It has been a while since I last posted to my blog(s)…the reason for that is that I am way too busy. Not only am I writing my books, I am an internet radio talk show host ( www.blogtalkradio.com/sassyentertainment ), as well as an internet web-show host ( www.iseecolorlive.tv ). Yet, more importantly, I have been doing a lot of self reflection. Reflecting on my issues with fear and love. What I realized is that I have been “in like” plenty of times in my life, but the last time I was in love, was over 15 years ago. Amazing, that it has been so long, but I had to stop and wonder why? As SassyScribe, I am always stating that women need to sit back and take stock of situations. They should learn something valuable from every relationship that they have been involved in. That is what I have done…and it was a sad revelation for me. See, the man that I was in love with, was a good person, but not the right man. The man I fell in love with was funny as hell, a loving son, and very smart…sma...

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I have to begin this blog with the caveat that I am a very spiritual person, and I have accepted Christ as my Lord and Savior...however, I do not attend church because of the vast number of hypocrites within. I'm sorry, I have to keep it real and I want to know why is it that the Black church IMO takes the Bible and bastardizes it for various reasons? You know I've always wondered why Black churches aren't flourishing financially as some others are. I'm not talking about the megachurches, because they get their money because I think they get it..they are about making that paper and at sometimes I view it as a "by any means necessary" mindset to do that. If that means they have to have a banquet and serve - horrors of horrors - WINE with their meal then its done. The bottomline is usually the bottom line. I look at the cluster of churches in my area and I see how the people react to different things and different situations especially when it comes to secul...

Three years ago I read an article in the Washington Post by Joy Jones entitled “Marriage is for White People” and the article talked to adolescent children who claimed that marriage was for white people. It went on to state various statistics, i.e. since the 1960’s the marriage rate for African American’s has continued to drop. Statistics such as this and others of its ilk about Black women and the Black community prompted me to ask why is it that marriage is not preached, instilled, taught, or encouraged in our community. Having grown up in a two parent household, whose parents are still alive and together, I witnessed love, struggle, trials, and tribulations. I witnessed infidelity and counseling, and two people working together to create, grow, build, learn, and love---together. It is the reason why I believe in the sanctity of marriage. I believe in standing before God and repeating vows to merge your lives into one. I believe in the sacrament of the vows. What I don’t believe ...

This morning on the way to work I performed my usual routine of stopping at Starbucks for my morning joe and when I got back into my car, my phone was ringing. Of course I’m a woman with a huge purse so you all know that the phone is in the bottom of the bag and not in the cell phone slot inside. So as I rummage inside for the phone and finally get it, my hand mistakenly hit the answer button…so I say hello and a woman’s voice say’s “hello” so I say hello again and she says who is this…immediately I get offended. Did you or did you not call me???? So I hung up and when I did, I noticed the number was restricted…so I immediately think back to the last few weeks and the number of networking and social events I have attended and dissiminated my card. I have also had some conversations with individuals regarding business…yes the said individuals were and are men…so my immediate thought is “what insecure wife/girlfriend found my card, possibly viewed a bill, and/or simply went through her m...

Who knew that the dating game would change so drastically over the last twenty years? So many factors play into what changed the game and I feel that the number factor was the internet? The internet made it easier for shy, introverted, sometimes unattractive, uninspiring, lazy, physically disabled and in some instances obese individuals the opportunity to meet a potential love match online. I know what I said is not politically correct, but it’s the ugly truth. On the other hand, it also made it easier for that busy executive and/or a workaholic, single parents, and newly single individuals to find a love match as well. Let’s face facts it’s a helluva lot easier to point, click, accept or reject via the anonymity of the internet as opposed to attending a singles event such as speed dating or a singles meet and greet. Sidebar: 35,000 people meet and marry online every year…which I am sure will give some folks hope. Ideally no one thought and/or believed they would be single again and/o...

What turns a man on the most? Is it the sight of a naked woman? A nearly naked woman? Or a woman fully sheathed in a berka? Ladies, we all know that it doesn't take alot to turn a man on...regardless of your weight, and/or dimensions, your man sees something in you to begin with. So lets dispense with the shyness, the meekness, the hot & cold reactions we throw out to men and do something, anything different to turn him on! Hell, you may find out that you will get turned on in the process. Here is a sample of what I think will turn people on... 1. Sexually Explicit Conversation - hearing what a man/woman is going to do to you is the beginning of foreplay. 2. Using the 5 Senses - creating and setting a mood, that stimulates your five core senses...fragrant body oils, scented rose petals, erotic massages, scented baths, sexy lingerie & sensual foods. 3. Fantasy Fulfillment - there is nothing like telling your mate your fantasy, the bonus is that they are willing to help yo...

On June 25, 2009, a mother lost her son, three children lost their father, a family lost a loved one, and the world lost an icon in the music and entertainment industry. Michael Joseph Jackson’s death was a shock to us all, so when I heard that BET was going to include a tribute to MJ in their 2009 BET Awards show, I was excited and anxiously awaited an awards show as I did when I was a teenager. To be honest, I had no intentions of viewing the show, because the past couple of award shows that I watched were just too ghetto for me to stomach. When the show started at I was like, “YES”, Boyz To Men back together AND singing an MJ tune, now that is what I was looking forward to seeing. I just knew that BET was going to move mountains and make it happen…but they didn’t. I mean its Hollywood, and in Hollywood money talks…but obviously not at BET. What I witnessed is the main reason why I stopped watching BET over fifteen years ago…long before it sold and after they released Tavis Smiley, I...

I’ve been told by some men that I have met that I “think like a dude”, and that statement made me laugh, because I do have a “dudetality”. I am surrounded by women that have a “dudetality” and that’s alright! For those that don’t know me, I am outspoken and opinionated. I am very direct and at times I don’t have a filter between my brain and my tongue. I understand that it’s not what I say, but how I say it, however, I feel like people are coddled too damn much at times and they need to hear it straight with no chaser. Why pretty the words up or delay the blow? Some people try to play dumb and act like they don’t know and/or understand the words that are coming out of your mouth, especially if you’re being “nice” about it. Some people need to hear it in a rough manner in order for them to see the stupidity of their ways. For example…a few years ago I remember coming home and one of my sister’s girlfriends had stopped past for a visit. I did not care for this girl, so when I came in, I ...

Excerpt from forthcoming book... Sassy’s Rules of Dating 2009© SassyScribe (Saundra E. Harris) Saphari Books, Inc. The first rule of dating is to go on the date with no expectations. We as women set ourselves up when we go on a date with this mindset. Keep an open mind. Be charming and friendly. Do not send a representative in your stead, be your self, because any act or sham will come out later. Again this is something that took me four years to learn. When I date, I go on the date with one expectation, and that is to have fun. I enjoy the food, the conversation, the laughter, or whatever it is he has planned for the evening. Even if there is no love connection, I have opened up my life to a possible new acquaintance. There are some tried and true questions that one should ask on a date, most especially a first date. Truth be told, some questions should’ve been asked in advance. I firmly believe that when you meet a person, you can find out some things in the first twenty minutes o...

God blessed I love FB and all other social networking sites, because it allows me to be Sassy and speak my mind on topics I love... but most importantly it is a vessel that is allowing me to speak to women about their hangups and stupidty when it comes to men, dating, sex, and relationships. Yes, I said stupidity...it looks as if some of them are getting dumber and more desparate as they get older. You know when I hear them saying the same things over and over adnauseum it makes my teeth itch. Why? Why is it that women have not learned from their mistakes? Why are they still asking the same damn questions over and over...how do I know if he likes me, is he only after sex...why is he lying to me, why does't he want to spend time with me...WTF I can't take it anymore...Ladies, dating is so very easy...we have been blessed with a third eye and an uncanny intuition that talks to us everyday. Not just on matters of the heart but on all matters that involve, money, our children, our ...

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE: SassyScribe Media Entertainment P.O. Box 232 Pasadena, MD 21123 sassyscribemediaent@yahoo.com 3 THINGS A MAN NEEDS, BUT WAS NEVER TOLD May 12, 2009, ( Baltimore , MD ): Sassy and Dlyte sit down with author Elliott Katz, and discuss his best selling book BEING THE STRONG MAN A WOMAN NEEDS and the importance of showing leadership, making decisions, and taking responsibility as the three key things that men need, but were never told. Tune in Thursday, May 14, 2009, at 9:00pm EST / 6:00 PM PST on www.blogtalkradio.com/sassyentertainment and call in to share your thoughts to 646.716.7414. "Elliott Katz understands why women today complain about the lack of quality men, "Today’s men have received so many confusing messages on what a man should be, they’re bewildered.” “WSER Sassy Entertainment Radio™” is a hypnotically engaging interactive radio show streaming live each and every Thursday on your Internet airwaves at 9:00pm EST/6:00pm PST. Saundra E. Harris...

In 2006 Senator Barack Obama announced his candidacy to campaign for the 2008 Presidential election. The world witnessed the outcome of such an historic moment, and as an African American I was never more proud than if he was a member of my family. It showed me that after eight years of idiocracy and nepotism and just bad decisions coming from the GOP and the Bush administration, that the nation was ready for a change. The nation was abuzz with the fact that there had not been such a ground swell of support for a presidential candidate since President John F. Kennedy. Slowly, the old guard began to see that this young Black man was representative of what many felt…and they believed that he was the change we all needed. However, the right-wing had a field day, calling President Obama a rock star, and then when he went on his European tour prior they dubbed him the Messiah. At that time I shrugged off all comments about Obama being the Messiah, or when folks referred to him as “the secon...

Spring time is here and summer is upon us! We all enjoy spending time with family and friends and this is the time of year where we can begin to plan our spring/summer events. For those that are parents, they are beginning to plan their Prom parties and Graduation events for their high school/college students, while others may be planning weddings, bridal showers, and baby showers. However, no matter what you are planning, I thought it would be great to remind everyone about invitations that they may receive and responding to said events. That’s right! I am sure we all know what RSVP means, but for those that do not it is French for répondez, s'il vous plait, translated in English it means PLEASE REPLY. I am not sure why, but that acronym and that statement, mean the same to me, but what I have learned over the years is that most people do not care to reply and often give the old excuse of “I forgot”, “I didn’t get the invitation”, etc…which are so pat and useless that when I hear ...

Three years ago I read an article in the Washington Post by Joy Jones entitled “Marriage is for White People” and the article talked to adolescent children who claimed that marriage was for white people. It went on to state various statistics, i.e. since the 1960’s the marriage rate for African American’s has continued to drop. Statistics such as this and others of its ilk about Black women and the Black community prompted me to ask why is it that marriage is not preached, instilled, taught, or encouraged in our community. Having grown up in a two parent household, whose parents are still alive and together, I witnessed love, struggle, trials, and tribulations. I witnessed infidelity and counseling, and two people working together to create, grow, build, learn, and love---together. It is the reason why I believe in the sanctity of marriage. I believe in standing before God and repeating vows to merge your lives into one. I believe in the sacrament of the vows. What I don’t believe in, ...

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE: SassyScribe Media Entertainment P.O. Box 232 Pasadena, MD 21123 sassyscribemediaent@yahoo.com IT’S JUST A DAMN DATE: Why We Expect Too Much Too Soon April 7, 2009, ( Baltimore , MD ): Sassy and Dlyte sit down with author Tariiq Omari Walton, and discuss his best selling book ITS JUST A DAMN DATE available at http://www.tariiqomari.com/ and why people expect too much too soon. Tune in Thursday, April 9, 2009, at 9:00pm EST / 6:00 PM PST on www.blogtalkradio.com/sassyentertainment and call in to share your thoughts to 646.716.7414. "A successful relationship is not something you can actively seek and expect to find, according to author Tariiq O. Walton" “WSER Sassy Entertainment Radio™” is a hypnotically engaging interactive radio show streaming live each and every Thursday on your Internet airwaves at 9:00pm EST/6:00pm PST. Saundra E. Harris, an Award winning author, turned talk show host aptly called “SassyScribe”, and Dlyte dishes a saucy discussion ...

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE: SassyScribe Media Entertainment P.O. Box 232 Pasadena, MD 21123 sassyscribemediaent@yahoo.com SHEpreneur's April 1, 2009, ( Baltimore , MD ): Sassy and Dlyte sit down with four of the hottest SHEpreneuer's on the East Coast: Monique Jones of the While You Were Out Group, MsPrity of Spa Luxuries, Marcy Evans Crump of FLYWIRE Magazine and VH1’s Tough Love celebreality star and author Abiola Abrams. Tune in Thursday, April 2, 2009, for a special 90-minute segment of WSER Sassy Entertainment Radio at 9:00pm EST / 6:00 PM PST on www.blogtalkradio.com/sassyentertainment and call in to share your thoughts to 646.716.7414. "...sisters are doing it for themselves..." “WSER Sassy Entertainment Radio™” is a hypnotically engaging interactive radio show streaming live each and every Thursday on your Internet airwaves at 9:00pm EST/6:00pm PST. Saundra E. Harris, an Award winning author, turned talk show host aptly called “SassyScribe”, and Dlyte dishes...

Cynthia Nixon did it. Lindsay Lohan's doing it. TV shows are based on it. Is it our imaginations, or are wives and girlfriends ditching their men and falling in love with other women? New science says that sexuality is more fluid than we thought. Lately, a new kind of sisterly love seems to be in the air. In the past few years, Sex and the City's Cynthia Nixon left a boyfriend after a decade and a half and started dating a woman (and talked openly about it). Actress Lindsay Lohan and DJ Samantha Ronson flaunted their relationship from New York to Dubai. Katy Perry's song "I Kissed a Girl" topped the charts. The L Word, Work Out, and Top Chef are featuring gay women on TV, and there's even talk of a lesbian reality show in the works. Certainly nothing is new about women having sex with women, but we've arrived at a moment in the popular culture when it all suddenly seems almost fashionable — or at least, acceptable. Statistics on how many women have traded ...

10 0-974-5486-2-6 Diandra Pierce pulled her husband to her and traced his lips with her tongue all the while savoring the feel of his lips on hers and her love for him shining from the depths of her soul. After all, what women wouldn’t shine when they have just married the man of their dreams at the hottest, most ghetto-fabulous wedding EVER! When the limo came to a stop they frantically tried to fix their clothes before the driver opened the door. Slightly disheveled Diandra exits the car when something to the right; caught her eye causing the blood to drain from her face. What was he doing at her reception? Why after the wedding of her dreams did his presence stand to make her reception the nightmare of her life? Saundra E. Harris’ best selling and awarding winning debut novel THE PARTY introduced you to five women whose partying spirit and drama filled lives only solidified their inseparable bond. But it’s a new year and the girls are finally doing the right thing….or are they? A...

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE: SassyScribe Media Entertainment P.O. Box 232 Pasadena, MD 21123 sassyscribemediaent@yahoo.com Celeb Reality Star Abiola Abrams of VH1’s Tough Love March 23, 2009, (Baltimore, MD): Sassy and Dlyte sit down with VH1’s Tough Love celebreality star Abiola Abrams! Tune in Thursday, March 26, 2009, at 9:00pm EST / 6:00 PM PST on www.blogtalkradio.com/sassyentertainment and call in to share your thoughts to 646.716.7414. “Abiola Abrams is one of the women vying for love on the new Drew Barrymore produced VH1 show Tough Love, a spin-off of He’s Just Not That Into You. Find Abiola's blog, celeb interview videos and more at http://www.planetabiola.com/ .” “WSER Sassy Entertainment Radio™” is a hypnotically engaging interactive radio show streaming live each and every Thursday on your Internet airwaves at 9:00pm EST/6:00pm PST. Saundra E. Harris, an Award winning author, turned talk show host aptly called “SassyScribe”, and Dlyte dishes a saucy discussion designed to b...