You know, I have been in a bytchy, pissy ass, mood for the last couple of days…just stupid, asinine shyt that folks do have really pissed me off…phew…I need to breathe! I am a Starbucks fiend, and for Christmas a friend gave me a $50 gift card…so I stop each morning on my way to work, its part of my routine…for the past couple of months there has been a woman that sits outside in her car and you’d think that she was a customer, but no, she is one of those individuals that really gets next to me… See I know this is going to piss folks off, but this woman is a Witness…a Jehovah Witness…this woman and folks like her get to me…for several reasons, one of them is that I feel, and these are just my opinions, but they push their religion on you, by trying to get you to purchase their little booklet or whatever ---oooooh The Watchtower or Watch Light whatever, anyway, every morning she sees me and every mooring I say “no thanks” and keep it moving.. But this morning, being in the mood that I a...

I wonder how deep love truly is…you know it’s the end of the year and I have been reflecting on love, money, men, success, power, sex, relationships...just life in general. I have had money come to me and go…I have had success come to me in stages, and I have seen friends professional careers take off with a blast. But what I have noticed the most, what intrigues me the best is the inner workings of relationships…why are they together, what makes them tick…what keeps them together, and what will be the straw that breaks the camels back. I have watched couples come together in holy matrimony and I’ve seen couples torn apart by selfishness, jealousy, money woes, and infidelity. See, it’s the latter that I am focusing on…because I know of some older couples, and the men have been running women all of my life…just straight ole time womanizing men… and I think to myself, the women involved, their wives really took their vows seriously. And for some who have girlfriend status for more than ...

I am going to try and write this blog without coming off or sounding like a tired bitter woman...but dammit I may not be able to be quite as objective as I would like...I have said it too many times that the relations between men and women has deteriorated. Everyday the situation seems to get worse. The thought processess and the way in which people think (nee men) amazes me...or is it that I think in such a common sense fashion that the way in which others think isn't with common sense??? I don't...the confusion of fending off inapproriate phrases, gestures, comments is getting to the point of making me nasty...and trust me I don't want to be nasty for no reason...I work daily on affirmations of my blessings and my satisfaction with my life... What makes you think you can do one of the following from just a mere hello: NO you can't phuck me NO you can't eat me NO you can't lick my azz NO you can't phuck me in the azz NO I ain't going down on you NO I ai...

How many single, eligible women feel that God has given up on them because He hasn’t sent a person into their lives or they believe He has sent the wrong person into their lives. In Tyler Perry’s movie WHY DID I GET MARRIED, Jill Scott’s character made this statement. We all know that Jill is a plus size woman, but for the movie she had to put on a “fat” suit to give her body more girth, which was understandable in the end. She felt that God had placed her in a marriage with a man that didn’t love her, didn’t like her, didn’t desire her, and just didn’t want her anymore. When he was done, he discarded her like a piece of trash, taking with it her self worth, her self esteem, self love, and self respect. His negative words ripped through her soul and tore through what little bit of her there was left. And then along came THE SHERIFF, who saw this woman for the beautiful, kind and loving person that she was, regardless of her size. However, through all that she went through, she was able...

Saturday, September 29th I sat on a relationship panel at the Baltimore Book Festival, , it was called LOVE, LUST, & REDEMPTION, and myself, along with fellow authors Tariiq Omari Walton and Kenda Bell, discussed the current state of affairs between men and women. I spoke on women and accountability, and how we are the gatekeepers to our hearts, minds, and body. I spoke on being responsible for your actions, and to command and demand respect, not just from men, but from everyone that you allow into the inner circle of your life. Tariiq spoke about Love vs Lust and how the to are different aspects of relationships...and Kenda touched on redemption...but all three of us agreed that the current state of affairs between men and women is sad. Men and women truly want to get together and be companion's, lovers, and friends to one another, yet there seems to be so many barriers and stipulations hindering us from coming together. A friend recently told me that they wouldn't want to...

"How can you give relationship advice, when you aren't in a relationship yourself?" This is the question asked of me by a female friend...she said that my blogs and talk show are great, she really enjoys reading and listening to them, but she doesn't understand how I can give out advice when I am not a current participant in a relationship at the moment. I stated that Dr. Spock never had children but that didn't stop him for penning a best selling novel that was the model for how the baby boomers raised their children. This person is a near and dear friend, so when she said it, it hurt my feelings and made me wonder if this is what everyone thinks. Then I pulled myself up by my bootstraps and told her that I do this to help women NOT to make the same mistakes I did. Having been in situations that were dumb, where I was STUPID, and naive, and just so damn gullible and blinded by those rose colored lenses I wore, that I hope that other women will read and listen and...

Its been said that...modern women don't cook...traditional women do...traditional men are gentlemen...modern men are dogs...traditional women knew their role and place, modern women continue to get out of pocket. Traditional women are supportive, uplifting, respectful, loving, and kind. Modern women are argumentative, lazy, potty mouth, and only seem to be willing to perform random acts of kindness if it will get them somewhere. Traditional men are gentlemen, knows how to treat a woman like a queen, and is the ultimate caring, supportive, responsible provider. Modern men don't care don't give a phuck about treating you like a lady they on are on a stick and move tip. (before you bitch and moan, I generalized because that is how the thoughts came to me...not all men and women are like that)... (((smile))) I have talked to alot of people and this argument will probably go on until the end of time...but is there truth in any of the above statements? If you sit back and compare...

There is an old saying that people come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime and it is up to you to determine their purpose in your life. Folks will tell you that if its broke sometimes you have to wonder and evaluate if it is really worth fixing. Have you taken the time to analyze your friendships and relationships? Have you taken the time to figure out why that person is in your life? Are you still holding on to the hope that he or she will change...don't! When a person shows you who it is they are, believe them...they are not going to change their core personality for you...they may change or stop a bad habit, but it wasn't for you it was a quality of life issue that they felt they had to deal with. Take some time to yourself, do some soul searching...some of you are holding on to poisonous relationships and people in your life and you keep wondering why things are happening...and why there is so much drama...negative people are draining of your positive ener...

This morning I was listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show and the topic dealt with a woman sleeping with not one but TWO married men and on top of that she is dating single men...and having sex with ALL OF THEM. Now she stated that one of the married men she HAS to see two to three times per week, while the other married man she only has to see two to three times a month. The latter man has more free time and can spend days on end AND get this, she can call his house at all hours of the night and she stated that there were no repercussions. I had to laugh because my own talk show will be dealing with this very same topic this Thursday, August 16th, @ 9pm eastern, www.blogtalkradio.com/sassyentertainment ... Its funny, we all know of women who strictly deal with married and/or involved men. Personally, I have heard women ask a man, once informed that he was married, they would say damn, then their next question would be "are you happy?" WTF is that...once you noticed the ...

Does relationship courting still exist beyond the dinner & then the hotel? In the realm of dating the art of courting, appears to be a lost art. Gone are the days where a man picked you up at your house. Gone are the days where you sat on the porch and listened to the “record player”. Gone are the days, where the man asked your father and/or guardian if he could pursue his interest in you. The gentlemanly courtships of yesterday are gone. The first time I heard the word courting, I was sixteen, when my grandmother or Mumma as we called her asked me if I was courting. When I furled my brow she changed it to “going steady”. She was the first person to explain to me the artful skill of a man that goes a courting with a woman. To court a person is an attempt to allure and/or obtain a more formal relationship. In the olden days, the woman you courted, you married. Handholding was a form of intimacy that implied a promise. Today, one or the other gender often scorns hand holding, snuggli...

Ladies have you ever sat down and examined why it is that you are still single? Have you gone over in your mind all of the bad relationships that you have been in and stayed in and after you left you wondered why? Personally, after I put myself in a relationship with a man that didn't know he was in a relationship, I knew I had some issues I had to deal with. The man was telling me repeatedly that he didn't want a relationship, however, his actions belied his words. I misconstrued his constant phone calls and wanting me to be near me as us having a relationship...when in fact we were just "kicking it" as he said. So with my feelings hurt, I wanted to lash out at him, but I had to check myself and note that I didn't listen to what he was saying. While I cut myself off from other men, he didn't cut himself off to other women. I had to learn to listen, and respect that man for telling me the truth even if I didn't want to hear it. I had to look in the mirror ...

In a conversation with a friend last evening, we got on the topic of my next show...( What Do Black Men Think of Black Women", 7-27-07, www.blogtalkradio.com/sassyentertainment @ 9pm, call in 646.716.7414 ) and inevitably I thought of another topic. He stated that the problem with black women is the lack of a positive male role model in their lives currently and/or in their past. He said that because the black man has neglected his duties regarding parenthood and because some men would rather run game on women, that the women have developed these so called negative characteristics that seem to be indicative of black women. He doesn't agree that this is the reason why brothers date women of other races...he does however, believe that this is the reason why black women can appear mean and negative to some...and vulnerable and easy to others. It got me to thinking about his statement, and having grown up with my father, and having a come from a loving background whose parents are...

I found this on another message board...check it out! 20 Things Holding Black Women Back 1. Superwoman Syndrome ---I’ve been with a few females who thought they can multitask effectively. It was real annoying when we were talking on the phone. They usually seem very distracted but still insist they are still listening. YEAH RIGHT. Hint: Sisters, it's impossible to work fulltime, raise kids fulltime, go partying fulltime, and chase men fulltime! You'll end up focusing on one and neglecting the others. 2. Fear of Being Alone ---This is all too common with Black females who always are in a relationship and use a “backup” if needed. These backups are usually the "nicer" brothas who think they are number one with the female, but in actuality, they are just getting played. If you want real respect and admiration from a Black woman become, a thug and a felon. 3. Hair, Hair and Hair ---Yea what’s up with females who pay 75+ dollars every two weeks to get their hair done? W...

I was talking on another board and one of the women asked this question... Is the state of the black church one of the reasons why many black women remain single? Do men control the state of marriage or does pussy power still prevail? Now my response addressed alot of the other comments, but the basic premise is again about women...and this is what SassyScribe had to say.... ------------------------------------------------------ The problem is that women aren't being honest...and they aren't listening to what men are telling them. If you meet a man and he tells you that he is not getting married and not looking for a relationship, why then do you continue to stay with him? There is no tried and true method to getting a man to the altar...what women need to do is stop trying to define themselves by the fact that they have a man in their life. Stop buying into the fact that good men are in church...there are alot of men in church, the majority are married, or gay and the singles ...

Sassy has a dilemma...and maybe you can help me shed some light and gain clarification...shyt, here are the questions... Should a woman suck the dyck of every man she has sex with? Should a man eat the puzzy of every woman he has sex with? _______________________________________________________________________________________________ My last radio show dealt with Oral Sex Nazi's and the issue as to why men were not going down on their women. The show aired at midnight and for the first half an hour I was basically talking to myself, but hey it was a Friday night and most people are out in the streets or home asleep. To hear the archieved show click on the link www.blogtalkradio.com/sassyentertainment. But I am trying to understand what the lady caller was saying. See Sassy is not a prude and very open when it comes to sex, sexual activities, etc. I try really hard not to judge folks, and as I wrote in yesterdays blog, everyone judges people whether we like it or not...but in this i...

This past weekend marked my families 31st Annual Crab Feast in Baltimore, with over 1100 people in attendance! I know that my girlfriends, family and myself, had a muphaphucking ball! I made well over 500 jello shooters, that I shared with the 200 people that purchased tickets from me. But today, I want to discuss what I saw over the weekend. You know what...I am all for women with banging ass bodies making the most of their "assets", but there is a fine line between sexy and slutty, and trashy and classy. Some of the "uniforms" this weekend, varied from the tame, to the extreme. There were women showing their tits and ass and were offended at the comments that some of the men made because they are wearing a whorish or slutty "uniform". Yes, I sound bitchy, because that is the mood I am in now. Don't wear the dress cut up to your ass showing your damn puzzy to the world and then get upset when a man steps to you on a strictly sexual tip. Don't get ...

In a conversation with my best friend, she called me after reading my previous blog "Do Black Men Truly Despise & Loathe the Black Woman?" She understood that the characteristics the gentlemen described are in all of us, both men and women. She and I both found one or two that ascribe to us currently, but that does not a bad Black woman make. So she asked me to ask the following questions: Why is it that every question posed of the black woman is in the negative? Why is it that when we speak of the black woman we only see the wrong doings? Why is it that when speaking of the bi-racial relationships….that people only speak of the black woman as being hurt and envious of the black men dating white women and not see the hurt and humiliation that white men feel that his white woman is dating the black man. It can’t always be blamed on the black woman for all wrongs. If so, contrary to belief, there are still 99% of black men still dating the black woman……which goes to show bl...

Everywhere I turn or look on the internet I see threads about black men disparaging and slandering black women. Is it me...I am wondering, "Why do they despise us so much?" Do black men truly despise and loathe the black woman? Is it a select few or is it a pervasive attitude throughout? In a conversation with a friend, he easily rolled out ten character traits of black women, his discription/definition as to what he perceives them and why black men are more accepting of dating women of other races. He stated that gone are the days of the "good black woman", the likes of Betty Shabbazz and Coretta Scott King, where they uplifted their men and allowed them to be men . "In the good ole days black women would submit to the man as the head of household." He said that the traits I am about to list equals "the average sistergirl in the city" ATTITUDE! 1. Unsupportive - show extreme respect for their men; allowing the man to do what he does to ele...

This article was forwarded to me and quite frankly, I couldn't have said it better myself. I have added a note or two, but other than that, the author has some valid & salient points...kudos to him! Once you've read it, I'd love to hear your thoughts...SassyScribe FINDING AND KEEPING A LIFE PARTNER Golden rules for finding your life partner by Dov Heller, M.A When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50%,it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Miss. Right! If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say: "We're in love"; I believe this is the #1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love.Though this may sound "not politically correct", there's a profoundtruth here. Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love i...

Are you noticing that more and more people are not marrying for love, rather more for convenience. As we grow older and some of us lower our standards and expectations, do you find that they are marrying to stem off living their senior years alone? Is it just me? I am beginning to think that with some of the things that people do "in the name of love" makes me really wonder sometimes..."whats love got to do with it"? Really, you are finding people committing murder/suicide scenarios or just plaine ole murders...all in the name of love. You find women married to and/or living with/dating notorious lotharios and yet and still they don't leave, because "I love him, and we can work this out?" Or he buys them a gift, sends them flowers, takes them on a trip, he does something monetarily to make her forget that he was just swimming in another sea. I talked to a male friend about this and he stated "you call it falling in love and quite frankly, I don...