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Are U Serious?

As a woman, I have to say I know that am serious about a man, when I start cooking for him and wanting to ensure his daily happiness. I know some women think/feel if they sleep with a man, then they are serious...for others it is calling you and talking to you everyday, the anticipation of hearing your voice is climatic. We all have our own ideals as to what makes up want to get serious with him/her, and as a woman I can see the signs in other women, but not quite as adept at seeing it in men. I don't each his own, but when I asked a fellow male friend of mine how can a woman tell if a man is getting serious about her, he stated:

"When he starts thinking (and saying) that the male friends that you had before you met him, are now trying to hit it. Or when he needs to know your every move, where you're going and whom you're with?"
I thought that was funny, because to me that isn't serious, its paranoia! Again its all about preference...
However, seriousness for some women, may be to leave an item of clothing or jewelry at his house. This ploy is also used so that if he happens to bring another woman to his home, that other woman can see that she isn't the only one. I never quite figured this one out, because it makes me wonder about the woman that left something...I always say that another woman will make herself know to another woman without the man even knowing it, the reason is why? There really shouldn't be any grey areas, at least I don't think there should be if you listen to what the person is saying. If the man/woman states that they date, then you are obviously not "the one", your just a nice friend that they enjoy hanging out with. Now they may enjoy your company more than most, but if someone new came along, they'd be more than willing to get to know them also. Please note, that this behavior is not a crime, its just the way it is...
If you notice said behavior, and it is not reciprocated, then YOU must talk to the other individual immediately! Don't dally around and wait on him/her to "get the hint" we all know that it takes some longer than others (trust me I am one of them longwinded ones). It is imperative that both of you are on the same page because no one wants unrequited love and nor should we want to deliberately hurt another persons feelings. Let them know where you stand in regards to them, live, love, and hell, a relationship- period. Then if they continue with this behavior then they have no one to blame but themselves when their "mission" turns and bites them in the ass!
When do you know that the man/woman you are dating is getting serious? Are there signs that they (be it man or woman) are becoming more serious about you, than you are them? If so, what would you do/say to that person to stem their thoughts and/or actions?


Anonymous said…
Simply tell them that things appear to be getting serious and this is not the direction that you were looking to go with them. Let them know at that point, not many months after the fact!!! It's not good to play with anybody's emotions. "Carma"(is)a mutha I tell ya!

Peace & Love,
Anonymous said…
Hey Sassy,
Merry Christmas to you and your family! I pray that you are able to experience the true meaning of this wonderful LOVE holiday..

Peace & Love,
SassyScribe said…
Hey BrutBrut...

Thank you for the well wishes and holiday greetings! I want to wish you a very Merry Christmas to you and yours.


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