Congratulations to Gabby Douglas for her gold medal win at the 30 th Olympiad in London 2012. However her win was tarnished by negative comments on her hair. And it wasn’t coming from Caucasians; it was coming from Black women! The accolades were overshadowed by the negative and derogatory comments over her hair. It is a continuing saga that Black women seem to have for one another. Is it envy, self hatred, or jealousy? Why is it that sisters hate on each other? That question got me to thinking and I really stopped and watched black women over the weekend. My gender never ceases to amaze me! I mean I go out and I hear women saying things that sound good, but when I looked at them, I mean really looked and truly listened you could tell that they weren’t “sincere”. It was like they were trying to co-sign with me, and that’s not an easy task to do. I am a strong willed and very very very outspoken individual. I am obnoxious to some, others don’t care for my “potty” mouth, b...

The placement of the engagement ring has been a long held tradition of showing your status as no longer being available and it’s what some women secretly wish for when dating. However, there is a new trend.  The 2012 tend---the Man Engagement Ring or the MANGAGEMENT RING. Now some women feel that if he has to be managed, why would they want him? But, it’s not the fact that he is being managed, it is just showing that he is no longer on the market. That he is affianced. That he is betrothed. That he is taken! It’s a symbolic gesture like the diamond engagement ring for the women. It can be represented in a plain silver, titanium, or stainless steel band. Some women are even springing for Plain Platinum or gold, with an upgrade of adding diamonds for the ‘big day’. Yet when asked, more women had an issue with such a concept rather than men. Most men had no problem wearing a ‘management’ ring. They felt that it leveled the playing field somewhat. That if he ask...

When it comes to power in relationships…whose in charge? Is there one person with more control and/or say than the other? Is it the person with the most money? Is the most educated in the relationship? Or does it come down to traditional roles of the Man is the head of the household and the woman is his second in command? What are these rules to relationships that I am beginning to see where the word ‘submit’ becomes like an F bomb.  I have seen so called strong women, or women who I know to be decisive, articulate, determined, forward in thought, word, and deed, become tongued-tied and meek, when it comes to decisions within their relationship. It makes me say “I will be single forever.” Don’t get me wrong, I understand the need for working with your mate and compromising, but here lately, I have seen married women who cannot make their own doctors appointments. I know married women who cannot make a family decision about a vacation. To that, I know women who have made...

As I sat and reflected on women who complained about being lied to and then did a look back into my past relationships, the question "do women want to be lied to" popped into my head. With that I started a Q & A with Saundra and Sassy. :-) as a writer you have to have these 'talks'! 1.  Women want to be lied to? Sometimes women prefer a pretty lie to the ugly truth. Some men (not all) will tell women what they want to hear for his greater good… to shut her up or to sleep with her. This isn't a new trick, its as old as time, and women continue to be vulnerable to pretty lies. 2.  Women don’t listen because it doesn’t jive with what she wants to hear.  It goes back to those questions ---about how does he feel about you, where is this relationship leading…etc.  If a man tells you straight up “he is not looking for a relationship” and you sleep with him anyway, and then you wonder why he doesn’t feel the same way about you, you say he is wrong…he i...

I found this in a group that I belong to and I wonder to you agree or disagree with any of the 9 items listed? I have to agree on most of them, but will miss receiving an actual Christmas/Birthday/Invitation/Thank You card via snail mail...I only read books, sorry not an e-book reader at all...have a land line, but rarely use it, and as for the TV, I cannot watch my shows online or on a small device...I like my flat screen...sorry! Something to think about....(((author unknown))) 1. The Post Office. Get ready to imagine a world without the post office. They are so deeply in financial trouble that there is probably no way to sustain it long term. Email, Fed Ex, and UPS have just about wiped out the minimum revenue needed to keep the post office alive. Most of your mail every day is junk mail and bills.   2. The Check. Britain is already laying the groundwork to do away with checks by 2018. It costs the financial system billions of dollars a year to proces...

I don't know where to begin with this...but I guess I will start at the beginning! I know women all over are going to be very upset with me when I say this...BUT I don't believe women when they say they were hit on or talked to in an inappropriate way. Allegations of Sexual Harassment is so broad and vague, especially in the workplace that an off colored joked OVERHEARD by a woman, a touch to another woman's shoulder are all under the workplace definition of sexual harassment. That's right what happened or what was said to you, can be deemed sexual harassment to another. Crazy right?!!?! Which is why, this whole Herman Cain 'scandal' has me yawning. These women, supposedly there are 4 now, who signed agreements back in the day to not speak of this, wait until now, when he is running for President to come out and talk about it.? Now they have diarrhea of the mouth---get out of here with that BS.  I think what really bothers me the most is that they waited, ...

Meeting a man is as easy as saying "excuse me...what's your name?" A phrase made famous by Hip-Hop Mogul Jay-Z, the intro to his smash hit Excuse Me Miss as he sidles up to a young lady that he found attractive. When it comes to dating, are you choosing a mate for you or are you more concerned about what your family and friends will think of your potential mate? Are women more concerned about this than men? Is this one of the factors keeping you single and/or dateless? Are you placing your potential mate under a microscope? Are you searching for flaws and judging the book by its cover? If you answered yes to any of these questions then it could quite possibly be one of the reasons why you are single? Ideally it is important that your mate is social enough that they will not pose a problem at an office party or family event, because none of us want to be embarrassed in front of those we love, respect, and trust. But as I watch women, especially women 35 a...

You meet him. You like him. You go on a date with him. The first date was the initial meet and greet, where you met for coffee after work. During that time you set up a second date to have dinner a couple of days later. It’s the night of the second date and you are having a fabulous time. Your checklist is getting checked-off, because so far he meets your basic requirements: looks, education, personality, charm, and charisma…but in the back of your mind, you have this niggling sensation about a conversation you recently overheard the women in your salon discussing. As you sat in your stylists chair you listened as they volleyed their dating woes and there was a consensus amongst them all that most men had this unspoken rule that if they took you out on three dates, then by the third date they expected you to sleep with them. You look into his eyes, trying to gauge his thoughts. Does he think like that? Will he expect something on the next date? Should I accept a next date, wi...

Let's face it, as women age, and looks start to fade, we tend to recognize the signs of aging. The loss of youth that ties to our desirability of men and to the envy of other women.  Remember when we were 16, and we couldn't wait to be 18. Then once we turned 18, it was a wish to be 21 (legal drinking/partying age), and then at 21, we wanted to be 25, what we considered to be ADULT-hood, and then the light shined on 30. For some, the thought of turning 30 literally gave you hives and cold sweats, because at 30 society said you were supposed to have achieved certain goals or at least be on the path to acquiring them. Like marriage and children and owning your own home. Then 35 loomed about, and you began to really access your life and all that you have/have not achieved professionally and personally, or more to the point you lamented on what you still had yet to do. By then, 40 is pressing firmly on your door and that is when the 'whoa is me's' set in. You really...

While I was out searching for a job, I missed Tracy McMillan's recent Huffington Post article "Why You're Not Married"  http://www.huffingtonpost.com/tracy-mcmillan/why-youre-not-married_b_822088.html.   I know the article was written over a week ago now, but I still wanted to say a little something something...ya feel me. Saundra " SassyScribe" Harris - Author, Relationship Commentator, Internet Talk Show Host...oh, and Single! Because this is yet another lamentation on the woe's of single women...however, this time the writer is encompassing all women and not just Black Women as articles from various writers and bloggers in the past. Ms. McMillan is not the only person writing about this phenomenon, as there are countless books on this very subject for and by women of all races.  Ms. McMillan states in her article that women (using a largely painted brush) particularly single women, are shallow, angry, lying, selfish, sluts who are just not goo...

   Sometimes you just want to say Eff it, when it comes to Valentine's Day    Oh no! That dreaded day is just about 3 weeks away, and all of the single people, women mostly are trying to psych themselves out, by saying "its just another day". Which is true. Valentine's Day is just another day, but as a single person, it just makes your singleness that much more acute. You tend to feel your singleness the most during Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, Valentine's Day and your birthday. How many times have you gotten tired of the squeals and yelps of delight as co-worker, after co-worker, friend, after friend, received a delivery of beautiful long-stemmed red roses, the large heart-shaped balloon or oversized Teddy Bear emblazoned with "I LOVE U" OR "BE MINE"? Do you swear silently to yourself as you plaster a fake smile on your face as you comment happily about their good fortune? Yes, I know, too many times to count. It's ...

At one time the cornerstone in the African American community, the black church has morphed into a glamorized bastardization of its former self. Bishop Long in his bathroom shoot to one of the alleged victims With the recent allegations of noted pastor Bishop Eddie Long ( Deliver Me From Adam ) of the 30k member strong, New Birth Missionary Baptist church in Atlanta, GA, is just another example of how the Black Church has exploded from a mom-and-pop shop type of organization, to these mega worship centers that resemble huge corporations. The allegations state that when these men were boys, they were a part of a mentoring program sponsored by the church and headed by the Bishop himself who supposedly seduced them with money and other lavish gifts. This is the ulimate betrayal as these young boys were already in a vunerable state of mind, and if anyone could be trusted it would be a minister. If any organization could be given blind faith, it would be the church. How...

You never know what you will find when you are sitting home trolling the cable guide and that is how I stumbled upon what I call a cult classic! A Good Day to be Black & Sexy a story of black love and sexuality. Comprised of several vignettes- one in particular caught my eye...to find out more tune into WSER Sassy Entertainment Radio, Thursday, Sept. 23rd, at 9pm est/ 6pm pst, call in to 646.716.7414 to share your thoughts or join the live chat room at www.blogtalkradio.com/sassyentertainment. About the Director Dennis Dortch - Filmmaker/ New Media Entrepreneur Long before spinning stories about women loving men, Dortch was collecting memories that hid in his stepfather’s vinyl collection. After a military brat’s tour of the world, Dortch transplanted to Los Angeles to study Recording Arts at Loyola Marymount University to pursue a career as a music producer. A film prerequisite forced him to discover the love of combining music to moving images, leading to the first short,...

Summertime is over and Sassy & Dlyte are back for more love and sexuality talk on WSER Sassy Entertainment Radio™!!! September 2nd Sassy and Dlyte dishes the 411 on their favorite and the sexiest most musicological artist of all time PRINCE ROGERS NELSON with Barbara Rogers Rashid founder of the FloridaNPG Fan club as she shares her recent visit with the Purple One at Paisley Park Studios. September 9th - Tim Alexander Castles Studios Filmaker and director of DIARY OF A TIRED BLACK MAN joins in the discussion on the state of black men and women and relationships. September 16th - When To Give Into Intimacy is it the 3rd date, 3 months, or 6 months...??? Sassy & Dlyte will discuss if and/or when is there a right time to move forward with an intimate relationship. September 23rd - Filmmaker & Director Dennis Dortch visits WSER to discuss his latest movie GOOD DAY TO BE BLACK & SEXY a movie about Black love and sexuality as well as the current state of black relationship...

The issues facing men and women are not as serious as ‘experts’ would like you to believe. But one thing that the ‘experts’ appear to be right about is the negative attitudes that some black women seem to have? Maybe some of them have an attitude because they are buying into this notion of their not being any available and/or eligible men. Maybe their attitude stems from the belief that all of the good men are married and the rest are homosexual or incarcerated? Maybe some have an attitude as they see more and more black men dating/marrying outside of their race? Or maybe, just maybe some have an attitude because they take themselves far too seriously! What I have noticed, especially when going to various events, be it a night club setting, private dinner party, or open air cultural events, is that some Black Women really do take themselves seriously. Too seriously! I am the last one to buy into stereotypes or so-called statistical information, but recently I’ve come to the realizat...

justwright-themovie.com Just Wright the new romantic comedy starring the divinely voluptuous Dana Owens aka Queen Latifah and rapper turned actor Common are explosive on the scene and have amazing chemistry. What turns into a chance meeting at a gas station leads to love but not with the one with the jiggly-bits, rather the stunningly beautiful best friend, played by Paula Patton (wife of R & B crooner Robin Thicke). This movie hits home to what some voluptuous women have had to deal with most of their lives…the skinny one got the guy. Or as they said in the movie “the girl who was supposed to get the guy did. The landscape of single, plus size African American women is just as large (no pun intended) if not more-so than the landscape of single, professional, black women. Society however states that in order for a woman to be beautiful and a great catch, she has to have a size 2 body. She has to be somewhat shallow and superficial and it matters not, so long as she is an arm charm....

"Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do." Dr. Spock That is a quote that people should always remember when it comes to all of their relationships. The relationship with your siblings, spouse, parents, children, family, and friends. Those are the most important relationships that you have in your life. We cultivate them. We nuture them. We instill values, principles, and morals in them. It is a quote that even I struggle to remember, but I remember, because trust is an important and imperitive part of all of my relationships. According to Merriam-Webster trust is a: assured reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something b : one in which confidence is placed The internet craze has placed our society on information overload. Too many of us place a confidence in what it is we find on the internet. Especially when it comes to finding love online. The billion dollar business of online dating is growing expone...

Virtual Dating or VD is a term adopted by myself and the women in my circle when it comes to dating. Virtual Dating is the process of dating via email, instant message, and texting- only. It's the lazy man's way of attempting to procure a relationship with a woman, through various portal's of media, that are increasingly less personal. There is nothing less personal than a text message, an email, or even an instant message--after you have gone through the initial process of the "getting to know you phase". Yes, these avenues are used when initially dealing with a person, as a getting to know you process. Some have used it for other nefarious reasons of sending photo's of there genitalia to prospective suitors. However, in the beginning, at times it is easier to say what you will via a less personal method, as it allows one to "take in" so to speak what you said. It is less invasive, because you do not see the reaction to someone saying "I have ...