Dear SassyScribe, I came across your blog and I wanted you to know that I love it. I have a problem and I want your help. I have learned that I do not trust men. Its like I am always waiting for the other shoe to drop in any situation. I don't care if I am meeting a man, I automatically expect him to not be entirely truthful. When I am in a full fleged relationship I think at some point he is lying to me. I read between the lines all the time even when there isn not need to. I don't want to be like this but I think I may have lost alot of men because of my distrust of men. Can you help me or point me in the right direction.  Trust is my issue Nashville, TN _________________________________ Dear Trust Is My Issue: First I want to thank you and I hope I can continue to keep you as a valued reader. Please share the blog with your friends. I have a confession as well. I too at one time had major trust issues with men because someone very close t...

I'd promised myself that I would not succumb to the niggardom of this entire personal debacle of Tiger Woods. This whole public outrage of "how dare he" or "how could he" is just amazing to me. From the likes of noted celebrity attorney, Gloria Allred who called his apology a “staged public stunt” http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/02/19/gloria-allred-tiger-woods_n_469184.html , to the tricks who actually were integral in “kissing and telling” honestly pisses me off. Folks are screaming for his head like Marie Antoinette, in such a hypocritical matter, appalled me! They should be outraged for the Catholic Priest preying on the altar boys, or for the Child Pedophiles who molest and damage children, but no they are upset over a grown ass man who just couldn’t keep his penis in his pants. Is it Tiger’s fault that women are attracted to money, fame, and power? Is it his fault that they prostituted themselves just to say “I slept with Tiger Woods”? The women that Eld...

If 2009 was deemed the year of infidelity, then I fear what 2010 may become. We say that in jest and/or as a joke, but seriously, let’s look at the number of people in the news for not being able to keep themselves to themselves. If you want to call a spade a spade, I would have to say honestly, that I don’t feel sorry for any person, be it male of female who allows their skin hunger take over their better judgment. Why should I sympathize with a woman who knowingly decides to have an affair, become a mistress who whatever term you want to call it, and then when she finds out that she wasn’t the only woman he was involved with, she wants to be the scorned woman? What type of attitude is that? I don’t feel sorry for “the other woman” because IMO that is the price you pay. Payment for being a mistress is the probability (and the odds are high) that you are not the only woman in his life that he deals with outside of his marriage. You get what you get when you decide to go down that pat...

This popped up on a message board that I talk on...yet it is so very appropriate for my show topic tomorrow...its a letter a black man wrote about why he cheated on his wife... I found this interesting to say the least...he touched on some points that I have heard some men make, but does that excuse the behavior? What are your thoughts on this... ______________________________________________________________ *Why I Cheat on My Beautiful Black Wife I am a black man and a cheater. Not all the time, just every now and then. The itch comes to me, and no matter what my wife does, I still can't help but want another woman. At least for a night, or two, or three. I love my wife very much. No woman I've ever met or will meet will hold a more important place in my life. I also love my kids, our house, my job and the fish in my daughter's room. I love everything about my life at home, even though my relationship has become dull and rocky. But while I love having a strong black family...

So your gut instinct was right...you found out he cheated, so now what do you do? Many of your friends will tell you to leave him, but the majority of women will not leave after the first time they find out that their mate has cheated. To be honest, the majority of women stay, rather its for love or lifestyle, they very rarely leave. I know so many so-called married folks that on the surface appear to be happy and beneath they are both cheating neither getting what it is they want from the other, so rather than separate they step out and come back. A revolving door of random individuals throughtout their relationship. I've heard men say they stay because of the children, as if that situation is ideal for the kids. Is it ideal if their is no sign of affection between the parents? What is that teaching and/or showing the children? What if the parents are constantly fighting, sniping, griping, and back biting one another...what does that show? Shouldn't the children know what its ...

I found this site and I think when a persons habits and behavior changes, for ME that is a sign that something is wrong and that the person's interest may lie elsewhere...these are some "trigger" phrases that makes me quiet, thoughtful, and watchful of all actions and words...but overall I watch the habits and behavior of the person, that tells on them quicker than anything 1. I got a run to make 2. I got business to take care of 3. Need time to sort things out 4. Going to be incommunicado for a while 5. Work is super busy But that's just me...this article list some other hints and also talks about cheating online- which myspace has been accused of wrecking plenty of relationships... ---------------------------------------------------------------- Written by Dating Guru http://dating-hints-tips.com/index.php/content/view/94/43/ “How do I tell if a guy is using me” is most probably the most common question I get asked on this site, the very first thing I think ...

This morning I was listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show and the topic dealt with a woman sleeping with not one but TWO married men and on top of that she is dating single men...and having sex with ALL OF THEM. Now she stated that one of the married men she HAS to see two to three times per week, while the other married man she only has to see two to three times a month. The latter man has more free time and can spend days on end AND get this, she can call his house at all hours of the night and she stated that there were no repercussions. I had to laugh because my own talk show will be dealing with this very same topic this Thursday, August 16th, @ 9pm eastern, www.blogtalkradio.com/sassyentertainment ... Its funny, we all know of women who strictly deal with married and/or involved men. Personally, I have heard women ask a man, once informed that he was married, they would say damn, then their next question would be "are you happy?" WTF is that...once you noticed the ...