and it becomes even harder when we continue to allow past relationships to interfere with new/budding romances. How can you truly give of yourself to another, when we continue to hold on that past? Rather than closing the door fully on that relationship (i.e. no communication, calls, text, emails---nada) folks generally maintain some form of loose contact "just in case" its like a clause of doom. Why not completely let go of the past, especially if you feel that the person currently in your life is worth the risk?
So what's up people...why not remove yourself completely from that person -NO you can't be friends, especially if it was a one sided relationship regarding feelings...besides its not really fair is it, knowing that someone loves you and you know you can't ever love them back, so rather than leave them alone...you leave the door slightly open...Just In Case...
SassyScribe
To hell with "just in case" its holding on to something that just isn't meant to be...I mean is it safe to say, that when we continue, these sorts of behaviors or a pattern of having sex with one or more of our exes or past "friends" as the term is fondly called now...are we setting ourselves up to fail for future happiness or relationships? If we continue to hold on to past relationships, will it not affect our future ones?
Some people have a hard time of letting things go...and it becomes even harder when we continue to allow past relationships to interfere with new/budding romances. How can you truly give of yourself to another, when we continue to hold on that past? Rather than closing the door fully on that relationship (i.e. no communication, calls, text, emails---nada) folks generally maintain some form of loose contact "just in case" its like a clause of doom. Why not completely let go of the past, especially if you feel that the person currently in your life is worth the risk?
So what's up people...why not remove yourself completely from that person -NO you can't be friends, especially if it was a one sided relationship regarding feelings...besides its not really fair is it, knowing that someone loves you and you know you can't ever love them back, so rather than leave them alone...you leave the door slightly open...Just In Case...
SassyScribe
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