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Playing Hard To Get...

How do you keep a person attracted once you have piqued their interest? As much as I talk about playing hard to get and ain't get got, sometimes playing hard to get can net the result of being got. Of course this only works if the person is truly interested in you...if they aren't then its an act of futility because sometimes if you don't know how to play the game right, then you end up pissing them off or pushing them away...and that is what we don't want...

Playing hard to get at times can be a necessary evil, because as much as some of us hate to do it, and as much as some of us may not be very good at doing it, however, it can weed out the bad apples so to speak. If they only have a passing interest in you, then playing hard to get for them is going to prove to be too much work, and in the end they will stop the hard press pursuit. This can enligthen us in other ways as well, by increasing our awareness to our surroundings and also showing us what it is we like, and want and don't want in a mate. Its a little creative, interactive, and at times can give you the extra little excitement in your life that you may be missing...and trust me some folks need the excitement and its also good practice too...

However, we don't want to get bogged down with the "hard to get" (not answering the phone, standing people up, do not show you are interested, pretend you are busy) and forget to "play" while doing this makes you seem mean, cruel, and uninterested. Yes, sometimes dating can be a headache. Hell, its hard trying to figure out what the other person may or may not feel, so you have to gauge whether or not its worth investing any more time in trying to get to know the other person...and when someone shows you that they aren't interested, walk away and keep it moving...who needs that amount of stress in their lives, and for the ones that stay, then they are showing their desperation and they are that way for a reason...

As much as I hate to admit it...BUT sometimes when a person plays hard to get the right way, it piques an interest and ads an air of mystery to them that the opposite sex finds irrisistable. Come on, I know yall have heard folks say, "There's something about him/her, but I just can't put my finger on it"...its not the physical attraction but something else...and that right there is the air of mystery, the beginning of the game of playing hard to get...

Here are some tips to playing hard to get:
Be out of reach yet easily accessible (Some folks have this down to a science...)
Give them what they want but how they expected
Outlast the competition, do not compete (Sassy never competes; shows desperation)
Don't be a pushover, yet show your flexibility
Tease all of their senses...its easy use your imagination
Ladies...its okay to initiate sex
Create distance without going anywhere (Sassy knows someone doing this right now...)
Always be open and honest up front, but keep them guessing and asking questions--some you answer immediately, some you answer later
Always stir the pot

Some folks may or may not agree, but if he/she isn't chasing you, they are chasing someone else...but before you play the game, be aware of whether or not the person you are interested in is as interested in you as you are with them...if not the relatioship is over before its begun...



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