The placement of the engagement ring has been a long held tradition of showing your status as no longer being available and it’s what some women secretly wish for when dating. However, there is a new trend.  The 2012 tend---the Man Engagement Ring or the MANGAGEMENT RING. Now some women feel that if he has to be managed, why would they want him? But, it’s not the fact that he is being managed, it is just showing that he is no longer on the market. That he is affianced. That he is betrothed. That he is taken! It’s a symbolic gesture like the diamond engagement ring for the women. It can be represented in a plain silver, titanium, or stainless steel band. Some women are even springing for Plain Platinum or gold, with an upgrade of adding diamonds for the ‘big day’. Yet when asked, more women had an issue with such a concept rather than men. Most men had no problem wearing a ‘management’ ring. They felt that it leveled the playing field somewhat. That if he ask...

Three years ago I read an article in the Washington Post by Joy Jones entitled “Marriage is for White People” and the article talked to adolescent children who claimed that marriage was for white people. It went on to state various statistics, i.e. since the 1960’s the marriage rate for African American’s has continued to drop. Statistics such as this and others of its ilk about Black women and the Black community prompted me to ask why is it that marriage is not preached, instilled, taught, or encouraged in our community. Having grown up in a two parent household, whose parents are still alive and together, I witnessed love, struggle, trials, and tribulations. I witnessed infidelity and counseling, and two people working together to create, grow, build, learn, and love---together. It is the reason why I believe in the sanctity of marriage. I believe in standing before God and repeating vows to merge your lives into one. I believe in the sacrament of the vows. What I don’t believe ...

In the past weeks I have trolled several online communities and have witnessed various postings relating of, for, and about relationships. “Why He Won’t Marry”, “Men That Don’t Want Relationships”, “How To Propose To Your Man” and the list goes on and on. Getting that man to the church on time and not making him make you wait forever seems to be a common thread topic on most message boards. People all over are celebrating the fact that now non-heterosexual couples can legally marry in California? Correct me if I am wrong, but haven't they been doing “commitment” ceremonies for years and hasn’t that been a way of showing their love and I don’t know maybe COMMITMENT to one another!!! Why is the chance to “marry” so important IF YOU ARE ALREADY COMMITTED EMOTIONALLY, MENTALLY, SPIRITUALLY, AND PHYSICALLY TO THE ONE YOU LOVE !!!! I don’t want to hear that they can now enjoy spousal benefits yada yada yada. Some companies, especially those in heavily populated non-heterosexual areas alr...

This popped up on a message board that I talk on...yet it is so very appropriate for my show topic tomorrow...its a letter a black man wrote about why he cheated on his wife... I found this interesting to say the least...he touched on some points that I have heard some men make, but does that excuse the behavior? What are your thoughts on this... ______________________________________________________________ *Why I Cheat on My Beautiful Black Wife I am a black man and a cheater. Not all the time, just every now and then. The itch comes to me, and no matter what my wife does, I still can't help but want another woman. At least for a night, or two, or three. I love my wife very much. No woman I've ever met or will meet will hold a more important place in my life. I also love my kids, our house, my job and the fish in my daughter's room. I love everything about my life at home, even though my relationship has become dull and rocky. But while I love having a strong black family...

Interesting find online... -------------------------------------------- http://health.yahoo.com/experts/m...sex/78433/what-makes-a-man-marry/ What Makes a Man Marry? I have a friend who spent two weeks in Europe with his girlfriend, and some of it didn't go too well. He didn't like the haircut she got pre-trip. She didn't like the way his eye wandered on the streets of Paris. They fought some. So when my friend got back home, he asked a wise friend (no, certainly not me) what he should do. Here's the advice he got: Every relationship is going to come up against some obstacles. They'll either break it up, or make it stronger. If it ends, it wasn't meant to be. If you push through, the relationship will be better than ever. That's stuck with me for a long time, in part because my friend is now 21 years into marriage with that one-time girlfriend. So I'm just guessing that their relationship grew stronger when they faced obstacles. What made the differenc...

I wonder how deep love truly is…you know it’s the end of the year and I have been reflecting on love, money, men, success, power, sex, relationships...just life in general. I have had money come to me and go…I have had success come to me in stages, and I have seen friends professional careers take off with a blast. But what I have noticed the most, what intrigues me the best is the inner workings of relationships…why are they together, what makes them tick…what keeps them together, and what will be the straw that breaks the camels back. I have watched couples come together in holy matrimony and I’ve seen couples torn apart by selfishness, jealousy, money woes, and infidelity. See, it’s the latter that I am focusing on…because I know of some older couples, and the men have been running women all of my life…just straight ole time womanizing men… and I think to myself, the women involved, their wives really took their vows seriously. And for some who have girlfriend status for more than ...

"You know what Sassy, I haven't sucked dyck in a year and it doesn't seem to phase my man at all. He goes down on me and I still don't reciprocate...but I am trying so hard not to go outside of my relationship to get the loving I need that I am at my wits end. I have created the atmosphere, I have created the ambiance, I dress up in provocative clothing, I am sexy and sultry and very seductive. He comes home and surprise I am dressed and waiting for him...and yet and still I can't get the loving I want, need, crave, and desire. I need to be phucked and until my man gives me the loving I need, he won't get the type of loving he wants! But I don't think its working, he isn't even asking me for it and although I don't think, feel, or believe that someone else is giving it to him, he isn't asking me to...how many times do I have to tell him what I want, how many ways do I have to show him what I need---I need help!" ...anonymous in Maryland 11-...

How many single, eligible women feel that God has given up on them because He hasn’t sent a person into their lives or they believe He has sent the wrong person into their lives. In Tyler Perry’s movie WHY DID I GET MARRIED, Jill Scott’s character made this statement. We all know that Jill is a plus size woman, but for the movie she had to put on a “fat” suit to give her body more girth, which was understandable in the end. She felt that God had placed her in a marriage with a man that didn’t love her, didn’t like her, didn’t desire her, and just didn’t want her anymore. When he was done, he discarded her like a piece of trash, taking with it her self worth, her self esteem, self love, and self respect. His negative words ripped through her soul and tore through what little bit of her there was left. And then along came THE SHERIFF, who saw this woman for the beautiful, kind and loving person that she was, regardless of her size. However, through all that she went through, she was able...

Trolling the internet I found a comment made by a gentleman stating that black women were not raised to be wives. I had to stop and think about that, but as much as I hate to admit it, I think he has a point...I didn't say he was right, I said he has a point. Now, are men raised to be husbands? Do they understand and recognise what it takes to for a woman to "cleave unto him". Does she understand what if means? According to this gentlemen, black women were raised to believe that men are not about anything. That you should get all that you can financially from that man while you can...that women are taught to play men before he can play her. Falling back on old sayings, like nevet let your left hand know what your right hand is doing or make he pay girl. Is it because that some sisters were raised with the mentality that brothers ain't about anything and that brothers aren't to be trusted? I mean you hear all the time that a man will be whatever it is you tell him ...

This morning I was listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show and the topic dealt with a woman sleeping with not one but TWO married men and on top of that she is dating single men...and having sex with ALL OF THEM. Now she stated that one of the married men she HAS to see two to three times per week, while the other married man she only has to see two to three times a month. The latter man has more free time and can spend days on end AND get this, she can call his house at all hours of the night and she stated that there were no repercussions. I had to laugh because my own talk show will be dealing with this very same topic this Thursday, August 16th, @ 9pm eastern, www.blogtalkradio.com/sassyentertainment ... Its funny, we all know of women who strictly deal with married and/or involved men. Personally, I have heard women ask a man, once informed that he was married, they would say damn, then their next question would be "are you happy?" WTF is that...once you noticed the ...

This article was mailed to me...what do you think about it...should sisters consider that maybe their prince charming isn't a Black Knight, but rather a White one? Read on and share your thoughts... ______________________________________________________________________ More Black Women Consider 'Dating Out' By DIONNE WALKER, Associated Press Writer Sat Aug 4, 3:44 PM RICHMOND, Va. - For years, Toinetta Jones played the dating game by her mom's strict rule. "Mom always told me, 'Don't you ever bring a white man home,'" recalled Jones, echoing an edict issued by many Southern, black mothers. But at 37, the Alexandria divorcee has shifted to dating "anyone who asks me out," regardless of race. "I don't sit around dreaming about the perfect black man I'm going to marry," Jones said. Black women around the country also are reconsidering deep-seated reservations toward interracial relationships, reservations rooted in America...

I was listening to a morning talk show during my morning commute and they were discussing the ongoing problems of a popular minister and his ministry here in Baltimore. Rumors abound that this minister, has issues with extemporaneous hoochies. No other way to put it...if you look at this brother, he exudes a hustler's mentality (IMO)...what folks call a "pimp in the pulpit". This host stated that many of his issues are with women and that his wife should understand or at least should've understood that she was marrying a man that women were going to be attraced to. I can't remember the exact quote, however, it went along the lines of women needing to understand that a man that is powerful and wealthy will have extra marital affairs, and that knowing that, they should turn a blind eye to a rich mans transgressions. Now I understand that women are attracted to men with money and power, and in a sense I do understand why he said it, because we see so many "non a...