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Relationships: Inequality or Imbalance...

Are relationships equal? Does he/she give 50% to your 50% or are you in a 90/10, 80/20, or 70/30 situation and don't even know it? Did you think that your percentage was more or less? Did you think that the value you placed on the relationship was more important to you than the other person....meant more than just a friend? Were you spending alot of time together, then all of a sudden, no more phone calls, no more contact...and you feel as if you are on the chase again...like somewhere something went wrong...the balance of the relationship was skewed? Are you asking yourself what happened...were you an "STD" (something to do) or an "OAD" (one and done)?

Someone asked me if I felt that there was an inequality in the male/female relationships. She stated that she was not happy with the current state of affairs of her relationships...she says she doesn't ask questions of the men she dates, although, they ask her questions. She says they make it known that she isn't the only woman they are dating, yet when she makes it known that they aren't the only ones in her life, there comes attitude and questions. She says it isn't fair, and that the balance of respect isn't equal.

However, there is a delicate balance that we all have to maintain to keep the flow of the relationship in tact? In the instance above they are both giving each other the honesty that grown folks claim they want, and when they get it it, they can't really handle it. If a man tells you he is dating, why then, is he upset at the thought of you dating another person? Now for some, they won't be upset...they may have an attitude of "do u" and "I'll do me"...

Whether its a romantic link with a person, or just someone you are cool with...at some point the inequalities will reveal themselves. The way we talk, how we work, how we give one another the space to be themselves without smothering or hovering, but with loving, care, and concern. How much respect are we giving the person, the relationship, and the friendship.

Some of us have relationships where one person does more or calls more or keeps in contact more often than the other...whereas another relationship the person is more reliable, comfortable, easy, caring, and kind...

It may not sound fair, but is it safe to say that not all relationships that we are involved in are 100% equal...there is always going to be someone who feels like one person is doing, giving, saying, sharing, loving MORE than the other person...

At one point or another, its not necessarily an inequality, rather an imbalance, slight blemish or an imperfection in our level of priorities when it comes to the importance of that relationship in our lives? Or is it how we are perceiving the actions of the other individual and reacting off of that...

Maybe its the imbalance, inequality, and sometimes the imperfections of our relationships that keep them interesting or gives them legs...

I'm interested in your thoughts...is there inequality in relationships?

SassyScribe

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