I was listening to a morning talk show during my morning commute and they were discussing the ongoing problems of a popular minister and his ministry here in Baltimore. Rumors abound that this minister, has issues with extemporaneous hoochies. No other way to put it...if you look at this brother, he exudes a hustler's mentality (IMO)...what folks call a "pimp in the pulpit". This host stated that many of his issues are with women and that his wife should understand or at least should've understood that she was marrying a man that women were going to be attraced to. I can't remember the exact quote, however, it went along the lines of women needing to understand that a man that is powerful and wealthy will have extra marital affairs, and that knowing that, they should turn a blind eye to a rich mans transgressions. Now I understand that women are attracted to men with money and power, and in a sense I do understand why he said it, because we see so many "non a...

Does relationship courting still exist beyond the dinner & then the hotel? In the realm of dating the art of courting, appears to be a lost art. Gone are the days where a man picked you up at your house. Gone are the days where you sat on the porch and listened to the “record player”. Gone are the days, where the man asked your father and/or guardian if he could pursue his interest in you. The gentlemanly courtships of yesterday are gone. The first time I heard the word courting, I was sixteen, when my grandmother or Mumma as we called her asked me if I was courting. When I furled my brow she changed it to “going steady”. She was the first person to explain to me the artful skill of a man that goes a courting with a woman. To court a person is an attempt to allure and/or obtain a more formal relationship. In the olden days, the woman you courted, you married. Handholding was a form of intimacy that implied a promise. Today, one or the other gender often scorns hand holding, snuggli...

In a conversation with a friend last evening, we got on the topic of my next show...( What Do Black Men Think of Black Women", 7-27-07, www.blogtalkradio.com/sassyentertainment @ 9pm, call in 646.716.7414 ) and inevitably I thought of another topic. He stated that the problem with black women is the lack of a positive male role model in their lives currently and/or in their past. He said that because the black man has neglected his duties regarding parenthood and because some men would rather run game on women, that the women have developed these so called negative characteristics that seem to be indicative of black women. He doesn't agree that this is the reason why brothers date women of other races...he does however, believe that this is the reason why black women can appear mean and negative to some...and vulnerable and easy to others. It got me to thinking about his statement, and having grown up with my father, and having a come from a loving background whose parents are...

I found this on another message board...check it out! 20 Things Holding Black Women Back 1. Superwoman Syndrome ---I’ve been with a few females who thought they can multitask effectively. It was real annoying when we were talking on the phone. They usually seem very distracted but still insist they are still listening. YEAH RIGHT. Hint: Sisters, it's impossible to work fulltime, raise kids fulltime, go partying fulltime, and chase men fulltime! You'll end up focusing on one and neglecting the others. 2. Fear of Being Alone ---This is all too common with Black females who always are in a relationship and use a “backup” if needed. These backups are usually the "nicer" brothas who think they are number one with the female, but in actuality, they are just getting played. If you want real respect and admiration from a Black woman become, a thug and a felon. 3. Hair, Hair and Hair ---Yea what’s up with females who pay 75+ dollars every two weeks to get their hair done? W...

I was talking on another board and one of the women asked this question... Is the state of the black church one of the reasons why many black women remain single? Do men control the state of marriage or does pussy power still prevail? Now my response addressed alot of the other comments, but the basic premise is again about women...and this is what SassyScribe had to say.... ------------------------------------------------------ The problem is that women aren't being honest...and they aren't listening to what men are telling them. If you meet a man and he tells you that he is not getting married and not looking for a relationship, why then do you continue to stay with him? There is no tried and true method to getting a man to the altar...what women need to do is stop trying to define themselves by the fact that they have a man in their life. Stop buying into the fact that good men are in church...there are alot of men in church, the majority are married, or gay and the singles ...

Sassy has a dilemma...and maybe you can help me shed some light and gain clarification...shyt, here are the questions... Should a woman suck the dyck of every man she has sex with? Should a man eat the puzzy of every woman he has sex with? _______________________________________________________________________________________________ My last radio show dealt with Oral Sex Nazi's and the issue as to why men were not going down on their women. The show aired at midnight and for the first half an hour I was basically talking to myself, but hey it was a Friday night and most people are out in the streets or home asleep. To hear the archieved show click on the link www.blogtalkradio.com/sassyentertainment. But I am trying to understand what the lady caller was saying. See Sassy is not a prude and very open when it comes to sex, sexual activities, etc. I try really hard not to judge folks, and as I wrote in yesterdays blog, everyone judges people whether we like it or not...but in this i...

This past weekend marked my families 31st Annual Crab Feast in Baltimore, with over 1100 people in attendance! I know that my girlfriends, family and myself, had a muphaphucking ball! I made well over 500 jello shooters, that I shared with the 200 people that purchased tickets from me. But today, I want to discuss what I saw over the weekend. You know what...I am all for women with banging ass bodies making the most of their "assets", but there is a fine line between sexy and slutty, and trashy and classy. Some of the "uniforms" this weekend, varied from the tame, to the extreme. There were women showing their tits and ass and were offended at the comments that some of the men made because they are wearing a whorish or slutty "uniform". Yes, I sound bitchy, because that is the mood I am in now. Don't wear the dress cut up to your ass showing your damn puzzy to the world and then get upset when a man steps to you on a strictly sexual tip. Don't get ...

Everywhere I turn or look on the internet I see threads about black men disparaging and slandering black women. Is it me...I am wondering, "Why do they despise us so much?" Do black men truly despise and loathe the black woman? Is it a select few or is it a pervasive attitude throughout? In a conversation with a friend, he easily rolled out ten character traits of black women, his discription/definition as to what he perceives them and why black men are more accepting of dating women of other races. He stated that gone are the days of the "good black woman", the likes of Betty Shabbazz and Coretta Scott King, where they uplifted their men and allowed them to be men . "In the good ole days black women would submit to the man as the head of household." He said that the traits I am about to list equals "the average sistergirl in the city" ATTITUDE! 1. Unsupportive - show extreme respect for their men; allowing the man to do what he does to ele...

This article was forwarded to me and quite frankly, I couldn't have said it better myself. I have added a note or two, but other than that, the author has some valid & salient points...kudos to him! Once you've read it, I'd love to hear your thoughts...SassyScribe FINDING AND KEEPING A LIFE PARTNER Golden rules for finding your life partner by Dov Heller, M.A When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50%,it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Miss. Right! If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say: "We're in love"; I believe this is the #1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love.Though this may sound "not politically correct", there's a profoundtruth here. Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love i...

Are you noticing that more and more people are not marrying for love, rather more for convenience. As we grow older and some of us lower our standards and expectations, do you find that they are marrying to stem off living their senior years alone? Is it just me? I am beginning to think that with some of the things that people do "in the name of love" makes me really wonder sometimes..."whats love got to do with it"? Really, you are finding people committing murder/suicide scenarios or just plaine ole murders...all in the name of love. You find women married to and/or living with/dating notorious lotharios and yet and still they don't leave, because "I love him, and we can work this out?" Or he buys them a gift, sends them flowers, takes them on a trip, he does something monetarily to make her forget that he was just swimming in another sea. I talked to a male friend about this and he stated "you call it falling in love and quite frankly, I don...

After much thought about the comments that Don Imus uttered, I would be totally remiss in not discussing the part that WE (society, but in particular blacks)play in this. Is the black community so blinded that they can't see what is going on? When did Jessie Jackson and Al Sharpton (two men that I don't personally trust) become the voice of the Black Community? They are protesting that a man be removed from his job, yet when it comes to the "flossing" and "blinging" of the rap industry and their attitudes toward women and the use of the "N" word they are silent...why? Women parading around in next to nothing, parroting sexual acts on the idiot box while men "throw" money at them like dogs is what...okay to them? Our community plays a vital part in how we are seen and/or portrayed, because the entire world thinks we are a bunch of savage men and loose women. Let's face it, the music industry calls my gender everything but the child of ...

Don Imus must go...the comments that he made on his radio show, were not only offensive to me as a black woman, his words hit me on so many levels. As a dark skinned sista, the words jiggaboo, pickaninny, and darkie set me off! And then you couple that with words like "nappy headed ho's" and its on! But doesn't the issue for us as a community go deeper, than Don Imus. Doesn't the accountability begin and end how WE feed into the stereotypes? Lets think about that for a moment and don't for a moment think I don't feel that Don Imus should be removed, but you and I both know that he wont. If anything this only proves that the African/Black/Colored/Negro Community is constantly under the microscope of the world! Its crazy, but with this statement it is so true...especially when it comes to someone voicing a sentiment that I believe they have always felt in their heart, but was too policitically polite to state it. We have seen Michael Richards trying to back ...

I am pissed off and fed up with the way in which people are treating children. I am so sick and damn tired of hearing one sad story after another. In the last 3 days there have been 3 outrageously appalling stories on the news media. First there was the little boy that died of a toothache that manifested itself into an infection that went to his brain! All because the parents didn't have any other health care other than Medicaid and dentist do not take them. What most black people don't know is that they can get care for anything at any teaching hospital in their area. Secondly, unless you have been living under a rock, many of us know about the young brothers in Texas that videotaped them getting a 2 year old and a 5 year old HIGH! They acutally showed their faces and thought it was very funny to get these youngsters stoned. What in the blue hell possessed them to do such a thing and not think it wouldn't have any repersucssions! I was shocked, appalled, but most of all hu...

This is at the request of a friend who asked me why do women lie about having consensual sex and then cry rape? He said he met this girl, and things were cool, it was just supposed to be a stick and move...and real easy in and out type of deal, but he said because he didn't cuddle...because he didn't sweet talk or smooth talk or appease her fragile female ego, she has now decided that what they did was not consensual rather it was rape. He didn't find this out until recently when he opened his door and the detectives were there questioning him about "said female" and "his said actions" towards this female. Ironically, he is a relationship and just gave his girl an engagement ring over the weekend and then this happens. When he asked me about it, I had no real answer because I'm a woman and I know that even though its not right THERE ARE PLENTY OF WOMEN THAT CRY RAPE! Its an easy way out of a bad situation for them. Its wrong as hell, but because they...

When will Roe v. Wade be put to rest? Is it a woman’s right to choose or is it the government’s right to tell a woman what she can and cannot do with or to her body? This is the question that many Mississippians will face as a bill has been set forth to deny a woman’s right to an abortion unless the pregnancy is a product of rape, incest, or threatens the woman’s life in anyway. This law will catapult women into crossing state lines to obtain this procedure and/or the worst-case scenario will force them to back alley abortions as in the past. This will not only kill the fetus, but it will also kill and/or permanently harm or scar the mother. I am an advocate for Pro Choice and, quite frankly this law scares the hell out of me! I am all for a woman making the decision as to whether or not to bring a child into this world. Yes, a child is a blessing from God, but we all have seen how unwanted children are mistreated by parents, family, and even those in the system that are supposedly pro...

This piece has been floating around the internet for a year or so, but I think it bears repeating...its how a caucasian views the black race. I'm just the messenger, but there is some truth to the letter, no matter how hard we may not want to admit it...read it and think! ______________________________________________________________________________ Dee Lee, CFP Harvard Financial Educators Dee Lee THEY ARE STILL OUR SLAVES We can continue to reap profits from theBlacks without the effort of physical slavery Look at the currentmethods of containment that they use on themselves: IGNORANCE, GREED,and SELFISHNESS. Their IGNORANCE is the primary weapon of containment. A great man once said, "The best way to hide something from Black people is to put it in a book." We now live in the Information Age. They have gained theopportunity to read any book on any subject through the efforts of theirfight for freedom, yet they refuse to read. There are numerous books readily available a...

Do you think that we have lost the vision and the mission of Dr. King's Dream and that of the Civil Rights Movement? I wonder all the time as I see and hear all of the Black-on-Black crime. The single parent households, the high divorce rate, the low marriage rate, the high sexually transmitted disease rate, drug addiction, alcohol addiction, welfare addiction---hell, the list goes on and on. One 1/12 of the year has past and already Baltimore and DC have close to 20 murders, if not more. Bodies being found in ditches, heavily wooded areas, in homes, etc...its a gawd damn disgrace...but what do we do? Where do we start? Does it start in the home? Is it the fault of the poor public school systems in the areas? Is it the lack of respect that people have for one another in general? Whose to blame for the lack of leadership for our Race...or should we govern ourselves? The very rights that Dr. King, Andrew Young, Jesse Jackson, and others marched for are the very rights that folks eith...

First of all this man took my breath away at the DNC in '04...he was electrifying, motivating, genuine, oh yeah and sexy, with his dark azz lips... I was so excited when he won the Senate seat in Illinois, eventhough I am here in Maryland, but recently he was on Oprah and she told him that if he decided to run for President in '08, she wanted him to announce it on her show...he said that he hadn't made any decisions as yet. Then on Meet The Press Sunday with Tim Russert he was asked again, and he told him the same thing...that he needed to look at the entire picture with more depth and thought... Do you think he has the qualifications to become President with so little time under his belt as a public servant? I mean, hey GW only had two years as Governor of Texas under his belt, and look how great that turned out...! Is American Ready for a Black President? Your Thoughts....

I ran across this article and its food for thought...read on, and tell me what you think. ___________________________________________________ Can Marriage Stem African American Poverty?Study: Marriage benefits blacks economicallyBy Tamara E. Holmes December 4, 2006 -- Marriage appears to contribute greatly to the economic status of African American families, according to a new study, The Consequences of Marriage for African Americans, but some black advocates disagree on whether marriage programs are effective methods of curbing poverty. The study, commissioned by the Institute for American Values, a private nonprofit think tank that studies families, examines the consequences of marriage among African Americans in the last few decades. A recent panel discussion titled, "Marriage and the African-American Community" at the Brookings Institute in Washington, D.C., reviewed the study's findings. "On virtually every indicator of economic well-being, married African Ameri...

I was having a conversation with one of my nephews babies momma and I found out that she recently miscarried. This is very upsetting altogether at the loss of life. I expressed my condolences, and personally I feel its for the best, because she can barely take care of the one she has, let alone bring another life into the struggle. Now as sad as that is, it made me think...hmmm this chick is still having unprotected and unsafe sex. Condoms cost about $10.00, a baby, over $100k in a lifetime, if not more, and the cocktails for HIV/AIDS are atronomical...WTF is she thinking? She barely knows the dude and in less than six months she trusts him enough to have him not wear a condom. When I asked her, she said "he told me he wasn't sleeping with anyone else" now be that as it may, because it may be true, why, why, why, did she think that him telling her so made him CLEAN! What about all of the other women he slept with prior to you, for that matter what about the men you've...