Skip to main content

Valentine's Day Blues

Sometimes you just want to say Eff it, when it comes to Valentine's Day
  Oh no! That dreaded day is just about 3 weeks away, and all of the single people, women mostly are trying to psych themselves out, by saying "its just another day". Which is true. Valentine's Day is just another day, but as a single person, it just makes your singleness that much more acute. You tend to feel your singleness the most during Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, Valentine's Day and your birthday.

How many times have you gotten tired of the squeals and yelps of delight as co-worker, after co-worker, friend, after friend, received a delivery of beautiful long-stemmed red roses, the large heart-shaped balloon or oversized Teddy Bear emblazoned with "I LOVE U" OR "BE MINE"? Do you swear silently to yourself as you plaster a fake smile on your face as you comment happily about their good fortune? Yes, I know, too many times to count. It's bad when you are single, not getting anything screams I AM ALONE!!!

But rather than be down on this day, think of it as an opportunity to love yourself more.

Take it from a single lady, who had relationships and still got nothing on Valetine's Day. Well, that's not quite true, one day while riding down the highway, my then boyfriend handed me my V-Day card as an after thought and I put the window down and threw it out the window. Then another guy I dated used to tell me that he could never celebrate a holiday whose patron saint was homosexual. Yeah, I can laugh now, because as excuses go, it was good, but when he said it, I was angry and irritated. Tell me you don't feel enough for me, but there is no reason to lie.

So after those debacles, I vowed to never allow Valentine's Day to give me the blues! For what? So I decided that Valentine's Day would be SASSY Day. A day for me to date me. Get to know me better and to love myself more!

So I embarked on a journey to wipe out the Valentine's Day Blues by doing a few simple things:

  • Treated myself to a great meal - so what restaurants are full of couples; tonight is about YOU
  • Had a spa treatement - mani/pedi & massage
  • Got my hair done
  • Went shopping (retail therapy always helps)
  • Checked out the latest movie
  • Got together with other single men/women for food & drinks
  • Spent time with family & friends
  • Read /buy a book
  • Visit the local art scene
  • Create a hobby
  • If you have a child(ren) - take them out and spend the day with them and show them that they are your valentine
Those are just a couple of ideas that can alleviate the blues of  LOVE DAY!

For some, the day represents a night of dabauchery! One of hot, erotic, & sensuous buck-nekkedness ;-), and when you are alone with no chance of getting any, you may want to visit your local adult store and purchase some new toys and try them out!

It's truly whatever works for you...just don't sit about moping around singing 'kumbaya". Get up, Get out, and do something!

Happy Valentine's Day!!!

Saundra aka SassyScribe

***Tune into WSER Sassy Entertainment Radio in February for LOVE AMERICAN STYLE Month for three hot shows: 2/3 - Valentine's Day Blues; 2/10 Tips on Keeping the Love & Sex Hot; 2/17 The Cheaters Handbook;  Join our interactive chat room at or call in to share your thoughts 646.716.7414.***


virgie said…
well said and great advice. thanks for sharing!

Popular posts from this blog

So Horny...It Hurts!

As usual my discussions stem from random thoughts that I have and from conversations with friends, family, & acquaintances. But we were talking about sex and levels of horniness and one of us spoke up and said, "I'm so hurts!" (Hmmm...I thought about this and came you...)

Have you ever gotten to the point where you are so horny it hurts! Its a physical ache deep in your bones. Every muscle and sinew, every step, stretch, and run, is so physically excrutiating to the point of being unbearable! You know sometimes your eyes cross, you get bumps on your face, and your nerves are completely on edge. You say your are angry and frustrated when in fact all you need is a little hot monkey sex to get you back in order...In situations like that, your body has a tendency to shut down on itself.

As I write this, I wonder how many of us are so horny that it hurts? I honestly feel that dyck and puzzy are a dime a dozen...anyone, and I do mean anyone, regardless o…

Are Women Whores for Money?

I have been thinking about this topic for a minute and I plan to discuss it at length soon, but for right now, I just have one question, or rather an observation.

Is it me or are women whores for money? Are women whores for a certain lifestyle to the point that they sell their souls to live the good life? They don't care if their man is phucking half of the nation so long as he brings the bacon home to them. They don't care if he looks like the broad side of a bus or the bottom of a shoe, so long as his dollars are long and his pockets are deep. I've heard women say, {self included} that so long as he was making money that he could do any damn thing he wanted...but that is a hypothetical situation. In real life, having dated men with money, I realized one thing - they are the most arrogant assholes around! So I had to say to myself what was more important, that man, that man and his money, that man his money and his lifestyle I was enthralled by, or my self respect. Guess w…

Women Are Emotionally Retarded

The topic on women not listening sparked a madddd debate between a friend and I.

I am of the belief that if a woman is interested in a man and that man she is interested in or in lust with doesn't reciprocate her feelings she should move on. She should remove herself from this man and also ensure that he is no longer in her immediate inner circle/core of friends, but rather on the outer fringes of her life. I was told that by my saying this, then I believe that women are emotionally unable to handle rejection and therefore must cast their net out to others hoping that someone else will bite. Rather we (women) should keep this man around as a friend and not involve ourselves with other men, just because the man that the woman is interested in is not interested in her. He went on to liken it to a woman shooting buckshots until she shoots and catches someone.

I went on to state that if women find themselves in this emotional quagmire of a situation with a man whose feelings aren't …