Over the last few months I've come to realise that many people {ie. men and women}, don't understand the concept of dating. Dating is not an exclusive contract between two people, dating is an act of an attempt to turn an aquaintance into a friend, that will hopefully lead to something more...a mutually exclusive agreement.
I recently went on a date with a gentleman, whom I liked, but after he found out that I was continuing to date and/or meet new people, he became offended and said that he couldn't deal with me because I wasn't honest with him. He didn't understand how I could say that I liked him yet, continued to see other people. I explained to him that I did like him, that I could see myself dating him BUT, we had went out once. Before we went out his phone calls were frequent, after we went out...they were infrequent, when I pointed this out to him he said he was busy. He didn't answer my calls until two - three days later. Now maybe I'm stupid, but I took this to mean that he wasn't interested, not that he was busy, he wasn't interested.
Anyway, I stopped trying to get with someone, whom in my opinion was not interested in getting to know me. Furthermore, I went on to explain that as we were aquaintances in the process of getting to know one another, what I did in my spare time was none of his concern and vice versa. I also explained that we had one date, not several dates, not an exclusive agreement, and that one date does not a relationship make.
So I went from a full plate as a friend of mine has said to an empty plate. I would love to have a plate with one option on it, one meal only...that is enough to satisfy me, but until that happens, I will continue to date and get to know new people---no harm, no foul...
SassyScribe
I recently went on a date with a gentleman, whom I liked, but after he found out that I was continuing to date and/or meet new people, he became offended and said that he couldn't deal with me because I wasn't honest with him. He didn't understand how I could say that I liked him yet, continued to see other people. I explained to him that I did like him, that I could see myself dating him BUT, we had went out once. Before we went out his phone calls were frequent, after we went out...they were infrequent, when I pointed this out to him he said he was busy. He didn't answer my calls until two - three days later. Now maybe I'm stupid, but I took this to mean that he wasn't interested, not that he was busy, he wasn't interested.
Anyway, I stopped trying to get with someone, whom in my opinion was not interested in getting to know me. Furthermore, I went on to explain that as we were aquaintances in the process of getting to know one another, what I did in my spare time was none of his concern and vice versa. I also explained that we had one date, not several dates, not an exclusive agreement, and that one date does not a relationship make.
So I went from a full plate as a friend of mine has said to an empty plate. I would love to have a plate with one option on it, one meal only...that is enough to satisfy me, but until that happens, I will continue to date and get to know new people---no harm, no foul...
SassyScribe
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