WOW! 2008 has arrived... I want to wish you all a Blessed & Prosperous New Year!
As I prepared for the new year, and a new phase in my life I struggled with where to begin. Unlike alot of people, 2007 was a great year for me...I enjoyed alot of success and a few failurers...I met new people that helped me in my growing process and removed myself from some old ones that were attempting to hold me back. I lost some family members near and dear to me, a wonderful aunt, cousin, and uncle in that order...these losses pulled my family closer together, making us stronger, caring, and more loving than ever.
However, I was still not sure of what my "resolution" for the year 2008 would be, until I ran across this message board posting from the mighty and wise Grumpy from the FAF board... Didi & UB will know whom it is I am talking about...the message is about A C C E P T A N C E...and that is my New Years Resolution...
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One of the greatest causes of our unhappiness, stress, anger, in fact just about every bad feeling is lack of acceptance. We want things to be different. We don't want them to be the way they are because we don't like them the way they are.
If you want to have any sense of peace and joy in your life then you must learn acceptance. The thing that causes resistance to acceptance is that the meaning is mostly misunderstood to mean tolerance and if I accept it, it means I think that it is OK. This is not the case at all. Acceptance does not mean tolerance and it does not mean that you think it is OK (unless of course, it is OK). No. In this sense acceptance is the understanding that things are the way they are and cannot be any different because they are the result of things that were and we can't change the past.
Accepting that things are the way they are does not mean that you have to tolerate it that they continue this way. Accepting that things are the way they are does not mean that you approve of what happened to make them this way. Accepting that things are the way that they are does not mean that it is not necessary to hold people accountable for their actions. What acceptance does is it frees you from the emotional burden caused by wanting the present to be different and allows you to use all your energy on creating the future the way you want it to be.
There are many things in everyone's life that shouldn't have happened. They did. Accept it. You cannot "unhappen" it. What you can do is to take steps to ensure that it doesn't happen again.
There are many things in everyone's life that should have happened. They didn't. Accept it. You cannot go back and "happen" them. What you can do is take steps to do the things you know you should do.
"But I don't like it" you cry. The issue is not whether you like it or not, the issue is will you have the emotional maturity to accept it because only when you accept it can you move on and fix it.
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SassyScribe
As I prepared for the new year, and a new phase in my life I struggled with where to begin. Unlike alot of people, 2007 was a great year for me...I enjoyed alot of success and a few failurers...I met new people that helped me in my growing process and removed myself from some old ones that were attempting to hold me back. I lost some family members near and dear to me, a wonderful aunt, cousin, and uncle in that order...these losses pulled my family closer together, making us stronger, caring, and more loving than ever.
However, I was still not sure of what my "resolution" for the year 2008 would be, until I ran across this message board posting from the mighty and wise Grumpy from the FAF board... Didi & UB will know whom it is I am talking about...the message is about A C C E P T A N C E...and that is my New Years Resolution...
_________________
One of the greatest causes of our unhappiness, stress, anger, in fact just about every bad feeling is lack of acceptance. We want things to be different. We don't want them to be the way they are because we don't like them the way they are.
If you want to have any sense of peace and joy in your life then you must learn acceptance. The thing that causes resistance to acceptance is that the meaning is mostly misunderstood to mean tolerance and if I accept it, it means I think that it is OK. This is not the case at all. Acceptance does not mean tolerance and it does not mean that you think it is OK (unless of course, it is OK). No. In this sense acceptance is the understanding that things are the way they are and cannot be any different because they are the result of things that were and we can't change the past.
Accepting that things are the way they are does not mean that you have to tolerate it that they continue this way. Accepting that things are the way they are does not mean that you approve of what happened to make them this way. Accepting that things are the way that they are does not mean that it is not necessary to hold people accountable for their actions. What acceptance does is it frees you from the emotional burden caused by wanting the present to be different and allows you to use all your energy on creating the future the way you want it to be.
There are many things in everyone's life that shouldn't have happened. They did. Accept it. You cannot "unhappen" it. What you can do is to take steps to ensure that it doesn't happen again.
There are many things in everyone's life that should have happened. They didn't. Accept it. You cannot go back and "happen" them. What you can do is take steps to do the things you know you should do.
"But I don't like it" you cry. The issue is not whether you like it or not, the issue is will you have the emotional maturity to accept it because only when you accept it can you move on and fix it.
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SassyScribe
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