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Are we attracted to whom we aspire to be? Or are we attracted to those opposite what we are?

I feel that attraction comes in many forms. You can be attracted to a person physically, but not mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. However, you can be attracted to a person on the three latter levels and not attracted to them physically.

Does anyone agree or disagree with me on this? I mean I am all for physical attraction, I mean I have to have the ability and wherewithall to want to look at you. At least! Who wants to wake up to a boogabear each morning. But, personally, I am one of those people that has to be mind-phucked. If you can stimulate me mentally, it stirs the emotional and spiritual side of me, ergo the physical doesn't matter in looks. You've won half the battle, notice I said half. The other half of that physicalness is the mastery of physical stimulation through sexual expression of self. Teaching me to become one with you and vice versa. Not being afraid to tell me how you like and/or not like certain acts and/or aspects of the act(s).

What attracted you to your wife/husband? For those not married yet in committed relationships, what attracted you to this person and what is keeping you from taking that last step? For the single people like myself, if you are currently dating what attracted you to this person? If not dating, what are the attributes that you look for in a mate?

Personally, I like a man that represents a polished professional, sophisticated look. I desire a man that can go from jeans to a tuxedo. I desire a lover of life, that doesn't take himself too seriously, with a terrific sense of humor. He must desire me as much as I desire him. It has to be a mutual respect on all levels. There are four elements {and if you've been paying attention you know them} that I seek and that I feel quantifies and personifies the foundations for a solid relationship. Mental Stimulation, Physical Awareness, Emotional Stability, and Spiritual Well Being...others may disagree.

Some may say its the size of the wallet, his manhood, her "swoosh swoosh" the way she twerks her hips...but I am looking forward to your thoughts...



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