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Sometimes We Need To Shut-Up...

This blog is going to sound contradictory to what I have written in the past...but I have to say this...as a woman I can tell you that I am so tired communicating my thoughts, my wants, my wishes and my desires to men.

When I listen to professional phsycologists & phsychiatrist they are quick to tell people that you have to "talk out" your feelings. Don't allow anything to fester...but as a woman, how many times are we going to continue to talk and receive no action from it? When is it time for women to shut the hell up and rest out on it?

I have learned to ask a man a question....and then be quiet! Yeah, I know I have the gift of gab and I have been known to want to talk a whole in someone's head, but as hard as it is for me to do it...I have learned to stifle my motor mouth and rest it out...lay back up in the cut, and not say a word....hhhhh...not a sound from me and it forces him to answer the question. Now whether or not he chooses to answer is another issue...but sometimes ladies...maybe we ought to keep quiet...keep our mouth...choose our battles, or whatever it is, and allow that man to answer the question. Sometimes I find that we as women get caught up in asking so many questions and revealing so much of our feelings that we are not allowing him to answer at all...therefore some women are still left wondering how he feels, where you "stand" (thats another blog) and where is the relationship going...with this fantastic sense of intuition that God has gifted us with, I have to wonder why is it we aren't using it? Why are we still questioning ourselves when we know deep down it just doesn't feel right? Are some women so desperate that they are willing to ignore their intution and that is the reason for the twenty questions?

I am not saying that asking questions are wrong and/or bad, but sometimes my gender may be asking too many questions at the wrong time or with the wrong man...JMO

I know that some people will ignore this and some may comment, but sometimes I feel that we (women) need to shut up and keep it moving.


SassyScribe

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