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Cheaters Never Win

If 2009 was deemed the year of infidelity, then I fear what 2010 may become.

We say that in jest and/or as a joke, but seriously, let’s look at the number of people in the news for not being able to keep themselves to themselves. If you want to call a spade a spade, I would have to say honestly, that I don’t feel sorry for any person, be it male of female who allows their skin hunger take over their better judgment. Why should I sympathize with a woman who knowingly decides to have an affair, become a mistress who whatever term you want to call it, and then when she finds out that she wasn’t the only woman he was involved with, she wants to be the scorned woman? What type of attitude is that? I don’t feel sorry for “the other woman” because IMO that is the price you pay. Payment for being a mistress is the probability (and the odds are high) that you are not the only woman in his life that he deals with outside of his marriage. You get what you get when you decide to go down that path of dealing with a married man. This feeling of not being sympathetic is equal amongst all parties involved. I feel sorry for the children who may be caught up in the BS that the adults in their lives have decided to place them, but for that man, he too deserves the humiliation of having his personal life outed. After all, he was the guiltiest of all parties…he knew his commitment and covenant was made to another woman, and yet he still need to have more. A greedy person deserves to be miserable when they allow their gluttony to overwhelm their logic.

When I am approached by a married man, I am quick to tell him he needs to go home, or find another woman because I am not the one, but I look deeper into it. I am offended to the nth degree that he even felt he could approach me being a married man. Sorry, but I realized over the weekend while talking to some friends that my ego and pride will not allow me to be second to anyone…at least not a willing and knowing second. What type of person puts themselves in 2nd position, or even 3rd for that matter?

I don’t care how bad he says his home life may be, or how much of a bitch he claims his wife to be, or even how bratty, spoiled and unmanageable he claims his children to be…he is still a married man and if he is that miserable and things are that “sour” then why stay? Please “because of the children” doesn’t wash in my book. Why can’t the man just say, “I stay because the bitch will make me give her half my assets if I leave,” its an honest statement, so why is it so hard to say? Well maybe not necessarily hard, because the other half of that is, why should he be honest when there are so many, many, many, women of all races and socio-economic status who will listen to excuse he gives.

Are women so lonely that having a married man is better than having no man at all? It makes me wonder, because as a single woman there are plenty of single men, and yes they are single, viable, eligible men available, so why not date them and leave the married men alone. As a matter of fact, why not date two men? Why not keep your options open, and damn what others may think?

As a woman, I just don’t get women at all…I don’t understand how some of them think so little of themselves. I want to ask these ‘mistresses’ “How much could you trust him knowing how you got him?”
But then I guess they look at me and see that I am single and I guess the fear of being alone and the belief that God has given up on them, makes them do and act in strange ways…I don’t’ know, all I can do is try to make women understand that they have to learn to love and put themselves first…because nothing good can come with being with a married man.

You know the saddest thing of all, is that despite the myriad of stories in the news, despite the fact that we all know personally at some point in our lives how infidelity has ruined lives of family and friends that for every one woman like myself that abhors cheating on a spouse, there are 10 women who don’t.


Saundra aka SassyScribe

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