Sometimes you just want to say Eff it, when it comes to Valentine's Day    Oh no! That dreaded day is just about 3 weeks away, and all of the single people, women mostly are trying to psych themselves out, by saying "its just another day". Which is true. Valentine's Day is just another day, but as a single person, it just makes your singleness that much more acute. You tend to feel your singleness the most during Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, Valentine's Day and your birthday. How many times have you gotten tired of the squeals and yelps of delight as co-worker, after co-worker, friend, after friend, received a delivery of beautiful long-stemmed red roses, the large heart-shaped balloon or oversized Teddy Bear emblazoned with "I LOVE U" OR "BE MINE"? Do you swear silently to yourself as you plaster a fake smile on your face as you comment happily about their good fortune? Yes, I know, too many times to count. It's ...

How much of your sexual history should you disclose to a mate? For some women this question remains a constant conflict because how much of the reveal is too much? I advocate truth telling, although we all know that there are some that live in their convoluted and distorted truth. But, in this day and time, it is vitally imperative to your health and welfare to always state the truth. As adults we understand that you may not want to reveal all...that at one point in our lives we may have done something that was a little wild and/or off the hook and some things you just may decide to take to the grave. But years ago, you know back in the day when dating was easier and fun, you didn't have the issues that you have today. The questions that individuals must ask today are not questions that you had to ask twenty years ago. Today we have to ask questions like: Are you currently sexually active? If so, how many partners are you intimate with? Have you ever have or currently have a sexual...

This popped up on a message board that I talk on...yet it is so very appropriate for my show topic tomorrow...its a letter a black man wrote about why he cheated on his wife... I found this interesting to say the least...he touched on some points that I have heard some men make, but does that excuse the behavior? What are your thoughts on this... ______________________________________________________________ *Why I Cheat on My Beautiful Black Wife I am a black man and a cheater. Not all the time, just every now and then. The itch comes to me, and no matter what my wife does, I still can't help but want another woman. At least for a night, or two, or three. I love my wife very much. No woman I've ever met or will meet will hold a more important place in my life. I also love my kids, our house, my job and the fish in my daughter's room. I love everything about my life at home, even though my relationship has become dull and rocky. But while I love having a strong black family...

The infamous Grumpy, moderator extraodinaire of the FAF board, who is always thinking about educationing the ladies...ran across this site and relayed it to me...and now I am sharing it with you! I think this should be a part of a woman's daily regime...but that is JMO! _______________________________________________________ http://www.mypleasure.com/educati...gels_for_better_sexual_health.asp Kegels for Better Sexual Health Ladies, did you know you could perform an internal vaginal exercise that will strengthen the walls of your vagina, making childbirth easier, incontinence more unlikely and orgasms much stronger? If you've had a baby, your doctor probably told you all about these exercises, called Kegels. The rest of you, listen up. A Practical Application Developed in 1946 by Dr. Arnold Kegel (pronounced, "kay-gill"), a Los Angeles obstetrician and gynecologist, Kegels are the rhythmic clenching and unclenching of the pubococcygeal (PC) muscles. Also known as t...

I was having a conversation with a male friend of mine today and he asked me to go to his myspace blog and comment. Well I did that and to sum up his blog he discussed how women lie all the time...they lie about cheating, they lie about paternity in general they just lie...and here is how our IM convo went... TiredBlackMan: I just read your comment SassyScribe: and TiredBlackMan: and I must say... TiredBlackMan: YOU ARE THE ULTIMATE BAMA! TiredBlackMan: what the hell are trying to say? SassyScribe: LOL SassyScribe: what TiredBlackMan: yeesh TiredBlackMan: you made it personal SassyScribe: so TiredBlackMan: women lie in general SassyScribe: don't generalize bama SassyScribe: everyone lies in general SassyScribe: men lie all the time SassyScribe: its one of the reasons I stopped dating TiredBlackMan: and that old excuse that men do it isn't a valid excuse SassyScribe: all that do unto others is BS when men aren't honest from jump SassyScribe: its not an excuse its the truth T...

I dug into my blog archives and ran across something that I wrote in October 2005...my next few blogs are going to be from my archives...this is going to be enlightening for me and I hope for the reader as well... How do you know when you've found your soulmate? Is there an earth shattering moment within your soul that speaks to another? Is there a moment where you just know, what you know, what you know? Does your heart palipate and your palms grow sweaty? Do you suffer from a loss of appetite? Are the last two signs of love or signs of having found that one person who is the other half to your soul. I ask these questions, because I want to know. How will I know when I've met my soulmate. Or have I met him already...and sadly lost him? How do you know? How will I know? What does a soulmate mean to you? My definition of a soulmate is a person who not necessarily completes you, but he/she will make you at peace with yourself. Meaning your automatically comfortable around this p...

When did dating become so complicated? Why is it that its okay for a man to be choosey and picky with his choice of mate/companion, yet not okay for a woman? Why is it okay for men to ask "why are you single", yet don't want the same asked of them? Why is it that I am so tired of answering questions like this, that it is amazing...there is so much bullshyt going on now in the dating world to the point that its just crazy...bottom line is...men and women don't know what in the hell it is they want...lets cut out the physical, because I would be lying if I said I didn't want/desire good looking men, but everything that looks good isn't always good for you...isn't that what Momma told you??? On paper folks sound really good, I mean its like "jack pot" and then you get to know this psycho skitzo nut job and you wonder what in the hell happened! How many of us have gotten caught up with some new shyt and then find out that after you knock the dust off...

Should you have sex with an ex? What are the pros & cons to having sex with an ex? Why do so many people have sex with their exes? For some sexing the ex is totally tabu ...after all, they are your ex for a reason. right? I've heard some people say that some of their best sex have been with their ex...is that really true or is it good because of the familiarity? Afterall, you may have been together for a while and it does take some getting used to a new partner...not saying it can't be done, but the ex knows you...he/she knows how you like to be touched, kissed, licked, carressed...stroked! Isn't easier to just go back to the known sometimes as opposed to exploring the unknown? I can think of a few pros and cons... Pro's : There are no expectations from either party other than to have a good time by engaging in unadulterated, steamy, sweaty, hot butt nekked sex. They are familiar with your body, they know what makes you tic! Curiosity- can he/she still take you the...

Are relationships equal? Does he/she give 50% to your 50% or are you in a 90/10, 80/20, or 70/30 situation and don't even know it? Did you think that your percentage was more or less? Did you think that the value you placed on the relationship was more important to you than the other person....meant more than just a friend? Were you spending alot of time together, then all of a sudden, no more phone calls, no more contact...and you feel as if you are on the chase again...like somewhere something went wrong...the balance of the relationship was skewed? Are you asking yourself what happened...were you an "STD" (something to do) or an "OAD" (one and done)? Someone asked me if I felt that there was an inequality in the male/female relationships. She stated that she was not happy with the current state of affairs of her relationships...she says she doesn't ask questions of the men she dates, although, they ask her questions. She says they make it known that she i...