Over the past few months I have been thinking and reflecting alot on relationships...why, why, why, why, why? Why do people do the things that they do? Why do people say the things they say? Why am I still single...and I thought about alot of situations that involved me personally. I thought about situations that I see women around me in, and I hear of situations all of the time...and to be honest, I am still searching for the answer. When folks read this they are going to hear alot of bitterness in this blog and that is because I at the moment I am writing this I am bitter. I am angry, upset, confused, but most of all, I am tired. I am tired of the lies, I am tired of the distrust, most importantly I am tired of the game. Everyday I listen to the radio there is some woman whining about how her man is cheating! I listen and I want to say you have one of two choices, shut the fuck up and deal with it, or leave. Don't tell me shit about the kids, the finances, or anything like that.....

Everywhere I turn, there is a nut bucket on television committing heineious crimes against other individuals in the name of love... I've heard of some crazy stories over the last few days all about how some nut bucket man is crazed enough to kill "his girl" because she had the temerity to stop seeing him and started seeing another man. This mindset and/or attitude of "if I can't have you know one will" is truly beyond crazy. The latest story reads... "Houston, AP News - A 19-year-old Texas A&M University student was killed by her ex-boyfriend, who then dismembered and burned her body on a patio grill, authorities said Saturday" This bastard was fucking crazy with a capital C! Obviously the death penalty means nothing to him, because Texas is killing their inmates left and right...and this young animal should be the next on the list. Fuck his trial...why is he still sharing the air that I and others breath...why is he allowed a fair trial...wha...

How honest are you about your past sexual history with your significant other? Are you totally honest and up front about those college days...and how you "got drunk" and in that "altered" state of mind you let the frat boys run a train on you? Or in that same frame of mind you "made out" with someone of the same sex? Can you honestly handle the truth if you were to find out that instead of being her fifth lover like she told you, you're really number 105? I mean they say when a woman tells you how many lovers she's had you automatically multiply it by 2, but does same sex partners count? What if she "stripped" to "pay her way through college"...what if, what if, what if???? Damn IF - If wish was a dish, I'd be full...right! The same goes for women...how would you feel if you found out that he let one of his frat brothers lick peanut butter from his nipples? Remember he, just like you, were "drunk"...blaming shit on...

I wonder why do people fuck the people that they do...you know I think about crazy ass shit like that. What made you fuck the person your with? Or the last person you were with...or currently with? Was it the dick/pussy? Did they give good head? Did he just touch all the sides of your walls at once while blowing your back out...did she whip her hips like a hula hoop...I mean what was it? Was he/she worth it? Did you really like them, or was it just a random act of senseless sex? I ask because it makes me wonder....why are you sleeping with the person your sleeping with. Is it a relationship? Or is that you are just sex buddies....(thats the next blog...) SassyScribe

I don't even know what to name this blog...but why is it that you see ugly, funk stank, nasty ass people with babies. Maybe its because I see so many children not giving the chances and opportunities that I had. Or that the children in my immediate and extended family have. I say that to say, you ever see some women, look at how they look, act, dress, ----total over all appearance and you wonder "Who in the hell would fuck that?" Don't lie, I know people do...I see it daily. I also see it with men..."Who would let him fuck them?" is what I think, and then I turn and see his female counterpart trailing behind him with three or four little ugly baby roaches...just plain ignorance breeding ignorance. I say to myself, the only reason why that woman has a baby is not because she wanted one, but because she wanted the world to know that someone, at sometime, fucked her! Period! There is a man out there that ran up in her and she has living proof of the off-spring....

Should a woman have to convince her man, hell for that matter any man, to make love to her? I ask because yall know how I have friends and how they confide in me and ask me questions, well this one friend has been seeing a guy and although they used to have sex, they don't anymore. She said that its almost like she has to convince him to do it to her. Shit, I used to have alot of men interested in wanting to "get to know me", but now that I have since abstained from intimacy, my phone is silent and the dates have stopped! But at least I know where they are coming from. SEX is important to men. Unlike women, SEX is an extensial expression of how a man may feel about you. Men aren't as verbal as women when it comes to that, (I said not as verbal) because there are some men out there that are very intune and in touch with their more sensitive side. But regardless of whether or not I have chosen to abstain, should I want to "get down with the get down" TODAY, it...

I am pissed off and fed up with the way in which people are treating children. I am so sick and damn tired of hearing one sad story after another. In the last 3 days there have been 3 outrageously appalling stories on the news media. First there was the little boy that died of a toothache that manifested itself into an infection that went to his brain! All because the parents didn't have any other health care other than Medicaid and dentist do not take them. What most black people don't know is that they can get care for anything at any teaching hospital in their area. Secondly, unless you have been living under a rock, many of us know about the young brothers in Texas that videotaped them getting a 2 year old and a 5 year old HIGH! They acutally showed their faces and thought it was very funny to get these youngsters stoned. What in the blue hell possessed them to do such a thing and not think it wouldn't have any repersucssions! I was shocked, appalled, but most of all hu...

This is at the request of a friend who asked me why do women lie about having consensual sex and then cry rape? He said he met this girl, and things were cool, it was just supposed to be a stick and move...and real easy in and out type of deal, but he said because he didn't cuddle...because he didn't sweet talk or smooth talk or appease her fragile female ego, she has now decided that what they did was not consensual rather it was rape. He didn't find this out until recently when he opened his door and the detectives were there questioning him about "said female" and "his said actions" towards this female. Ironically, he is a relationship and just gave his girl an engagement ring over the weekend and then this happens. When he asked me about it, I had no real answer because I'm a woman and I know that even though its not right THERE ARE PLENTY OF WOMEN THAT CRY RAPE! Its an easy way out of a bad situation for them. Its wrong as hell, but because they...

Knowing what you know today, would you have had your children with the same person(s)? Its funny how children seem to change a relationship, and I wonder if we had chosen our co-procreators better then what would the end result have been? This thought has been marinating in my mind as I sit back and watch the things people say and how they interact with their children(s) parent(s). I detest the term "baby daddy" or "baby momma", I prefer the word parent. See, I think people are overwhelmed by the feelings of lust, and therefore forgo all precautions. It may not have been intentional, but the end result is a child, and children are blessings, unfortunately, not everyone is prepared for and/or capable of accepting their blessing(s). We see/hear daily how women use children as weapons of evil against the "man that did them wrong" when they didn't check to see that their "man" already had two children prior to theirs that he wasn't doing rig...

I have been to several parties over the years, but just recently I got invited to a couple of parties and they were dry, dull, and boring. The host & hostess couldn't wait for me and my sisters arrival to make their party a real party. I looked at them funny, and they said "you girls know how to throw a party, we don't" and yet they keep having them. Anyway, I told them it wasn't that they didn't know how to throw a party, its the people they invite. I'm sorry, but there are too many folks that are my age who think that just because your married with kids you no longer are able to have fun. That is so not the case...in order to throw a successful party there are several key elements that one must do, that is absolutely necessary to having the bombest of parties. Before everyone blasts me, unless its a BBQ or something to that effect...I feel that all adult parties are just that...for the adults. Therefore, if you have teenage children, make plans to ha...

Man stop tripping! I am sick and tired of talking to men/women who are tripping out over a simple piece of ass! When you decide to have a strictly sexual relationship with a person, don't get mad or upset when all you get from them is sex. A strictly sexual relationship in my opinion is one that consists of well, sex! You meet, you may exchange a few pleasantries, and then you commence to phucking. The rules of engagement must be explict prior to engaging in this form of relationship. That means a clear and concise understanding of the rules. In order for this relationship of just sex to last, there can be no gray areas...no stone should be left unturned. You will discuss the number of times you will meet, and also whether or not you will be engaging in various types of sexual pleasures. Unfortunately, I find that even men and women can get confused and allow things to occur that shouldn't, so I have compiled a list of do's and dont's. Do Do Practice Safe Sex - condoms/...

The last blog about black women not being as freaky as women of other races has prompted numerous responses directly to me and the vote is split. Half of the brothers are saying that it is absolutely correct that black women aren't as freaky for fear of being called a "freak". The other half of the men are saying that that was one brothers excuse for his preference in dating women of other races AND that they have had wonderfully freaky experiences with numerous sisters. They did have one caveat attached to the latter statement, and that is that the women trusted them to let it all hang out and that they (the men) were able to pull that freak out of her. It seems from the responses that some men love it when women will allow them to "have their way with them" from jump! I mean what is more of an aphrodisiac than control! But the extreme to me is not so much as having a one night stand, that seems to de riguer today, but to have a one nite stand and allow him to ...

Is it true that Black Women aren't as freaky as women of other races? A situation occured this weekend where a gentlemen said he preferred women of other races because they are more open sexually than Black women! For me, that statement was like him throwing down the gauntlet! How dare he make a blanket statement like that to say that black women aren't as open sexually! (You must not know about me...were my thoughts) What he really meant was that black women aren't as freaky as women of other races! Which is a gross generalization and just plain (IMO) F A L S E! That man's preference for dating are women of other races...his statement was his excuse as to why he prefers them...bottom line is he likes to get his freak on...that is what he should've said and left it at that! I can't speak for all women (regardless of race) but as a Black woman I am just as open sexually, just as freaky as women of other races...the issue is that I am not open and as freaky with ...

After listening to Michael Baisden yesterday, it amazed me that women are still falling for the same ole tricks. With the advent of Valentine's Day upon us, I wanted to take this time to advise the ladies not to fall for the jedhi mind trick that some men will try to do. I remember a cousin of mine saying that he always broke up with his women on Halloween and then picked up with them again after Valentine's day. I was appalled that the women didn't catch up on this, but his explanation was that he breaks it off with them on Halloween, he flies under their radar. It also enompasses Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years Eve, and Valentine's day...ergo he saved a ton of money by not having to purchase multiple gifts. It also freed up his time for other pursuits...basically women with little or no expectations from them...women already involved and unhappy...bottom line---women wanting SEX only. I am a firm believer that when a person's habits and behavior begins to chan...

Every woman needs to read this! ____________________________________________________ In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question "What kind of man are you looking for?" She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye and asking Do you really want to know?" Reluctantly, he said "Yes." She began to expound... "As a woman in this day and age, I am in a position to ask a man what he can do for me that I can't do for myself. I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man...or woman for that matter. I am in the position to ask, "What can you bring to the table?" The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money. She quickly corrected his thought and stated, "I am not referring to money. "I need something more. I need a man who is striving for perfection in every aspect of life." He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, and asked her to exp...

When will Roe v. Wade be put to rest? Is it a woman’s right to choose or is it the government’s right to tell a woman what she can and cannot do with or to her body? This is the question that many Mississippians will face as a bill has been set forth to deny a woman’s right to an abortion unless the pregnancy is a product of rape, incest, or threatens the woman’s life in anyway. This law will catapult women into crossing state lines to obtain this procedure and/or the worst-case scenario will force them to back alley abortions as in the past. This will not only kill the fetus, but it will also kill and/or permanently harm or scar the mother. I am an advocate for Pro Choice and, quite frankly this law scares the hell out of me! I am all for a woman making the decision as to whether or not to bring a child into this world. Yes, a child is a blessing from God, but we all have seen how unwanted children are mistreated by parents, family, and even those in the system that are supposedly pro...

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Black Women, I have to ask...are you still waiting for your Black Prince? That Knight in Shining Armour on a White Stallion coming to sweep you off your feet and take away all of your fears, troubles, woes, and misery? Are you hoping that his lips soothe your soul? That his arms will ease your pain? That his words will tell you he is going to "make everything all right"? AS romantic and idealic as that sounds...snap back to reality because its not gonna happen. There are gentlemen out there that are willing to grow and build with someone, but he is in no means trying to carry the entire burden and/or load of the relationship. He himself is looking for a woman that is going to be drama free, that will be caring, and nuturing. She will have a great sense of humor, a positive outlook on life, a kind heart and a sincere spirit. Having said that it makes me wonder, why is it that my gender feels as though they are owed something just because they are women. Don't get me wrong,...

This piece has been floating around the internet for a year or so, but I think it bears repeating...its how a caucasian views the black race. I'm just the messenger, but there is some truth to the letter, no matter how hard we may not want to admit it...read it and think! ______________________________________________________________________________ Dee Lee, CFP Harvard Financial Educators Dee Lee THEY ARE STILL OUR SLAVES We can continue to reap profits from theBlacks without the effort of physical slavery Look at the currentmethods of containment that they use on themselves: IGNORANCE, GREED,and SELFISHNESS. Their IGNORANCE is the primary weapon of containment. A great man once said, "The best way to hide something from Black people is to put it in a book." We now live in the Information Age. They have gained theopportunity to read any book on any subject through the efforts of theirfight for freedom, yet they refuse to read. There are numerous books readily available a...

Some of these solutions will violate alot of civil and certain inaliable rights that we all take for granted...but I don't care! Again these are my opinions and before you blast me, remember, Opinions are Like Assholes, everyone has one! Radical Solution #1 Enforced Sterilization - this is to stem those whom enjoy living off of the system by continuing to have multiple children, by multiple men, that they know they cannot afford. For women it would be a tubal ligation, and for men a vasectomy. Radical Solution #2 Parental Restitution - if the parents had to pay for all of the stupid actions of their children, then I believe that alot of stuff would end. No you can't watch your child 24/7, but if you had to pay, say out of pocket for damages caused by your child, then I think after the major beat down that that child (at least my child would receive one for messing with my money) got for phucking YOUR hard earned money up, then I think parents would keep a closer eye on Little ...