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Relationships 101: Independent Women live on Get 'N' The Know with Saundra

Are you a single, empowered, career-focused INDEPENDENT woman? Do you own your own home, car, and yet find yourself single with no male prospects on the horizon? Maybe your independence is turning off and away good men. Saturday, July 27t h at 1pm est/10am pst GITK with Saundra talks with "Why Did He Break Up With Me" author Debora M. Ricks " and Crystal Sylvester, CPCC a certified life & relationship coach aka Soul Mate Coach Crystal about independent woman in our final discussion on relationships. These ladies are going to bring the fiyah! Don't miss out! Join the conversation at 917.889.2273.
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Dating Tips 101: Top 5 things to do at Christmas When Your Single

Yes its Christmas time. A time where family and friends gather to love and share old times, good times, and new times as they exchange gifts and laughter and love. Yet you sit in the background and rather than enjoy the festivities, you are woeful and quiet, lamenting silently about your singleness. How do I know this? Because I used to do exactly that, smiling on the outside, but crying on the inside. Hell, I did that and I was in a relationship, yet always always spent Christmas alone. However, I broke out of that mode by doing these 5 things: 1.        I thank GOD each and every day for my family and my friends and for all of the blessings he continues to bestow upon me. 2.        I take joy in seeing the delight in my nieces and nephews faces as they open up their gifts. 3.        I love being around my family and my friends, so make sure that I make time for them. 4. ...
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Sassy Situation - Trust is My Issue

Dear SassyScribe, I came across your blog and I wanted you to know that I love it. I have a problem and I want your help. I have learned that I do not trust men. Its like I am always waiting for the other shoe to drop in any situation. I don't care if I am meeting a man, I automatically expect him to not be entirely truthful. When I am in a full fleged relationship I think at some point he is lying to me. I read between the lines all the time even when there isn not need to. I don't want to be like this but I think I may have lost alot of men because of my distrust of men. Can you help me or point me in the right direction.  Trust is my issue Nashville, TN _________________________________ Dear Trust Is My Issue: First I want to thank you and I hope I can continue to keep you as a valued reader. Please share the blog with your friends. I have a confession as well. I too at one time had major trust issues with men because someone very close t...
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Black Women & Self Hate

Congratulations to Gabby Douglas for her gold medal win at the 30 th Olympiad in London 2012. However her win was tarnished by negative comments on her hair. And it wasn’t coming from Caucasians; it was coming from Black women! The accolades were overshadowed by the negative and derogatory comments over her hair. It is a continuing saga that Black women seem to have for one another. Is it envy, self hatred, or jealousy? Why is it that sisters hate on each other? That question got me to thinking and I really stopped and watched black women over the weekend. My gender never ceases to amaze me! I mean I go out and I hear women saying things that sound good, but when I looked at them, I mean really looked and truly listened you could tell that they weren’t “sincere”. It was like they were trying to co-sign with me, and that’s not an easy task to do. I am a strong willed and very very very outspoken individual. I am obnoxious to some, others don’t care for my “potty” mouth, b...
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MANagement Rings

The placement of the engagement ring has been a long held tradition of showing your status as no longer being available and it’s what some women secretly wish for when dating. However, there is a new trend.  The 2012 tend---the Man Engagement Ring or the MANGAGEMENT RING. Now some women feel that if he has to be managed, why would they want him? But, it’s not the fact that he is being managed, it is just showing that he is no longer on the market. That he is affianced. That he is betrothed. That he is taken! It’s a symbolic gesture like the diamond engagement ring for the women. It can be represented in a plain silver, titanium, or stainless steel band. Some women are even springing for Plain Platinum or gold, with an upgrade of adding diamonds for the ‘big day’. Yet when asked, more women had an issue with such a concept rather than men. Most men had no problem wearing a ‘management’ ring. They felt that it leveled the playing field somewhat. That if he ask...
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Power In Relationships – Whose in Charge?

When it comes to power in relationships…whose in charge? Is there one person with more control and/or say than the other? Is it the person with the most money? Is the most educated in the relationship? Or does it come down to traditional roles of the Man is the head of the household and the woman is his second in command? What are these rules to relationships that I am beginning to see where the word ‘submit’ becomes like an F bomb.  I have seen so called strong women, or women who I know to be decisive, articulate, determined, forward in thought, word, and deed, become tongued-tied and meek, when it comes to decisions within their relationship. It makes me say “I will be single forever.” Don’t get me wrong, I understand the need for working with your mate and compromising, but here lately, I have seen married women who cannot make their own doctors appointments. I know married women who cannot make a family decision about a vacation. To that, I know women who have made...
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Women Want to Be Lied To...Really?

As I sat and reflected on women who complained about being lied to and then did a look back into my past relationships, the question "do women want to be lied to" popped into my head. With that I started a Q & A with Saundra and Sassy. :-) as a writer you have to have these 'talks'! 1.  Women want to be lied to? Sometimes women prefer a pretty lie to the ugly truth. Some men (not all) will tell women what they want to hear for his greater good… to shut her up or to sleep with her. This isn't a new trick, its as old as time, and women continue to be vulnerable to pretty lies. 2.  Women don’t listen because it doesn’t jive with what she wants to hear.  It goes back to those questions ---about how does he feel about you, where is this relationship leading…etc.  If a man tells you straight up “he is not looking for a relationship” and you sleep with him anyway, and then you wonder why he doesn’t feel the same way about you, you say he is wrong…he i...
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9 Things Will Disappear in Our Lifetime

I found this in a group that I belong to and I wonder to you agree or disagree with any of the 9 items listed? I have to agree on most of them, but will miss receiving an actual Christmas/Birthday/Invitation/Thank You card via snail mail...I only read books, sorry not an e-book reader at all...have a land line, but rarely use it, and as for the TV, I cannot watch my shows online or on a small device...I like my flat screen...sorry! Something to think about....(((author unknown))) 1. The Post Office. Get ready to imagine a world without the post office. They are so deeply in financial trouble that there is probably no way to sustain it long term. Email, Fed Ex, and UPS have just about wiped out the minimum revenue needed to keep the post office alive. Most of your mail every day is junk mail and bills.   2. The Check. Britain is already laying the groundwork to do away with checks by 2018. It costs the financial system billions of dollars a year to proces...
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