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Knowing What You Know Now...??

Knowing what you know today, would you have had your children with the same person(s)?
Its funny how children seem to change a relationship, and I wonder if we had chosen our co-procreators better then what would the end result have been?

This thought has been marinating in my mind as I sit back and watch the things people say and how they interact with their children(s) parent(s). I detest the term "baby daddy" or "baby momma", I prefer the word parent.

See, I think people are overwhelmed by the feelings of lust, and therefore forgo all precautions. It may not have been intentional, but the end result is a child, and children are blessings, unfortunately, not everyone is prepared for and/or capable of accepting their blessing(s).

We see/hear daily how women use children as weapons of evil against the "man that did them wrong" when they didn't check to see that their "man" already had two children prior to theirs that he wasn't doing right b…

Throwing A Successful Party

I have been to several parties over the years, but just recently I got invited to a couple of parties and they were dry, dull, and boring. The host & hostess couldn't wait for me and my sisters arrival to make their party a real party. I looked at them funny, and they said "you girls know how to throw a party, we don't" and yet they keep having them. Anyway, I told them it wasn't that they didn't know how to throw a party, its the people they invite.

I'm sorry, but there are too many folks that are my age who think that just because your married with kids you no longer are able to have fun. That is so not the order to throw a successful party there are several key elements that one must do, that is absolutely necessary to having the bombest of parties.

Before everyone blasts me, unless its a BBQ or something to that effect...I feel that all adult parties are just that...for the adults. Therefore, if you have teenage children, make plans to hav…

Stop Tripping...

Man stop tripping! I am sick and tired of talking to men/women who are tripping out over a simple piece of ass!

When you decide to have a strictly sexual relationship with a person, don't get mad or upset when all you get from them is sex. A strictly sexual relationship in my opinion is one that consists of well, sex! You meet, you may exchange a few pleasantries, and then you commence to phucking.

The rules of engagement must be explict prior to engaging in this form of relationship. That means a clear and concise understanding of the rules. In order for this relationship of just sex to last, there can be no gray stone should be left unturned. You will discuss the number of times you will meet, and also whether or not you will be engaging in various types of sexual pleasures.

Unfortunately, I find that even men and women can get confused and allow things to occur that shouldn't, so I have compiled a list of do's and dont's.

Do Practice Safe Sex - condoms/den…

What Is Freaky To You?

The last blog about black women not being as freaky as women of other races has prompted numerous responses directly to me and the vote is split. Half of the brothers are saying that it is absolutely correct that black women aren't as freaky for fear of being called a "freak". The other half of the men are saying that that was one brothers excuse for his preference in dating women of other races AND that they have had wonderfully freaky experiences with numerous sisters.

They did have one caveat attached to the latter statement, and that is that the women trusted them to let it all hang out and that they (the men) were able to pull that freak out of her.
It seems from the responses that some men love it when women will allow them to "have their way with them" from jump! I mean what is more of an aphrodisiac than control! But the extreme to me is not so much as having a one night stand, that seems to de riguer today, but to have a one nite stand and allow him to h…

Black Women Aren't Freaky...WTF???

Is it true that Black Women aren't as freaky as women of other races?

A situation occured this weekend where a gentlemen said he preferred women of other races because they are more open sexually than Black women! For me, that statement was like him throwing down the gauntlet!

How dare he make a blanket statement like that to say that black women aren't as open sexually! (You must not know about me...were my thoughts) What he really meant was that black women aren't as freaky as women of other races! Which is a gross generalization and just plain (IMO) F A L S E!

That man's preference for dating are women of other races...his statement was his excuse as to why he prefers them...bottom line is he likes to get his freak on...that is what he should've said and left it at that!

I can't speak for all women (regardless of race) but as a Black woman I am just as open sexually, just as freaky as women of other races...the issue is that I am not open and as freaky with ever…

Valentine's Jedhi Mind Tricks of Men

After listening to Michael Baisden yesterday, it amazed me that women are still falling for the same ole tricks. With the advent of Valentine's Day upon us,I wanted to take this time to advise the ladies not to fall for the jedhi mind trick that some men will try to do.

I remember a cousin of mine saying that he always broke up with his women on Halloween and then picked up with them again after Valentine's day. I was appalled that the women didn't catch up on this, but his explanation was that he breaks it off with them on Halloween, he flies under their radar. It also enompasses Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years Eve, and Valentine's day...ergo he saved a ton of money by not having to purchase multiple gifts. It also freed up his time for other pursuits...basically women with little or no expectations from them...women already involved and unhappy...bottom line---women wanting SEX only.

I am a firm believer that when a person's habits and behavior begins to change,…

What Are You Bringing To The Table?

Every woman needs to read this! ____________________________________________________
In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question "What kind of man are you looking for?" She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye and asking Do you really want to know?" Reluctantly, he said "Yes."

She began to expound...

"As a woman in this day and age, I am in a position to ask a man what he can do for me that I can't do for myself. I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man...or woman for that matter. I am in the position to ask, "What can you bring to the table?"

The man looked at her.

Clearly he thought that she was referring to money.

She quickly corrected his thought and stated, "I am not referring to money. "I need something more. I need a man who is striving for perfection in every aspect of life."

He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, and asked her to explain.


A Woman's Right To Choose?

When will Roe v. Wade be put to rest? Is it a woman’s right to choose or is it the government’s right to tell a woman what she can and cannot do with or to her body? This is the question that many Mississippians will face as a bill has been set forth to deny a woman’s right to an abortion unless the pregnancy is a product of rape, incest, or threatens the woman’s life in anyway.

This law will catapult women into crossing state lines to obtain this procedure and/or the worst-case scenario will force them to back alley abortions as in the past. This will not only kill the fetus, but it will also kill and/or permanently harm or scar the mother.

I am an advocate for Pro Choice and, quite frankly this law scares the hell out of me! I am all for a woman making the decision as to whether or not to bring a child into this world. Yes, a child is a blessing from God, but we all have seen how unwanted children are mistreated by parents, family, and even those in the system that are supposedly prop…