Over the last few months I've come to realise that many people {ie. men and women}, don't understand the concept of dating. Dating is not an exclusive contract between two people, dating is an act of an attempt to turn an aquaintance into a friend, that will hopefully lead to something more...a mutually exclusive agreement. I recently went on a date with a gentleman, whom I liked, but after he found out that I was continuing to date and/or meet new people, he became offended and said that he couldn't deal with me because I wasn't honest with him. He didn't understand how I could say that I liked him yet, continued to see other people. I explained to him that I did like him, that I could see myself dating him BUT, we had went out once. Before we went out his phone calls were frequent, after we went out...they were infrequent, when I pointed this out to him he said he was busy. He didn't answer my calls until two - three days later. Now maybe I'm stupid, but I...

Dating Saga continues... WOW! Since my last few posts I have been out on several dates...and I've talked to alot of people...hmmph...the funny thing is...no one is really quite measuring up. When I say that, I mean on paper {i.e. online, as stated in their profiles, via online chats and emails} they sound great. But in person, I seem to get the same ole same ole... Is it me...or is it that people are having problems being honest and telling the truth? I am brutally honest, sometimes too honest, too open, too upfront about myself, my likes, and dislikes. What I'm willing and not willing to put up with, and I expect the same. Yes, this post may be redundant for some, but for me, I have to get this off my chest and let the brothers know...hell, I need to ask them...what the hell is up??? If its something about me---tell me...I can accept honesty and I can handle hearing the truth. It is getting to the point where I have actually cancelled my service with those dating sites. Hell, ...

Have you ever been listening to the radio and song pops up that catapults you back in time. It takes you to a place where you used to be, with the person that you used to love, honor, and cherish. I had this happen to me this weekend...Jill Scott's "Your Just Running 'Cross My Mind". I listened to this song by Jill Scott and for the last few days, thoughts of my ex have been popping up at the oddest times. Now this is something that I absolutely hate to admit...but it is true! When listening to this song, this phrase he used to say to me "I'm in your mind Ida Mae" never held truth until I heard this song...and truthfully he is in my mind- to a degree. He is in my mind because as much as I hate to admit it, the brother has so much personality and charisma, that its unbelievable. He had me lock, stock, and barrel, and if he were to read this he wouldn't believe it as being so, but it was true. I don't miss his arrogance at all...I do miss our conve...

I took the test and guess what---I scored 409...I am too damned freaky for most! Isn't that special! LOL I answered those questions honestly and I hope everyone does...you can remain anonymous, but as this is my blog, and I'm all for keeping it real...that is why I posted my score. So take five minutes out of your day, take the test and leave a comment. I'm interested in what you have to say... Peace SassyScribe

1) IF YOU HAD A CHOICE HOW OFTEN WOULD YOU HAVE SEX_________ A. AS OFTEN AS EVERY DAY AND ALL DAY AND ALL NIGHT B. A FEW TIMES A WEEK C. JUST A FEW TIMES A MONTH TO KEEP FROM FEINDING D. NOT TO OFTEN I HAVE BETTER THINGS TO DO A-10 B-5 C-3 D-1 (2) DO YOU MASTURBATE________________ A. YES B. I'VE DONE IT, BUT NOT MY THING C. NO A-15PTS B-5PTS C-1PTS (3) HAVE YOU EVER MASTURBATED 4 YOUR PARTNER WHILE THEY SAT AND WATCHED______________ A. YES B. THOUGHT ABOUT IT C. NOA-10PTS B-5PTS C-1PT (4) HAVE YOU EVER WANTED TO WATCH YOUR PARTNER MASTURBATE____________ A.YES B.THOUGHT ABOUT IT C.NO A-10PTS B-5PTS C-1PT (5) HAVE YOU EVER HAD A PARTNER MASTURBATE FOR YOU WHILE YOU SAT AND WATCHED_______________ A.YES B.NO, BUT INTERESTED C.NO A-10PTS B-5PTS C-1PT (6) DO YOU LIKE TO RECEIVE ORAL SEX____________ A. YES B. YES, BUT NOT TO OFTEN C. NEVER TRIED BUT VERY CURIOUS D. NO A-10PTS B-3PTS C-5PTS D-1PT (7) WHEN YOUR PARTNER GOES DOWN ON YOU, AND YOU ARE ABOUT TO CUM DO YOU WANT HIM OR HER TO____...

Okay...you knew eventually I was going to take it to the LIMIT...well my question is this- why are so many of us hung up on various forms of sexual expression? Personally, I am open for ANYTHING if I am into you! The only thing I have an issue with is the menage scenario...not really feeling it- I'm too selfish of a woman for that. But anything else I'm pretty open. Now in the past I used to give advice to ladies about how to please their men {and before you start hating, no I DON'T have a MAN}...note I said how to please a man, not keep one! Anyway, I digress, but the point to this whole post is that many women stop doing the things that they did to get their man. Like the lingerie stops and the spontaneous sex stops. Which for men is a no-no...hell, we all know how they hate to have their candy taken away from them. For some men they need the visual of lace bra, thongs, garter, stockings and heels, while for others plain nudity will work. One of the main problems is that ...

Remember when I stated that I was a member of a couple of dating sites...well guess what, over the past few weeks I've talked to and met a couple of really NICE men. I mean genuinely nice. Women are so quick to say that there aren't any nice men out there, but that has not been the case for me. I too used to say that, having only had experiences with men wanting only one thing from me it is hard to believe that some men really want to get to know a person before jumping their bones. Crude way of putting it, but if we as women are selective in our choices of men, why do we find it so hard to believe that men aren't as selective as we are. A friend told me that I "don't trust situations"...and at first I stood him down that he was wrong, but after I mulled the statement over in my mind I came to realize that he was correct. I DON'T TRUST SITUATIONS WITH MEN! I've never had to, because they have always held true to the fact that they couldn't be trust...

Sorry guys...I know its been a while since my last post, but I have been busy and rushed off of my feet. I am in the process of acclimating myself with my new job AND I am also trying to tie up the final chapters to my sophomore novel. However, let me catch you up to speed... In my last post I told everyone that I was going to my 20th High School Reunion and I had a blast. I was able to catch up with some old friends and to make some new ones. My class was/is majority white, there were only 7 blacks in attendance, but that did not matter. The only downside to my night, was the fact that it was not open bar. That's right, it was a cash bar and the tickets were $125/couple and it only came with one drink!!!! I was disturbed, but never fear, my old high school chums came through with the cash bar, I didn't have to go out of pocket. My new friend {He is a private person so I won't name him} was very debonair in his black suit and contrasting tie to match my black cocktail dress...

WOW! Hard to believe that on July 9th of this year I will be celebrating my 20th High School Reunion. I am so physched and geeked out on this, that its crazy. No its not, I'm excited to see old faces with new or not so new bodies...it should be a blast. Its going to be in Annapolis at the Sheraton and I am really looking forward to being there. The problem I have is that we are having a problem getting people to respond and/or cough up the dough. Now I am not independently wealthy, nor do I have the families that others have, but I find it hard to believe that they can't find the money for a memorable event such as this. Am I wrong for thinking this? Hell, we are damn near 40-years old---its time for people to get it together. I too have money issues, robbing peter to pay paul, but I budgeted my money so that I could attend this moment in my life.

Yes, that's right y'all, I am now amongst the land of the working class. As of July 11th I will be a member of an organization in Rockville, MD, thanks to one of my best friends. DEE! Yes, that's right, SassyScribe is working a full-time in addition to writing full time, and updating this site, full time... I'm so excited that I think the exploits of my new working day will make great food for fodder!

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Are we attracted to whom we aspire to be? Or are we attracted to those opposite what we are? I feel that attraction comes in many forms. You can be attracted to a person physically, but not mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. However, you can be attracted to a person on the three latter levels and not attracted to them physically. Does anyone agree or disagree with me on this? I mean I am all for physical attraction, I mean I have to have the ability and wherewithall to want to look at you. At least! Who wants to wake up to a boogabear each morning. But, personally, I am one of those people that has to be mind-phucked. If you can stimulate me mentally, it stirs the emotional and spiritual side of me, ergo the physical doesn't matter in looks. You've won half the battle, notice I said half. The other half of that physicalness is the mastery of physical stimulation through sexual expression of self. Teaching me to become one with you and vice versa. Not being afraid to tell m...

Sex On The First Date Copyright 2005 - Saundra E. Harris All rights reserved. www.sapharibooks.com Chapter 1 My body gyrated to the hip sounds of Usher. The sexy red dress was designed for excitement. For the past hour we’ve played the eye game. I’d turn and look at him, smile and turn my head; he in turn did the same. My long red dress was veed in the front exposing my luscious breast, while the back dipped low showcasing my smooth brown back. It had a front split that stopped three quarters of the way up exposing a dark chocolate thigh. I was deliberately dancing for the gentleman that stood across the room from me. I turned knowing that my leg was exposed for all to see, but I know he knew it was for him. My body could feel the music as I dipped and grooved to YEAH . Just then the deejay changed to the smooth sounds of Alicia Keys and I turned towards him. Now it was time to make a move. All around me the dance floor was beginning to fill with couples, yet I stood there alone. Appr...

Cure for the Summer Time Blues: Little Boy Blue 1 part Gin 1 part Vodka 1 part Rum 1 part Triple Sec 1 part Orange Juice 1 part Pineapple Juice 1 part Blue Careceaou 1 part Ginger Ale Mix all ingredients in large pitcher...pour over ice! Take your first sip and feel how the Little Boy Blue Blows his horn and all of your blues away. Copyright 2005 SassyScribe All Rights Reserved!

I have been unemployed since the end of May and trust that the boredom has set in. Boredom I hate this word because boring people are boring. I'm not boring, just tired of having the same routine. Now this wouldn't be a bad thing if I was independantly wealthy, but alas I'm not. Recently, I hired a job coach, to help me develop my interviewing skills as well as creating the hottest resume and cover letter for me. I also went on a couple of interviews and I felt confident going into both of them...now its the wait and see. Since 1998, I've worked for temporary agencies, which at that time was perfect because I was concentrating on my studies and finalizing my freshman novel "THE PARTY". Now that I've graduated with a BS in BM {that is not a bull shit degree in Bowel Movements} it is a Bachelor of Science degree in Business Management, I am hard on the job hunt. This temporary shit is not for me anymore. Hell, I thought getting my degree would help a little,...

Phew! I don't know about the rest of y'all but my azz bores easily. Especially now that summer is here, there are so many things to see and do during the summer. There's AFRAM, ArtScape, and the Book Festival, Seafood Festivals, Wine Festivals, etc...I mean there is so much to do and so little time. In 3 short months these events will be over and the cooler weather will move in. In the meantime the ladies and I are trying to get our bodies into shape. Yeah, we waited until the summer was here before we did this. We had all winter to get it right, but no, we waited until now. We have started doing the latest in exercise craze- Exotic Dance Aerobics. I absolutely LOVE IT! I mean its not exercise, its a way to take your freakiness to the next level. Hell, we are learning exotic dance moves...moves that should hopefully move any man to the next level of enjoyment. No need to go and get that lap dance from Norma Jeans or the Foxy Lady- they can now get one at home. Oh wait, th...

Example... Date Number 1 - April 2002 I met this guy online who talked about his height and how he looked, he even sent me a picture. Well one day after I worked up the courage, I met him at a restaurant and low and behold he wasn't the man in the picture {naive of me, I know} but I truly believed him when he emailed me his pic and stats. I mean who am I! I don't know him- there was no reason for him to lie to me! That's what pissed me off the most! When we met he was driving a luxury car, but he never once stepped out of it to greet me or anything, he just pulled his car up alonside mine and we talked for a few...when we finally decided to go inside of the restaurant that's when I got to see him for what he was. The brother was no more than 5' tall, if that. He was dark skinned {as am I} and there was nothing wrong with that, because the pic he showed me was a dark skinned brother, but in it the brother was 6'3", which coincedentally is how I like them. Ta...

When I first got my computer, I used to sit up and chat all night long with numerous people from across the globe. As I got bolder, I actually met some of these individuals that I had chatted with online. The one commonality I found was that they all lied about something...that was in 2002. Today, I am a member of three online dating services {I'm a free member to them so communication is limited} anyway, three years later I am finding the same thing...that they all lie for some reason or another. Now my girlz feel that I am crazy to not only talk to these freaks I meet online but to actually meet them. And I am beginning to realize that they are right...I am crazy or are they crazy? I'm crazy because I genuinely want a relationship, and I am finding out the reason why some of these men are still single and that is....drum roll please--- They don't say what they mean and mean what they say! That goes for the women as well! Now I know life happens and you had a life before ...

Have you ever wondered what you were going to be when you grew up? I used to say that I wanted to be a lawyer, because I love to debate topics, issues, and situations. But instead as I grew older my career path changed. Over the past eighteen years, I've worked in thankless, meaningless jobs, with little and/or not authority. I was unable to affect and create change. They were all dead end jobs. Since 1998, I've worked in temporary positons, and here I am again, finding myself without a job. The problem is I know what I want to do, I just don't have the resources to do. My dream is to own and operate my own bookstore. Sounds geeky and corny, but its what I want, its what I am most passionate about. Reading, writing, and all things literary! In an effort to get that accomplished, I wrote and self published my first maintstream multicultural fiction novel entitled "THE PARTY". It is published by Saphari Books, Inc., a small press company on the East Coast {www.sapha...