Should a woman have to convince her man, hell for that matter any man, to make love to her?
I ask because yall know how I have friends and how they confide in me and ask me questions, well this one friend has been seeing a guy and although they used to have sex, they don't anymore. She said that its almost like she has to convince him to do it to her.
Shit, I used to have alot of men interested in wanting to "get to know me", but now that I have since abstained from intimacy, my phone is silent and the dates have stopped! But at least I know where they are coming from. SEX is important to men. Unlike women, SEX is an extensial expression of how a man may feel about you. Men aren't as verbal as women when it comes to that, (I said not as verbal) because there are some men out there that are very intune and in touch with their more sensitive side. But regardless of whether or not I have chosen to abstain, should I want to "get down with the get down" TODAY, it is just a phone call away!
That's why this situation baffles me. I know its 3 sides to every story, but she said, that he said, "sex confuses him", does that mean her puzzy is like crack to him or does it mean it confuses HER into thinking there is something more going on than there is. What do I tell this woman. She has been involved with this man on and off for a while. Should I tell her to just back off and sex someone else, or should she try to "wait him out" and see where it goes?
I tell yall, Sassy is perplexed on this one. On the one hand she says he is focused on his career and achieving the goals he has set forth for himself for the year. On the other hand, what man doesn't want sex? I am so confused...my first thoughts are he's just not that into you! My second thought is that maybe their is someone else, and finally, I didn't want to take to it to this point, but this brother must be GAY!
What do you think?
SassyScribe
I ask because yall know how I have friends and how they confide in me and ask me questions, well this one friend has been seeing a guy and although they used to have sex, they don't anymore. She said that its almost like she has to convince him to do it to her.
Shit, I used to have alot of men interested in wanting to "get to know me", but now that I have since abstained from intimacy, my phone is silent and the dates have stopped! But at least I know where they are coming from. SEX is important to men. Unlike women, SEX is an extensial expression of how a man may feel about you. Men aren't as verbal as women when it comes to that, (I said not as verbal) because there are some men out there that are very intune and in touch with their more sensitive side. But regardless of whether or not I have chosen to abstain, should I want to "get down with the get down" TODAY, it is just a phone call away!
That's why this situation baffles me. I know its 3 sides to every story, but she said, that he said, "sex confuses him", does that mean her puzzy is like crack to him or does it mean it confuses HER into thinking there is something more going on than there is. What do I tell this woman. She has been involved with this man on and off for a while. Should I tell her to just back off and sex someone else, or should she try to "wait him out" and see where it goes?
I tell yall, Sassy is perplexed on this one. On the one hand she says he is focused on his career and achieving the goals he has set forth for himself for the year. On the other hand, what man doesn't want sex? I am so confused...my first thoughts are he's just not that into you! My second thought is that maybe their is someone else, and finally, I didn't want to take to it to this point, but this brother must be GAY!
What do you think?
SassyScribe
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