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Priority or Option

A friend of mine sent me an email this morning and at the end of the email they signed it

"Do not make someone a priority when you are just an option"

I thought about that statement and thought about it. Hell, I'm still thinking about that statement and it makes you wonder...are a priority in his/her life or are you just an option?

It will make you go hmmmm...I can speak honestly, when I say that I have felt like an option to some people. Like something to do for now and that is it. The sad thing is, I thought at the time I meant alot to that person, but hindsight being what it is, I can SEE that I was just an option. I'm shaking my head at my own naivity, and at the same time I have to laugh. I ate, slept, drank, and breathed this man. I prioritized my life to fit his schedule, to ensure his happiness, making sure that he had everything he needed, i.e. time, attention, affection, and TLC. While I let/allowed all of my wants, desires, and needs fall to the way side, hoping that he would show some small measure of consideration for me...but in the end he didn't.

I liken that phrase to being a percenter in a persons life. I remember in school a brother said to me that he had two women that he dealt with...one of them had 10% of his time while the other at 40% and that the remaining time was for himself. He was a divorcee and said that he has yet to meet the woman that will get his 80- 90% but he vowed that no other woman would get a 100%. Its too draining he said, and too time consuming, he said giving her the 90% or even 80% she knows that he likes her but its not all about her. Yes, I read him the riot act for his thinking, but eventhough he doesn't want to admit it, it was his defense mechanism for not getting hurt again.

So if your seeing someone ask yourself are you a priority or an option. Take it one step further and ask if you're just an option is it due in part to not wanting to get hurt or is that they just aren't into you?

SassyScribe

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