On the flipside to my previous post...when is it time to cut your losses? We all know, understand, and recognize, that the F L E S H is very weak. The pleasures that it can endure the want, the need, the desire, the craving deep in the pit of your stomach that makes you want what you can't have so tempting, that you just dip your foot in it a little bit. The taste, once you get it, makes you go back for more. This is when you have entered the realm of adultery/cheating.
Here is the thing. We see and know of so many people that continually put up with deceptive behavior from their mates, and you as the outsider looking in may say "cut your losses". Why stay in a situation or in a relationship with a person that IMO obviously doesn't want you.
Yeah, I know that the first time was a mistake. That is not the issue, the issue is when do you say, enough is enough and I don't need to take it anymore.
I had a conversation with a friend today and she was talking about meeting a wonderful man, they completely clicked, the conversation was flowing, they exchanged numbers and a couple of days later, his WIFE called her. He never once mentioned that he was married...according to him, he said she "found" the other woman's information...when in actual fact she went searching because this isn't the first time he has done this. How many times is she willing to put up with his behavior...she is going to continue on this path, because quite frankly its not the first time he has stepped out on her, nor is it the last. I don't know them personally at all, but I do know of women like her. When your man or woman stays out all night and thinks nothing of it...something is wrong.
I know this is all personal preference, and/or a personal decision...but if a person has cheated on you or if you have cheated on them...do you go back and fight the valiant fight to make it work or do you cut your losses?
Is it the Christian thing to do of staying and fighting for your marriage and/or relationship if the trust has been severed.
What do you think...would you cut your losses or stay with a cheating hoping that he/she can be reformed?
SassyScribe
Here is the thing. We see and know of so many people that continually put up with deceptive behavior from their mates, and you as the outsider looking in may say "cut your losses". Why stay in a situation or in a relationship with a person that IMO obviously doesn't want you.
Yeah, I know that the first time was a mistake. That is not the issue, the issue is when do you say, enough is enough and I don't need to take it anymore.
I had a conversation with a friend today and she was talking about meeting a wonderful man, they completely clicked, the conversation was flowing, they exchanged numbers and a couple of days later, his WIFE called her. He never once mentioned that he was married...according to him, he said she "found" the other woman's information...when in actual fact she went searching because this isn't the first time he has done this. How many times is she willing to put up with his behavior...she is going to continue on this path, because quite frankly its not the first time he has stepped out on her, nor is it the last. I don't know them personally at all, but I do know of women like her. When your man or woman stays out all night and thinks nothing of it...something is wrong.
I know this is all personal preference, and/or a personal decision...but if a person has cheated on you or if you have cheated on them...do you go back and fight the valiant fight to make it work or do you cut your losses?
Is it the Christian thing to do of staying and fighting for your marriage and/or relationship if the trust has been severed.
What do you think...would you cut your losses or stay with a cheating hoping that he/she can be reformed?
SassyScribe
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