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Why Did You Get Married

Would you marry someone because you wanted kids? Why would you marry or settle for someone that you didn't love? Is it that you are/were tired of looking and searching and you settled for the first bus smoking? Were you that lonely that you took whatever, whenever, however, from whomever?

I ask because I know of so many people that are married and so very soon after the marriage they begin to stray. Look for other avenues of release OR the killer is that they never let their side piece go and went into the marriage just plain wrong!

I see a level of pervasiveness that appears to be accepted among society. Its like they know from jump that this may be their last or only chance so they jump. They leap before they truly look and now they are stuck...and mad....as they ask themselves, "why did I marry him/her?" Its too late for that now...you (women) wanted that damn day that is supposedly our right in life! A huge fancy ass wedding that you will be paying for like a damn student loan. Women are more in love with the idea of a wedding rather than all that a marriage entails.

I don't feel sorry for you. But when a person tells you that they know that you don't love them as much as they love you and you still marry, then you start off with problems. Are both of you that desperate to stem your loneliness, that you settle for fifth rate affection?

As I write this so many couples that I know come to mind and its funny because as a single woman, I remember a time when I envied them having a "loving, caring, spouse" someone to share good and bad times with, someone to talk to and enjoy the special moments of your life with.

BUT if being married means I was chosen because your azz didn't want to be alone...then I will remain single. If being married means I have to knowingly accept the fact that you're phucking around, then I will gladly stay single. If being married means starting a new life with someone on a LIE, then let my old sphinster azz stay this way!

SassyScribe

Comments

Anonymous said…
I concur Sassy,
Why get Married if you are going to do the same thing as you did when you were single. A person has to have some very, very low self eteem to knowingly let their spouse commit such an egregious act on a regular basis. My wife and I have dealt with a ton of "life issues" since we have become one, I mean what good Marriage hasn't. We've both used our "dirt" to help our Marriage grow instead of letting it tear us apart. Marriage is the foundation of life, community, society, spirituality, etc. I just read a study in the USA Today paper a few weeks ago which stated that Marriage has now officially become THE NEW MINORITY in our society based on recent census information. That was a real eye opener for me..

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SassyScribe said…
I can stand alot of things from men, but I cannot stand being tolerated and if you're in my life for fear of being alone, it doesn't mean you enjoy my company, it means I'm one of the women in your life that you can "tolerate" the most...toleration I detest!

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