I sit and think about the dating world and all that it entails...but there are still so many questions that I would like some answers to...(no Sassy does not have all the answers, LOL, just most of them)...
For instance, say you meet a person and you like them, they like you, and the conversation, is great, as some would say you "click" "vibe" "mesh" "gel" etc...my question is how soon is too soon to comtemplate the idea of intimacy? Is it three months, six months...two weeks, is there a set time limit for this situation? My answer to that would be as two consenting adults, the time is right when you both choose...the problem with most of my gender is that WE are concerned with looking loose, or easy. Will he call back? Will he want to continue seeing you again...or will you become just a booty call? Something to do...a meantime and in between time woman?
Most people, (self included) are dating more than one person (and if they aren't dating, they are having sex with someone...)...its on a casual basis, you talk on the phone, maybe see one another once a week or every other week, the flow of continuity is there...and you really like hanging with that person, how soon is too soon to stop dating others and only see that person? How do you even broach the subject? Should women, sit back and let the man do the asking or do should she ask him...? Again is there a set time limit for this situation or is it just a feeling...?
I am posting this because I've seen too many of my gender meet a man while dating other men, and they get totally caught up, but the man isn't on the same page as they are. Yet the make one fatal mistake...
Instead of asking these questions, they are afraid of messing up the easy, happy-go-lucky friendship they have for fear of the man saying "I like you, but I don't want to see you exclusively"...this thought is crushing, but its true. However, in the mean time, the woman has stopped dating other men, and have set their cap on HIM...he didn't tell her to stop dating other men, that is something she decided. When I hear this, I ask them, "how do you know the man doesn't feel the same way about you?" if you're too afraid to ask him how he feels about you, then you could possibly let that fear lose you that which you seek. See, he could be thinking that she is just fine with the happy-go-lucky commraderie that you have, and wishes not to "rock the boat"...which brings me back to square one...
How Soon is Too Soon?
SassyScribe
For instance, say you meet a person and you like them, they like you, and the conversation, is great, as some would say you "click" "vibe" "mesh" "gel" etc...my question is how soon is too soon to comtemplate the idea of intimacy? Is it three months, six months...two weeks, is there a set time limit for this situation? My answer to that would be as two consenting adults, the time is right when you both choose...the problem with most of my gender is that WE are concerned with looking loose, or easy. Will he call back? Will he want to continue seeing you again...or will you become just a booty call? Something to do...a meantime and in between time woman?
Most people, (self included) are dating more than one person (and if they aren't dating, they are having sex with someone...)...its on a casual basis, you talk on the phone, maybe see one another once a week or every other week, the flow of continuity is there...and you really like hanging with that person, how soon is too soon to stop dating others and only see that person? How do you even broach the subject? Should women, sit back and let the man do the asking or do should she ask him...? Again is there a set time limit for this situation or is it just a feeling...?
I am posting this because I've seen too many of my gender meet a man while dating other men, and they get totally caught up, but the man isn't on the same page as they are. Yet the make one fatal mistake...
Instead of asking these questions, they are afraid of messing up the easy, happy-go-lucky friendship they have for fear of the man saying "I like you, but I don't want to see you exclusively"...this thought is crushing, but its true. However, in the mean time, the woman has stopped dating other men, and have set their cap on HIM...he didn't tell her to stop dating other men, that is something she decided. When I hear this, I ask them, "how do you know the man doesn't feel the same way about you?" if you're too afraid to ask him how he feels about you, then you could possibly let that fear lose you that which you seek. See, he could be thinking that she is just fine with the happy-go-lucky commraderie that you have, and wishes not to "rock the boat"...which brings me back to square one...
How Soon is Too Soon?
SassyScribe
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