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Why Are You Single...???

Ladies have you ever sat down and examined why it is that you are still single? Have you gone over in your mind all of the bad relationships that you have been in and stayed in and after you left you wondered why?

Personally, after I put myself in a relationship with a man that didn't know he was in a relationship, I knew I had some issues I had to deal with. The man was telling me repeatedly that he didn't want a relationship, however, his actions belied his words. I misconstrued his constant phone calls and wanting me to be near me as us having a relationship...when in fact we were just "kicking it" as he said. So with my feelings hurt, I wanted to lash out at him, but I had to check myself and note that I didn't listen to what he was saying. While I cut myself off from other men, he didn't cut himself off to other women. I had to learn to listen, and respect that man for telling me the truth even if I didn't want to hear it. I had to look in the mirror …

Are the negative characteristics that some associate as just "how black women are", attributed and/or associated with the lack of a positive male role

In a conversation with a friend last evening, we got on the topic of my next show...(What Do Black Men Think of Black Women", 7-27-07, @ 9pm, call in 646.716.7414) and inevitably I thought of another topic.

He stated that the problem with black women is the lack of a positive male role model in their lives currently and/or in their past. He said that because the black man has neglected his duties regarding parenthood and because some men would rather run game on women, that the women have developed these so called negative characteristics that seem to be indicative of black women.

He doesn't agree that this is the reason why brothers date women of other races...he does however, believe that this is the reason why black women can appear mean and negative to some...and vulnerable and easy to others.

It got me to thinking about his statement, and having grown up with my father, and having a come from a loving background whose parents are sti…

20 Things Holding Black Women Back

I found this on another message board...check it out!

20 Things Holding Black Women Back

1. Superwoman Syndrome ---I’ve been with a few females who thought they can multitask effectively. It was real annoying when we were talking on the phone. They usually seem very distracted but still insist they are still listening. YEAH RIGHT. Hint: Sisters, it's impossible to work fulltime, raise kids fulltime, go partying fulltime, and chase men fulltime! You'll end up focusing on one and neglecting the others.

2. Fear of Being Alone ---This is all too common with Black females who always are in a relationship and use a “backup” if needed. These backups are usually the "nicer" brothas who think they are number one with the female, but in actuality, they are just getting played. If you want real respect and admiration from a Black woman become, a thug and a felon.

3. Hair, Hair and Hair ---Yea what’s up with females who pay 75+ dollars every two weeks to get their hair done? What…

Who Has The Power....

I was talking on another board and one of the women asked this question...

Is the state of the black church one of the reasons why many black women remain single? Do men control the state of marriage or does pussy power still prevail?

Now my response addressed alot of the other comments, but the basic premise is again about women...and this is what SassyScribe had to say....

The problem is that women aren't being honest...and they aren't listening to what men are telling them. If you meet a man and he tells you that he is not getting married and not looking for a relationship, why then do you continue to stay with him?

There is no tried and true method to getting a man to the altar...what women need to do is stop trying to define themselves by the fact that they have a man in their life. Stop buying into the fact that good men are in church...there are alot of men in church, the majority are married, or gay and the singles ones…

Oral Sex Nazi's - Should U or Shouldn't U...???

Sassy has a dilemma...and maybe you can help me shed some light and gain clarification...shyt, here are the questions...

Should a woman suck the dyck of every man she has sex with?

Should a man eat the puzzy of every woman he has sex with?

My last radio show dealt with Oral Sex Nazi's and the issue as to why men were not going down on their women. The show aired at midnight and for the first half an hour I was basically talking to myself, but hey it was a Friday night and most people are out in the streets or home asleep. To hear the archieved show click on the link But I am trying to understand what the lady caller was saying.

See Sassy is not a prude and very open when it comes to sex, sexual activities, etc. I try really hard not to judge folks, and as I wrote in yesterdays blog, everyone judges people whether we like it or not...but in this insta…

Ladies...What are WE Thinking?

This past weekend marked my families 31st Annual Crab Feast in Baltimore, with over 1100 people in attendance! I know that my girlfriends, family and myself, had a muphaphucking ball! I made well over 500 jello shooters, that I shared with the 200 people that purchased tickets from me. But today, I want to discuss what I saw over the weekend. You know what...I am all for women with banging ass bodies making the most of their "assets", but there is a fine line between sexy and slutty, and trashy and classy. Some of the "uniforms" this weekend, varied from the tame, to the extreme. There were women showing their tits and ass and were offended at the comments that some of the men made because they are wearing a whorish or slutty "uniform". Yes, I sound bitchy, because that is the mood I am in now. Don't wear the dress cut up to your ass showing your damn puzzy to the world and then get upset when a man steps to you on a strictly sexual tip. Don't get…

Oral Sex Tips....from

ORAL SEX NAZI'S...Alot of folks handing out 68's...what ever happened to the good ole 69! Why aren't men going down? Is it because they don't have to...are women not asking? Or are both sexes being selfish and lazy?

Fellatio 101
Can you believe that women are still complaining about their man not performing oral sex on them…what is that? I mean, why is it that men aren’t performing oral sex on their partners.

One gentleman explained that it is all about hygiene if she isn’t clean and fresh the first time they are most likely not going to venture there a second time. Another gentleman, said that you need ensure that the “streets” downtown are completely clean, that there are no small hedges or large bushes between the “street lines”. Well of course I looked at them as if they had grown two heads, because what they said was a no brainer to me. However, the same holds true for men, cleanliness and a fresh smell will get you done…but if your nuts smell like Doritos you can ha…

Focus on The Positives of Loving a Black Woman...

In a conversation with my best friend, she called me after reading my previous blog "Do Black Men Truly Despise & Loathe the Black Woman?" She understood that the characteristics the gentlemen described are in all of us, both men and women. She and I both found one or two that ascribe to us currently, but that does not a bad Black woman make.

So she asked me to ask the following questions:

Why is it that every question posed of the black woman is in the negative? Why is it that when we speak of the black woman we only see the wrong doings?

Why is it that when speaking of the bi-racial relationships….that people only speak of the black woman as being hurt and envious of the black men dating white women and not see the hurt and humiliation that white men feel that his white woman is dating the black man.

It can’t always be blamed on the black woman for all wrongs. If so, contrary to belief, there are still 99% of black men still dating the black woman……which goes to show black…

What Black Men Think About Black Women?

Everywhere I turn or look on the internet I see threads about black men disparaging and slandering black women. Is it me...I am wondering, "Why do they despise us so much?" Do black men truly despise and loathe the black woman? Is it a select few or is it a pervasive attitude throughout?

In a conversation with a friend, he easily rolled out ten character traits of black women, his discription/definition as to what he perceives them and why black men are more accepting of dating women of other races. He stated that gone are the days of the "good black woman", the likes of Betty Shabbazz and Coretta Scott King, where they uplifted their men and allowed them to be men . "In the good ole days black women would submit to the man as the head of household."

He said that the traits I am about to list equals "the average sistergirl in the city" ATTITUDE!

1. Unsupportive - show extreme respect for their men; allowing the man to do what he does to elevate y…

Finding And Keeping A Life Partner

This article was forwarded to me and quite frankly, I couldn't have said it better myself. I have added a note or two, but other than that, the author has some valid & salient points...kudos to him! Once you've read it, I'd love to hear your thoughts...SassyScribe

Golden rules for finding your life partner by Dov Heller, M.A

When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50%,it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Miss. Right!

If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say: "We're in love"; I believe this is the #1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love.Though this may sound "not politically correct", there's a profoundtruth here. Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is t…