Have you thought about how your relationship with your father has affected your current relationships with men? Are you seeking a father figure, someone to mold you and show you that they love you through patience and guidance? Or rather a bad boy that leads (in your mind) an exciting and exhilerating life---a risk taker that leaves you breathless with excitement? Maybe your safe, and because money was tight growing up you seek a man that can offer you the security and stability that you need knowing that although he may not be what you want emotionally, he is what you need to give you that sense of security. Have you wondered why you interact with men the way in which you do? Do you ever reflect on how your current relationships with men is a direct reflection of your relationship with your father? These questions have been floating in my head for quie some time as I reflect on how my relationship with my own father affects my relationships with men. I have a fantastic and loving rela...

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You know, I have been in a bytchy, pissy ass, mood for the last couple of days…just stupid, asinine shyt that folks do have really pissed me off…phew…I need to breathe! I am a Starbucks fiend, and for Christmas a friend gave me a $50 gift card…so I stop each morning on my way to work, its part of my routine…for the past couple of months there has been a woman that sits outside in her car and you’d think that she was a customer, but no, she is one of those individuals that really gets next to me… See I know this is going to piss folks off, but this woman is a Witness…a Jehovah Witness…this woman and folks like her get to me…for several reasons, one of them is that I feel, and these are just my opinions, but they push their religion on you, by trying to get you to purchase their little booklet or whatever ---oooooh The Watchtower or Watch Light whatever, anyway, every morning she sees me and every mooring I say “no thanks” and keep it moving.. But this morning, being in the mood that I a...

The infamous Grumpy, moderator extraodinaire of the FAF board, who is always thinking about educationing the ladies...ran across this site and relayed it to me...and now I am sharing it with you! I think this should be a part of a woman's daily regime...but that is JMO! _______________________________________________________ http://www.mypleasure.com/educati...gels_for_better_sexual_health.asp Kegels for Better Sexual Health Ladies, did you know you could perform an internal vaginal exercise that will strengthen the walls of your vagina, making childbirth easier, incontinence more unlikely and orgasms much stronger? If you've had a baby, your doctor probably told you all about these exercises, called Kegels. The rest of you, listen up. A Practical Application Developed in 1946 by Dr. Arnold Kegel (pronounced, "kay-gill"), a Los Angeles obstetrician and gynecologist, Kegels are the rhythmic clenching and unclenching of the pubococcygeal (PC) muscles. Also known as t...

WOW! 2008 has arrived... I want to wish you all a Blessed & Prosperous New Year! As I prepared for the new year, and a new phase in my life I struggled with where to begin. Unlike alot of people, 2007 was a great year for me...I enjoyed alot of success and a few failurers...I met new people that helped me in my growing process and removed myself from some old ones that were attempting to hold me back. I lost some family members near and dear to me, a wonderful aunt, cousin, and uncle in that order...these losses pulled my family closer together, making us stronger, caring, and more loving than ever. However, I was still not sure of what my "resolution" for the year 2008 would be, until I ran across this message board posting from the mighty and wise Grumpy from the FAF board... Didi & UB will know whom it is I am talking about...the message is about A C C E P T A N C E...and that is my New Years Resolution... _________________ One of the greatest causes of our unhappi...

I wonder how deep love truly is…you know it’s the end of the year and I have been reflecting on love, money, men, success, power, sex, relationships...just life in general. I have had money come to me and go…I have had success come to me in stages, and I have seen friends professional careers take off with a blast. But what I have noticed the most, what intrigues me the best is the inner workings of relationships…why are they together, what makes them tick…what keeps them together, and what will be the straw that breaks the camels back. I have watched couples come together in holy matrimony and I’ve seen couples torn apart by selfishness, jealousy, money woes, and infidelity. See, it’s the latter that I am focusing on…because I know of some older couples, and the men have been running women all of my life…just straight ole time womanizing men… and I think to myself, the women involved, their wives really took their vows seriously. And for some who have girlfriend status for more than ...

This was forwarded to me by a friend...the author is unknown...as my friend stated "But true on so many levels..." I am interested in your thoughts/comments on this... ____________________________________________________________ The KKK leader stepped to the podium, his hood lowered around his shoulders and a look of disgust on his face. He said, 'Sorry guys but this will be our last meeting; we're going out of business,' A member stood up in back. 'But why sir?' The leader sighed, 'Well, reverend, the Blacks are doing a better job getting rid of themselves than we ever did, so we are no longer needed,' There were rumblings and protest. The leader raised his hand to silence the Klan members, and said, 'Their rap music says more vile things about Black women than we ever thought of.' The members grudgingly nodded in approval. The Imperial Dragon continued: 'And their women write books and make songs that demean black men better than my t...

First off I want to say, this is the second time I had to write this because my PC phucked up, so it isn't flowing as good as the first one, but you get the meaning...sorry to those that may think this random or whatever....but by now...I can't remember a phucking word of the first blog...do other bloggers get that...that they write something and two seconds later they can't remember what it is they said...well this blog is a result of that illness....SassyScribe "Women are just not cut out for one night stands and those that are, are whores," stated a young woman at one of my Grown & Sexy w/Sassy Discussions. "Women are not built like men and cannot go around having casual sex or one night stands." hmmm...here are my thoughts on this... First off, society does view a man(whore) differently than they do a women(whore)...men can have random casual sex with as many women as they choose, and no one says a word...men can have sex with a woman and feel ab...

Dating in today's technological ages has made it easier to connect to a person, however it has added to an increasingly more impersonal method of communicating. There are alot of individuals that will tell you they date online, and one of the first instances of that communication is an email "ice breaker", "we click", or "flirt"...it enables an individual to express an interest in you without having to suffer through the face-to-face rejections that may occur through more traditional avenues of dating (i.e. - asking for a dance, or buying a drink in a bar). If your rejected, if you reach out and that person neglects to respond, it is done in the privacy of your home or office. No one knows that he or she didn't like your look or what you stated in your profile (if you've stated anything at all), because no else knows, other than that individual that you weren't interested. Online dating makes it easier to accept and reject...period. Howeve...

I was having a conversation with a male friend of mine today and he asked me to go to his myspace blog and comment. Well I did that and to sum up his blog he discussed how women lie all the time...they lie about cheating, they lie about paternity in general they just lie...and here is how our IM convo went... TiredBlackMan: I just read your comment SassyScribe: and TiredBlackMan: and I must say... TiredBlackMan: YOU ARE THE ULTIMATE BAMA! TiredBlackMan: what the hell are trying to say? SassyScribe: LOL SassyScribe: what TiredBlackMan: yeesh TiredBlackMan: you made it personal SassyScribe: so TiredBlackMan: women lie in general SassyScribe: don't generalize bama SassyScribe: everyone lies in general SassyScribe: men lie all the time SassyScribe: its one of the reasons I stopped dating TiredBlackMan: and that old excuse that men do it isn't a valid excuse SassyScribe: all that do unto others is BS when men aren't honest from jump SassyScribe: its not an excuse its the truth T...

Call Her Nastee -Test 2 ©2007 Saundra E. Harris Saphari Books, Inc. Nastee ascribed to the "you can show me, better than you can tell me" tenet, so when the ladies at work were praising their love of the "bullet" she had to find out for herself. After doing her research, she found what she wanted and started a new test. Nastee sat on the commuter train for the hour long ride to work. Her face was turned towards the window, hands clamped tightly to her side. She had began a new test this morning. She had inserted two electronic wireless plugs into her body, one into her puzzy and the other in her azz. They were designed to vibrate for five minutes and could be set, and recharged overnight and had a time usage of up to four hours, before having to be recharged. They cost her a small fortune, but no price was too much when it came to her sexual appetite. Nastee was vorarcious. Anything that seemed like a challenge to her, the more appealing it was. She always had to te...

I dug into my blog archives and ran across something that I wrote in October 2005...my next few blogs are going to be from my archives...this is going to be enlightening for me and I hope for the reader as well... How do you know when you've found your soulmate? Is there an earth shattering moment within your soul that speaks to another? Is there a moment where you just know, what you know, what you know? Does your heart palipate and your palms grow sweaty? Do you suffer from a loss of appetite? Are the last two signs of love or signs of having found that one person who is the other half to your soul. I ask these questions, because I want to know. How will I know when I've met my soulmate. Or have I met him already...and sadly lost him? How do you know? How will I know? What does a soulmate mean to you? My definition of a soulmate is a person who not necessarily completes you, but he/she will make you at peace with yourself. Meaning your automatically comfortable around this p...

"You know what Sassy, I haven't sucked dyck in a year and it doesn't seem to phase my man at all. He goes down on me and I still don't reciprocate...but I am trying so hard not to go outside of my relationship to get the loving I need that I am at my wits end. I have created the atmosphere, I have created the ambiance, I dress up in provocative clothing, I am sexy and sultry and very seductive. He comes home and surprise I am dressed and waiting for him...and yet and still I can't get the loving I want, need, crave, and desire. I need to be phucked and until my man gives me the loving I need, he won't get the type of loving he wants! But I don't think its working, he isn't even asking me for it and although I don't think, feel, or believe that someone else is giving it to him, he isn't asking me to...how many times do I have to tell him what I want, how many ways do I have to show him what I need---I need help!" ...anonymous in Maryland 11-...

I am going to try and write this blog without coming off or sounding like a tired bitter woman...but dammit I may not be able to be quite as objective as I would like...I have said it too many times that the relations between men and women has deteriorated. Everyday the situation seems to get worse. The thought processess and the way in which people think (nee men) amazes me...or is it that I think in such a common sense fashion that the way in which others think isn't with common sense??? I don't...the confusion of fending off inapproriate phrases, gestures, comments is getting to the point of making me nasty...and trust me I don't want to be nasty for no reason...I work daily on affirmations of my blessings and my satisfaction with my life... What makes you think you can do one of the following from just a mere hello: NO you can't phuck me NO you can't eat me NO you can't lick my azz NO you can't phuck me in the azz NO I ain't going down on you NO I ai...

This was forwarded to me in an email and the author is from Black Voices whose screen name is CRAMMASTERS... ________________________________________________ Found this statement from a gentleman on Black Voices. I feel that a lot of what he has to say is very true (even if it hurts). Bottom line--if I sleep with a woman I don't know or care about SEX is NOT going to make me care. (I stopped doing that years ago) That kind of sex is like scratching an itch. Once a man scratches, he's through. He ain't sitting around thinking about that spot that itched or how good it felt scratching it. He's moving on with his life until that spot itches again and it don't matter which hand he scratches it with, just as long as he gets rid of the itch. Too many women PRETEND they can handle a sexual fling, but wind up getting caught up and wanting us to romance and wine and dine them and pretend we're having a "relationship" when it's NOTHING but a booty call. Come...

How many single, eligible women feel that God has given up on them because He hasn’t sent a person into their lives or they believe He has sent the wrong person into their lives. In Tyler Perry’s movie WHY DID I GET MARRIED, Jill Scott’s character made this statement. We all know that Jill is a plus size woman, but for the movie she had to put on a “fat” suit to give her body more girth, which was understandable in the end. She felt that God had placed her in a marriage with a man that didn’t love her, didn’t like her, didn’t desire her, and just didn’t want her anymore. When he was done, he discarded her like a piece of trash, taking with it her self worth, her self esteem, self love, and self respect. His negative words ripped through her soul and tore through what little bit of her there was left. And then along came THE SHERIFF, who saw this woman for the beautiful, kind and loving person that she was, regardless of her size. However, through all that she went through, she was able...

When did dating become so complicated? Why is it that its okay for a man to be choosey and picky with his choice of mate/companion, yet not okay for a woman? Why is it okay for men to ask "why are you single", yet don't want the same asked of them? Why is it that I am so tired of answering questions like this, that it is amazing...there is so much bullshyt going on now in the dating world to the point that its just crazy...bottom line is...men and women don't know what in the hell it is they want...lets cut out the physical, because I would be lying if I said I didn't want/desire good looking men, but everything that looks good isn't always good for you...isn't that what Momma told you??? On paper folks sound really good, I mean its like "jack pot" and then you get to know this psycho skitzo nut job and you wonder what in the hell happened! How many of us have gotten caught up with some new shyt and then find out that after you knock the dust off...

"Black women, especially American Black women are bitches and sluts and need to be used, and discarded like the trash they are." That statement was said to me, the gentlemen will remain nameless as I do not wish to promote his website or his radio show, however, I had to share this conversation. When he asked me about the premise of my radio show, I explained to him that the mission of SassyScribe Media Entertainment and Sassy Entertainment Radio "Is to empower women with the understanding that they have to be accountable for their actions, and that there is more to them than what lies between their legs, and unless or until they begin to demand respect from men, they will continue to be disrespected in thought, word, and deed." At which point he stated, "It's fat and fugly bitches like you that make it hard for me to teach brothers how to fuck women without giving up a damn dime, dinner, or anything. That a woman can be phucked within three dates and if no...

How important is the kiss...I've talked to alot of people and they (IMO lied) when they said that kissing isn't important to them...is it me...but do you really want to talk to and spend time with a person that you just don't want to kiss... There are so many types of kisses...we have the peck, the french kiss, the wett kiss, the vaccuum kiss...but I am talking about the french kiss...those long, slow, deep, hot and wet kisses...the kind of kiss you got before you became intimate with a person... The kind of kiss that reaches deep into your soul and pulls out everything hidden inside of you...all hopes, desires, wishes, and dreams...all wrapped up in one, hot, moist, tongue dueling, mind blowing, earth shattering K I S S... Damn...its been a minutes...not everyong can kiss...not like that...with passion so drugging that you just cave in and give yourself up for whatever, whenever, however, whereever...that kind of kiss. IMO Kissing is a very important aspect of dating, rela...

Thinking about past relationships...I keep coming back to a "just in case" clause...we all have had them, you know the ones, "lets just be friends" after you have been together for a minute, a little more than friends, but nothing quite solid...this means they have met another person, and want to test the waters, but "just in case" it doesn't work out, they can try and come back to you...or this is another good one, its not you its me...another JIC clause, again testing the waters to see what works, but old trusty is right there as the fallback guy/girl... To hell with "just in case" its holding on to something that just isn't meant to be...I mean is it safe to say, that when we continue, these sorts of behaviors or a pattern of having sex with one or more of our exes or past "friends" as the term is fondly called now...are we setting ourselves up to fail for future happiness or relationships? If we continue to hold on to past r...