I wonder how deep love truly is…you know it’s the end of the year and I have been reflecting on love, money, men, success, power, sex, relationships...just life in general. I have had money come to me and go…I have had success come to me in stages, and I have seen friends professional careers take off with a blast. But what I have noticed the most, what intrigues me the best is the inner workings of relationships…why are they together, what makes them tick…what keeps them together, and what will be the straw that breaks the camels back. I have watched couples come together in holy matrimony and I’ve seen couples torn apart by selfishness, jealousy, money woes, and infidelity. See, it’s the latter that I am focusing on…because I know of some older couples, and the men have been running women all of my life…just straight ole time womanizing men… and I think to myself, the women involved, their wives really took their vows seriously. And for some who have girlfriend status for more than ...

First off I want to say, this is the second time I had to write this because my PC phucked up, so it isn't flowing as good as the first one, but you get the meaning...sorry to those that may think this random or whatever....but by now...I can't remember a phucking word of the first blog...do other bloggers get that...that they write something and two seconds later they can't remember what it is they said...well this blog is a result of that illness....SassyScribe "Women are just not cut out for one night stands and those that are, are whores," stated a young woman at one of my Grown & Sexy w/Sassy Discussions. "Women are not built like men and cannot go around having casual sex or one night stands." hmmm...here are my thoughts on this... First off, society does view a man(whore) differently than they do a women(whore)...men can have random casual sex with as many women as they choose, and no one says a word...men can have sex with a woman and feel ab...

How many single, eligible women feel that God has given up on them because He hasn’t sent a person into their lives or they believe He has sent the wrong person into their lives. In Tyler Perry’s movie WHY DID I GET MARRIED, Jill Scott’s character made this statement. We all know that Jill is a plus size woman, but for the movie she had to put on a “fat” suit to give her body more girth, which was understandable in the end. She felt that God had placed her in a marriage with a man that didn’t love her, didn’t like her, didn’t desire her, and just didn’t want her anymore. When he was done, he discarded her like a piece of trash, taking with it her self worth, her self esteem, self love, and self respect. His negative words ripped through her soul and tore through what little bit of her there was left. And then along came THE SHERIFF, who saw this woman for the beautiful, kind and loving person that she was, regardless of her size. However, through all that she went through, she was able...

"Black women, especially American Black women are bitches and sluts and need to be used, and discarded like the trash they are." That statement was said to me, the gentlemen will remain nameless as I do not wish to promote his website or his radio show, however, I had to share this conversation. When he asked me about the premise of my radio show, I explained to him that the mission of SassyScribe Media Entertainment and Sassy Entertainment Radio "Is to empower women with the understanding that they have to be accountable for their actions, and that there is more to them than what lies between their legs, and unless or until they begin to demand respect from men, they will continue to be disrespected in thought, word, and deed." At which point he stated, "It's fat and fugly bitches like you that make it hard for me to teach brothers how to fuck women without giving up a damn dime, dinner, or anything. That a woman can be phucked within three dates and if no...

Saturday, September 29th I sat on a relationship panel at the Baltimore Book Festival, , it was called LOVE, LUST, & REDEMPTION, and myself, along with fellow authors Tariiq Omari Walton and Kenda Bell, discussed the current state of affairs between men and women. I spoke on women and accountability, and how we are the gatekeepers to our hearts, minds, and body. I spoke on being responsible for your actions, and to command and demand respect, not just from men, but from everyone that you allow into the inner circle of your life. Tariiq spoke about Love vs Lust and how the to are different aspects of relationships...and Kenda touched on redemption...but all three of us agreed that the current state of affairs between men and women is sad. Men and women truly want to get together and be companion's, lovers, and friends to one another, yet there seems to be so many barriers and stipulations hindering us from coming together. A friend recently told me that they wouldn't want to...

I have been pondering this recently...especially in the male/female realm. Is there a difference between being a friend and having a friend? Loving a friend and being in love with a friend, wanting a friend and needing a friend...I know that there are only a handful of people that I consider true friends and only one of them is a male the others are female...I know without a doubt that when I call they will answer...if I need them, they are there... I feel that friendships are interpersonal relationships of mutual affection, knowledge, and esteem. A friend is there for good times and bad times, with similar tastes and at times can show a loyalty, that for some may seem alturistic. In fact there is a value that should be placed on friendships...like the desire to see your friend do better...mutual understanding, and that straightforward honesty that you know only a true friend can and will say, even if at the time it hurts your feelings...but a true friend tells you the TRUTH out of lov...

I was dressing for work and this overwhelming feeling of devastation came over me…and the tears welled in my eyes and spilled over. I must’ve cried for an hour…until my face got puffy and my head ached…I cried all the way to work and off and on at my desk…as if that wasn’t bad enough, when I got home, I popped in THE BRIDGES OF MADISON COUNTY and cried again…if you haven’t seen this movie it is the ultimate in love and sacrifice… I believe that everyone should have a good cry it gets all of the stresses and toxins out of your system…crying is a catharsis that you have to actually have to understand what I am saying…but my cry stemmed from me loosing someone that I love, I cried for the time I lost…I cried for the love I gave…I cried for not being appreciate for the wonderful woman that I am…I cried because he doesn’t love me back…I cried because I know that moving on will be tough, but not impossible…I cried because I had made a commitment to meet some friends and I did not want to go,...

A reader asked me my thoughts on a toxic relationship...they asked not to post their letter, but to give my thoughts and to ask my readers what they think a toxic relationship is... -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- DO NOT MAKE SOMEONE A PRIORITY IN YOU ARE LIFE, WHEN ALL YOU ARE IS AN OPTION TO THEM… This is at the base of a toxic relationship or toxic love…no longer is it healthy for you when your every waking thought is about someone that has no thoughts of you. I’m not talking about basic thoughts of safety, I feel we all have that for those in our circle, but thoughts of your happiness, daily wellbeing, future hopes, dreams, a person that believes in you wholeheartedly…so that you know without a doubt---they got you! Its toxic when you know that that person isn’t feeling you and you feel that disconnect from you on all levels---mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. I’m not talking of a love from friend to friend for a fr...

What constitutes a good man? I can't begin to tell you how many times I have heard women say that "all the good ones are taken"...but what do they mean by that? Just today, I saw it online no less than ten times and in conversations with women as well....I mean what constitutes a good man? What are the mitagating deciding factors that make him good? Too often some people think that just because a man is married, makes him a good man...why, because he showed a committment to another woman? What makes a good woman? A phat ass? Bomb head? Money? Again, what are the factors that stipulate this is a "good woman"? Here's the thing, he may look like a good man to you, but you don't know what he may or may not be putting his significant other through...I say S.O. because I know more non married people that have been together for twenty odd years than married people. The Non Married or Living in Sin as the old folks say, seem to be more committment to a non comit...

Fellas...ladies are tired of bullshyt ass men...you know...fellas we understand, and recognize that sometimes we (women) are not completely honest at times when it comes to what they want and are looking for in a relationship. We understand that sometimes we tell you we don't want a relationship when deep down some of us are craving to be in a relationship so they can share their "my man" stories. Some want to be in a relationship, to stem off loniliness and the feeling of being an old maid or spinster, while others just want a regular sex parnter...not viable reasons to me, but to each his own...however, lets talk about the MEN. Alot of men aren't honest either, and at times it seems the only thing they are honest about is phucking, when can they phuck, if they can phuck, and will they phuck. Is she fine, is she phat, how good does she look...thats honesty...An old wives tale says that the first thing that comes out of a mans mouth is the lie, everything after that...

"How can you give relationship advice, when you aren't in a relationship yourself?" This is the question asked of me by a female friend...she said that my blogs and talk show are great, she really enjoys reading and listening to them, but she doesn't understand how I can give out advice when I am not a current participant in a relationship at the moment. I stated that Dr. Spock never had children but that didn't stop him for penning a best selling novel that was the model for how the baby boomers raised their children. This person is a near and dear friend, so when she said it, it hurt my feelings and made me wonder if this is what everyone thinks. Then I pulled myself up by my bootstraps and told her that I do this to help women NOT to make the same mistakes I did. Having been in situations that were dumb, where I was STUPID, and naive, and just so damn gullible and blinded by those rose colored lenses I wore, that I hope that other women will read and listen and...

I found this site and I think when a persons habits and behavior changes, for ME that is a sign that something is wrong and that the person's interest may lie elsewhere...these are some "trigger" phrases that makes me quiet, thoughtful, and watchful of all actions and words...but overall I watch the habits and behavior of the person, that tells on them quicker than anything 1. I got a run to make 2. I got business to take care of 3. Need time to sort things out 4. Going to be incommunicado for a while 5. Work is super busy But that's just me...this article list some other hints and also talks about cheating online- which myspace has been accused of wrecking plenty of relationships... ---------------------------------------------------------------- Written by Dating Guru http://dating-hints-tips.com/index.php/content/view/94/43/ “How do I tell if a guy is using me” is most probably the most common question I get asked on this site, the very first thing I think ...

Fellas...ladies are tired of bullshyt ass men...you know...fellas we understand, and recognize that sometimes we (women) are not completely honest at times when it comes to what they want and are looking for in a relationship. We understand that sometimes we tell you we don't want a relationship when deep down some of us are craving to be in a relationship so they can share their "my man" stories. Some want to be in a relationship, to stem off loniliness and the feeling of being an old maid or spinster, while others just want a regular sex parnter...not viable reasons to me, but to each his own...however, lets talk about the MEN. Alot of men aren't honest either, and at times it seems the only thing they are honest about is phucking, when can they phuck, if they can phuck, and will they phuck. Is she fine, is she phat, how good does she look...thats honesty...An old wives tale says that the first thing that comes out of a mans mouth is the lie, everything after that...

Its been said that...modern women don't cook...traditional women do...traditional men are gentlemen...modern men are dogs...traditional women knew their role and place, modern women continue to get out of pocket. Traditional women are supportive, uplifting, respectful, loving, and kind. Modern women are argumentative, lazy, potty mouth, and only seem to be willing to perform random acts of kindness if it will get them somewhere. Traditional men are gentlemen, knows how to treat a woman like a queen, and is the ultimate caring, supportive, responsible provider. Modern men don't care don't give a phuck about treating you like a lady they on are on a stick and move tip. (before you bitch and moan, I generalized because that is how the thoughts came to me...not all men and women are like that)... (((smile))) I have talked to alot of people and this argument will probably go on until the end of time...but is there truth in any of the above statements? If you sit back and compare...