Meeting a man is as easy as saying "excuse me...what's your name?" A phrase made famous by Hip-Hop Mogul Jay-Z, the intro to his smash hit Excuse Me Miss as he sidles up to a young lady that he found attractive.
When it comes to dating, are you choosing a mate for you or are you more concerned about what your family and friends will think of your potential mate?
Are women more concerned about this than men? Is this one of the factors keeping you single and/or dateless?
Are you placing your potential mate under a microscope? Are you searching for flaws and judging the book by its cover?
If you answered yes to any of these questions then it could quite possibly be one of the reasons why you are single?
Ideally it is important that your mate is social enough that they will not pose a problem at an office party or family event, because none of us want to be embarrassed in front of those we love, respect, and trust.
But as I watch women, especially women 35 and over, they tend to want the approval of others rather than using their own judgement. I know it is important for that man to 'fit' in with family and friends, but in the end, you are the only one that has to be happy with them.
I just know that your eyes are wide open at 40 if you are lucky and all of the items on your must have list are no longer relevant, when it comes to your happiness.
So tell your friends and family that you appreciate their feedback, and although you may have sought out their approval in the past, that is done, and going forward you will be dating for yourself and not for their approval.
Saundra aka SassyScribe
When it comes to dating, are you choosing a mate for you or are you more concerned about what your family and friends will think of your potential mate?
Are women more concerned about this than men? Is this one of the factors keeping you single and/or dateless?
Are you placing your potential mate under a microscope? Are you searching for flaws and judging the book by its cover?
If you answered yes to any of these questions then it could quite possibly be one of the reasons why you are single?
Ideally it is important that your mate is social enough that they will not pose a problem at an office party or family event, because none of us want to be embarrassed in front of those we love, respect, and trust.
But as I watch women, especially women 35 and over, they tend to want the approval of others rather than using their own judgement. I know it is important for that man to 'fit' in with family and friends, but in the end, you are the only one that has to be happy with them.
I just know that your eyes are wide open at 40 if you are lucky and all of the items on your must have list are no longer relevant, when it comes to your happiness.
So tell your friends and family that you appreciate their feedback, and although you may have sought out their approval in the past, that is done, and going forward you will be dating for yourself and not for their approval.
Saundra aka SassyScribe
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