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Relationships vs. Friendship ---What's More Important?

What is more important...your friendship with your friends [i.e. you gurls/his boyz] or your relationship with your S.O.? Think about that for a minute before answering....I ask this because although our relationships, hell all of our relationships are important, which one holds more value and/or significance to/for you?

Is your relationship with your girls more important than the one you have with your man? Does the relationship with your boys have more merit than the one you have with your girl? Why must we compartmentalize our lives? Is it a societal factor that makes us divide our lives between our girlfriends and guyfriends from our lady friends and men friends? Or is it that we just know what we know what we know that keeps the two lives separate. What happens if your boy/girl doesn't like your S.O.? What happens when there is tension when they are near one another? Do you make it a point not to have them at the same event at the same times? How do we balance this delicate situation?

NOTHING in life is a guarantee, not even our friendships although some of them have outlived most marriages and couplings....LOL

I am not saying that folks are meddlers, but I am sure that all of us can attest to having had a friend or friends that were in unhealthy, unstable, not good for their soul- relationships. I'm talking about a form of psychological, mental, and emotional abuse, where that person is either jealous of your relationship or just plain selfish. How many of us have allowed poisonous relationships to come between our life long relationships? When I say life long relationships, I mean friendships with men/women that you have established, nurtured, cared, sustained, and maintained years...and then suddenly, your friends S.O. says whatever, and because you deem yourself in love with this venomous individual you are willing to throw away a lifetime of friendship for a transitory phuck.

I have been wanting to write about this topic for a while now, as it hits very close to home for me...I am curious to know what holds more importance to you?!?!?!?

SassyScribe

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