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The Double Standard

Why is it when a man says he is looking to settle down, he is viewed as being tired of the game? Yet when a woman says she is ready to settle down because of the same reasoning, she is now viewed as being desperate or in a rush to marry.

Why is it that women are expected to forgive a cheating/philandering husband, yet a man is not expected to forgive a cheating/philandering wife?

Why is it an expectation that a woman will stand by her man regardless of his misdeed?

Why is it that single men who right/talk about relationships are viewed as giving sound advice, yet a single woman that does the same is viewed as being bitter and angry?

Why is it that a man who engages in multiple relationships is just a man “doing his thang”, yet a woman doing the same is a whore?

We are bombarded with various forms of media that continue to support this double standard. Let’s start with the most recent case of Governor Spitzer from NY who ran for public office vowing to eradicate crime and here he transports a prostitute across several state lines at $5k an hour. What kind of booty is that to cost $5k an hour? Does she render him helpless and/or impaired? Can he see and/or walk after a session with a woman that costs $5k/hour?

Senator Larry Craig, who tapped his foot under the stall as a signal to homosexual sex in a bathroom…

Kwame Kilpatrick…this brother, WOW got caught via text messages after the affair had ended…

Bill Clinton, the man often times referred to as “the first Black President” because he had oral sex performed on him in the Oval office…

Governor McGreevy of NJ who had consensual homosexual sex with an aide…

I use these figures because this is the most blatant of, and most often abused of the double standards…hell they have even dubbed it THE EMPORER’S CLUB…

The double standard plays out because their spouses “stood by them”…not only has the spouse been embarrassed by the world knowing that her man has betrayed their union, but now she is expected to stand beside him as he “apologizes” to give a united front.

Again the burden of showing love, honor, and respect falls upon the shoulders of the woman.

Why is it a woman’s responsibility to soothe and ease egos?

Why is the Double Standard still prevalent in this society?


SassyScribe

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