In 2006 Senator Barack Obama announced his candidacy to campaign for the 2008 Presidential election. The world witnessed the outcome of such an historic moment, and as an African American I was never more proud than if he was a member of my family. It showed me that after eight years of idiocracy and nepotism and just bad decisions coming from the GOP and the Bush administration, that the nation was ready for a change. The nation was abuzz with the fact that there had not been such a ground swell of support for a presidential candidate since President John F. Kennedy. Slowly, the old guard began to see that this young Black man was representative of what many felt…and they believed that he was the change we all needed. However, the right-wing had a field day, calling President Obama a rock star, and then when he went on his European tour prior they dubbed him the Messiah. At that time I shrugged off all comments about Obama being the Messiah, or when folks referred to him as “the secon...

Read the story below...and then tell yourselves, oral sex is harmless...I keep telling folks everything isn't meant to go in your mouth...and here is the other point...if you won't allow a man to penetrate you vaginally/anally raw, why allow a raw penis in your mouth? I mean if you won't Phuck it raw, why Suck it raw...JMO... ------------------------------------ Doctors Say There Is a Link Between Oral Sex and Throat Cancer By CATHY BECKER Oct. 15, 2008 — Teresa Dillon was surprised to learn four years ago that what she deemed as an average sore throat actually was stage 2 cancer on her tonsil. "People think the face of oral cancer is a 70-year-old man who's been chewing tobacco and drinking whiskey all his life," she said. "But the face of oral cancer now is  it's me, a young woman, healthy, nonsmoking, fit." But what really shocked the waitress and then 38-year-old was that the human papillomavirus may have caused her illness, a illness that i...

This is an open letter to women that have children by men that already have or will continue to have multilple children with other women. This blog is for those women [white women] that have children with black men and when the situation doesn’t work out, they then want to remove themselves from that man’s life and his family. They begin to instill in their children the ails of being black and what it means to identify themselves as white. They teach the children to hate a part of themselves, their heritage and bit hright. This is a letter about my nephew who has had multiple children by white women, but because the relationship between Mom & Dad did not work out, his family- my family is being made to suffer. My mother, my sisters and most important of all my nephews and nieces who are BROTHER & SISTER , are going to grow up not knowing the love of a sibling. They are going to grow up not knowing, having, feeling, and sharing that love and affection that is special between si...

Tomorrow I am doing a show on church folks and how their hypocritical stance on issues is pissing me off! First of all, regarding the Black church, there are inherent and systemic problems from how the money is handled to the issue of the high number of choir directors that are gay… I know some folks are gonna get their panties in a bunch over this…but I have been witness to folks shouting AMEN at 11:03 am each and every Sunday and those same “Christians” are outside saying “did you see what that Bitch had on”…I’m like WTF…look I sit in church and my mind is thinking about a sex scene for a book or even having sex…I’m not saying that its right, but I am not one of those folks going around bragging about being “saved” yet having “unsaved” actions. I know how hard it is to walk the walk…to stay on the straight and narrow…but I also know that although my mind may not be right at times…my heart is…so when I hear about pastors having children out of wedlock or that choir members are fucking...

This blog is going to sound contradictory to what I have written in the past...but I have to say this...as a woman I can tell you that I am so tired communicating my thoughts, my wants, my wishes and my desires to men. When I listen to professional phsycologists & phsychiatrist they are quick to tell people that you have to "talk out" your feelings. Don't allow anything to fester...but as a woman, how many times are we going to continue to talk and receive no action from it? When is it time for women to shut the hell up and rest out on it? I have learned to ask a man a question....and then be quiet! Yeah, I know I have the gift of gab and I have been known to want to talk a whole in someone's head, but as hard as it is for me to do it...I have learned to stifle my motor mouth and rest it out...lay back up in the cut, and not say a word....hhhhh...not a sound from me and it forces him to answer the question. Now whether or not he chooses to answer is another issue....

Why is it when a man says he is looking to settle down, he is viewed as being tired of the game? Yet when a woman says she is ready to settle down because of the same reasoning, she is now viewed as being desperate or in a rush to marry. Why is it that women are expected to forgive a cheating/philandering husband, yet a man is not expected to forgive a cheating/philandering wife? Why is it an expectation that a woman will stand by her man regardless of his misdeed? Why is it that single men who right/talk about relationships are viewed as giving sound advice, yet a single woman that does the same is viewed as being bitter and angry? Why is it that a man who engages in multiple relationships is just a man “doing his thang”, yet a woman doing the same is a whore? We are bombarded with various forms of media that continue to support this double standard. Let’s start with the most recent case of Governor Spitzer from NY who ran for public office vowing to eradicate crime and here he transp...

Interesting find online... -------------------------------------------- http://health.yahoo.com/experts/m...sex/78433/what-makes-a-man-marry/ What Makes a Man Marry? I have a friend who spent two weeks in Europe with his girlfriend, and some of it didn't go too well. He didn't like the haircut she got pre-trip. She didn't like the way his eye wandered on the streets of Paris. They fought some. So when my friend got back home, he asked a wise friend (no, certainly not me) what he should do. Here's the advice he got: Every relationship is going to come up against some obstacles. They'll either break it up, or make it stronger. If it ends, it wasn't meant to be. If you push through, the relationship will be better than ever. That's stuck with me for a long time, in part because my friend is now 21 years into marriage with that one-time girlfriend. So I'm just guessing that their relationship grew stronger when they faced obstacles. What made the differenc...

It’s no secret that for the past six years my sister and my two cousins, and I throw a fabulously hot Valentine’s Day Party. Its live, off the hook, and interactive, with games, food, music, and prizes…there are sample drinks passed out each hour…a chocolate fountain with huge California vine ripened succulent strawberries…and a wide array of other desserts and delectable morsels. There is a good time had by all, young and the young at heart. We do discriminate with ticket sales because we only want the Grown & Sexy in attendance…the exception we make is for the parents and aunts and uncles…hell, they taught us how to throw a party…how to get different groups to mix and mingle and stop sitting around all bougie and shyt. But as I write this I am perplexed…Why is it that the word Valentine tends to scare and/or invoke a fear in people? Is it an admission or an acceptance of their own loneliness? I wonder? You know I’ve been throwing this party for six years with no date and when I h...

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You know, I have been in a bytchy, pissy ass, mood for the last couple of days…just stupid, asinine shyt that folks do have really pissed me off…phew…I need to breathe! I am a Starbucks fiend, and for Christmas a friend gave me a $50 gift card…so I stop each morning on my way to work, its part of my routine…for the past couple of months there has been a woman that sits outside in her car and you’d think that she was a customer, but no, she is one of those individuals that really gets next to me… See I know this is going to piss folks off, but this woman is a Witness…a Jehovah Witness…this woman and folks like her get to me…for several reasons, one of them is that I feel, and these are just my opinions, but they push their religion on you, by trying to get you to purchase their little booklet or whatever ---oooooh The Watchtower or Watch Light whatever, anyway, every morning she sees me and every mooring I say “no thanks” and keep it moving.. But this morning, being in the mood that I a...

This was forwarded to me by a friend...the author is unknown...as my friend stated "But true on so many levels..." I am interested in your thoughts/comments on this... ____________________________________________________________ The KKK leader stepped to the podium, his hood lowered around his shoulders and a look of disgust on his face. He said, 'Sorry guys but this will be our last meeting; we're going out of business,' A member stood up in back. 'But why sir?' The leader sighed, 'Well, reverend, the Blacks are doing a better job getting rid of themselves than we ever did, so we are no longer needed,' There were rumblings and protest. The leader raised his hand to silence the Klan members, and said, 'Their rap music says more vile things about Black women than we ever thought of.' The members grudgingly nodded in approval. The Imperial Dragon continued: 'And their women write books and make songs that demean black men better than my t...

"You know what Sassy, I haven't sucked dyck in a year and it doesn't seem to phase my man at all. He goes down on me and I still don't reciprocate...but I am trying so hard not to go outside of my relationship to get the loving I need that I am at my wits end. I have created the atmosphere, I have created the ambiance, I dress up in provocative clothing, I am sexy and sultry and very seductive. He comes home and surprise I am dressed and waiting for him...and yet and still I can't get the loving I want, need, crave, and desire. I need to be phucked and until my man gives me the loving I need, he won't get the type of loving he wants! But I don't think its working, he isn't even asking me for it and although I don't think, feel, or believe that someone else is giving it to him, he isn't asking me to...how many times do I have to tell him what I want, how many ways do I have to show him what I need---I need help!" ...anonymous in Maryland 11-...

I am going to try and write this blog without coming off or sounding like a tired bitter woman...but dammit I may not be able to be quite as objective as I would like...I have said it too many times that the relations between men and women has deteriorated. Everyday the situation seems to get worse. The thought processess and the way in which people think (nee men) amazes me...or is it that I think in such a common sense fashion that the way in which others think isn't with common sense??? I don't...the confusion of fending off inapproriate phrases, gestures, comments is getting to the point of making me nasty...and trust me I don't want to be nasty for no reason...I work daily on affirmations of my blessings and my satisfaction with my life... What makes you think you can do one of the following from just a mere hello: NO you can't phuck me NO you can't eat me NO you can't lick my azz NO you can't phuck me in the azz NO I ain't going down on you NO I ai...

How many single, eligible women feel that God has given up on them because He hasn’t sent a person into their lives or they believe He has sent the wrong person into their lives. In Tyler Perry’s movie WHY DID I GET MARRIED, Jill Scott’s character made this statement. We all know that Jill is a plus size woman, but for the movie she had to put on a “fat” suit to give her body more girth, which was understandable in the end. She felt that God had placed her in a marriage with a man that didn’t love her, didn’t like her, didn’t desire her, and just didn’t want her anymore. When he was done, he discarded her like a piece of trash, taking with it her self worth, her self esteem, self love, and self respect. His negative words ripped through her soul and tore through what little bit of her there was left. And then along came THE SHERIFF, who saw this woman for the beautiful, kind and loving person that she was, regardless of her size. However, through all that she went through, she was able...

When did dating become so complicated? Why is it that its okay for a man to be choosey and picky with his choice of mate/companion, yet not okay for a woman? Why is it okay for men to ask "why are you single", yet don't want the same asked of them? Why is it that I am so tired of answering questions like this, that it is amazing...there is so much bullshyt going on now in the dating world to the point that its just crazy...bottom line is...men and women don't know what in the hell it is they want...lets cut out the physical, because I would be lying if I said I didn't want/desire good looking men, but everything that looks good isn't always good for you...isn't that what Momma told you??? On paper folks sound really good, I mean its like "jack pot" and then you get to know this psycho skitzo nut job and you wonder what in the hell happened! How many of us have gotten caught up with some new shyt and then find out that after you knock the dust off...

Thinking about past relationships...I keep coming back to a "just in case" clause...we all have had them, you know the ones, "lets just be friends" after you have been together for a minute, a little more than friends, but nothing quite solid...this means they have met another person, and want to test the waters, but "just in case" it doesn't work out, they can try and come back to you...or this is another good one, its not you its me...another JIC clause, again testing the waters to see what works, but old trusty is right there as the fallback guy/girl... To hell with "just in case" its holding on to something that just isn't meant to be...I mean is it safe to say, that when we continue, these sorts of behaviors or a pattern of having sex with one or more of our exes or past "friends" as the term is fondly called now...are we setting ourselves up to fail for future happiness or relationships? If we continue to hold on to past r...

How do you keep a person attracted once you have piqued their interest? As much as I talk about playing hard to get and ain't get got, sometimes playing hard to get can net the result of being got. Of course this only works if the person is truly interested in you...if they aren't then its an act of futility because sometimes if you don't know how to play the game right, then you end up pissing them off or pushing them away...and that is what we don't want... Playing hard to get at times can be a necessary evil, because as much as some of us hate to do it, and as much as some of us may not be very good at doing it, however, it can weed out the bad apples so to speak. If they only have a passing interest in you, then playing hard to get for them is going to prove to be too much work, and in the end they will stop the hard press pursuit. This can enligthen us in other ways as well, by increasing our awareness to our surroundings and also showing us what it is we like, and...

Okay, yall know that I write my blogs to try to get women to understand that the things they do and say contradict their actions when it comes to men and then they get upset, call me a woman hater and say that I need to write about the stupid shyt men do...and sometimes by the things they say...men are always harping on the fact that women need validation from them and how they don't want any woman to feel the need to use them for validation, but what about men???? I know that some women validate themselves and measure their worth as a woman by whether or not they have a man. They see affection and attention and sex, as wanting, needing, and loving. But men need validation too...we see it everyday in the type of car that they drive, the job they choose/career path, and most especially the women they choose. Most men talk about their IBW and most always she has this super fantastic body and is a straight dime, oftentimes forgetting to look in the mirror and see that they aren't ...

There is an old saying that people come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime and it is up to you to determine their purpose in your life. Folks will tell you that if its broke sometimes you have to wonder and evaluate if it is really worth fixing. Have you taken the time to analyze your friendships and relationships? Have you taken the time to figure out why that person is in your life? Are you still holding on to the hope that he or she will change...don't! When a person shows you who it is they are, believe them...they are not going to change their core personality for you...they may change or stop a bad habit, but it wasn't for you it was a quality of life issue that they felt they had to deal with. Take some time to yourself, do some soul searching...some of you are holding on to poisonous relationships and people in your life and you keep wondering why things are happening...and why there is so much drama...negative people are draining of your positive ener...

Over the past weekend, I received alot of calls from friends going through various relationship issues and drama...but the underlying factor with all of them was trusting their third eye. You know that gut feeling you get when something is just not quite right...I N T U I T I O N. Do you trust your intuition? Has it ever led you astry? Down the wrong path? Have you ever felt that something just wasn't what they seemed, because you had this gut wrenching intuition that just wouldn't let go? It held you in its grips and although you felt something was wrong with every fiber of your being, you had to let it go because of lack of evidence or just plain insecurity and paranoia on your part? Some of the situations that I was made aware of, as a woman I guess I could see how the women would think that something was amiss...the brothers did admit to not answering all phone calls and "going dark" (incommunicado) which could make an insecure woman's intuition to over react....