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The girls and I were sitting around talking and as always the conversation turned to men and sex. Its no secret to anyone that knows me how the topic of men and sex motivate me to say, know, learn, and do A LOT!

Well the question is this -Does monogomy exist?

My girls {two of which are married} stated no, and of course the three single ladies said no, yes, and maybe. The point is, with five such differing opinions, I felt the need to write about it.

I was one of them that said no. I mean as sad as it sounds, I think it takes a very special person to not succumb to the pleasures of the flesh and the myriad temptations awaiting us in our daily lives. You know what I'm talking about. Ladies, how many of you have a sexy co-worker, a fine azz vendor, or smoking "friend" that you've yet to cross that line with, but given the chance, I mean the slightest and/or mereist hint and ITS ON! The men I'm sure are faced with this question all of the time. I mean hell, isn't no…

Rosa Parks- Civil Rights Pioneer

Civil Rights Pioneer Rosa Parks passed away from natural causes on the eve of Monday, October 25, 2005. She was 92.

This news hit me quietly as I watched the evening news. I immediately signed onto the internet to review and re-familiarize myself with Ms. Parks and her actions that marked the rise of the beginning of the Civil Rights Movement.

As I read of her "defiance" and "out right refusal" to relinquish her seat on a bus that fateful day in Montgomery, Alabama , over fifty years ago, in 1955, I recognized the courage it called for her to do so. This tired department store worker's feet were hurting and her body was tired. She refused, along with two other blacks to move from their seats so that ONE white man could sit down. History states, that she had had problems with the same bus driver before, so when she refused to give up her seat , he stated "I'll have you arrested". Ms. Parks response was, "You may go on and so." Thus, her act…


Over the past few years, I've been hearing a lot about swinging and swing clubs, and freaking, and At one time in my life {when I was young and dumb}, I believed that swinging was a society of individuals heavily populated by white people. However, as I have found out recently, there is a large concentration of this alternative lifestyle amongst African Americans.

In the DC Metro area I have found this to be exceptionally true. With locations in and around Prince Georges and Montgomery Counties, these individuals indulge themselves in hedonistic and sybaritic pleasures of sight, taste, feel, smell, and sound!

The more the I researched and delved into the innerworkings of this society, the more intrigued I became. I have always had an interest in attending one. I'm told by friends that indulge themselves in this activity, that one may attend, without participating. GREAT! I would like to go and see how this "secret society" of grown and sexy {not} folks …

Soulmate or Just Digging 'Em

How do you know when you've found your soulmate? Is there an earth shattering moment within your soul that speaks to another? Is there a moment where you just know, what you know, what you know? Does your heart palipate and your palms grow sweaty? Do you suffer from a loss of appetite? Are the last two signs of love or signs of having found that one person who is the other half to your soul.

I ask these questions, because I want to know. How will I know when I've met my soulmate. Or have I met him already...and sadly lost him? How do you know? How will I know?

What does a soulmate mean to you?

My definition of a soulmate is a person who not necessarily completes you, but he/she will make you at peace with yourself. Meaning your automatically comfortable around this person. You'll feel no need to be on your best behavior because it will be a perfect "fit". You can be yourself utterly and completely. It is my hope that when I/if I do meet him, I will recognize him and…

True Sexual Identity

Okay, here is an email that I thought was interesting. See if it applies to you........mine was ALMOST right!

It seems to run true!!! According to studies, your sexual identity is revealed by the First letter of your First name...what do you think? (Those of you with names that start with "N" will probably wish it started with "K"!)

-A- You are not particularly romantic, but you are interested in action. You mean business. With you, what you see is what you get. You have no patience for flirting and can't be bothered with someone who is trying to be coy, cute, demure, and subtly enticing. You are an up front person. When it comes to sex, it's action that counts not obscure hints. Your mate's physical attractiveness is important to you. You find the chase and challenge of the "hunt" invigorating. You are passionate and sexual as well as being much more adventurous than you appear; however, you do not go around advertising these qualities. Your …

Should We Question...

Should we question future lovers in reference to their past and/or present sexual history?

Michael Baisden asked this question on his radio show {10-11-05}. He stated that over the weekend he had asked a woman how many current or past lovers she had and she became irate, telling him that that question was inappropriate for a first date. He said that it wasn't. Personally, I feel that it was.

Why would I divulge such information on a first date? I/we may find out that we don't really like on another. We both know immediately upon sight how far the relationship will/will not go. Myself, I know within minutes of meeting a man whether or not I would sleep with him. I can tell that from phone conversations. Some voices turn me on, others turn me to a friend...

This topic prompted an indepth discussion amongst my friends. As women, all in our late thirties, we sat down and began to make a list {yes a list} of the lovers that we had...having become sexually active in our teens, the list…

Happily Single

Michael Baisden "dubbed the baddest man on the box" has created a grown and sexy environment for those individuals that are single..."Happily Single".

I joined this group, because out of all of my years of whining about not having a man, I am at that point in my life, where having a man is not the high priority on MY list, that it used to be. What is the high priority is that I ENJOY my life to the fullest as it stands. That means I have to get out of my comfort zone, begin to enjoy, travel, and do things on my own, without my ace, my girl, my best friend by my side. {she is one of the lucky ones to be happily MARRIED}.

Now having said that, I ventured into a new world over the weekend...a world where Happily Single individuals bask in their singleness... This past weekend opened up my eyes to the true world of internet connections and partying.

I found myself traveling to Woodbridge, VA, to the host site of the weekends events. I was expecting an estrogen party to th…