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The EX Factor

Is it possible to remain friends with your ex?

I wondered about this question, because although I hear people saying that they would have no problem remaining friendly with an ex, my question is why?

If you don't have any financial ties with each other or children, I find it rather odd to just be friends with an ex. Maybe its me and my issues of letting things go, but when I'm done, I'm done. I don't need daily conversation with you via email, phone, or text messages, nor do I need updates on you and your life from family and friends. When its over its over...it is called a break up for a reason is it not?!?!?!?

If your ex is around and/or constantly in your ear/face can you move forward with another person? Is it possible that it may make moving forward harder because you don't want to hurt the feelings of your ex (feelings should already be hurt, because you broke up)? Is it possible that maybe the ex is thinking that you have left open the doors of communication and/or reopened the doors of communication and therefore there is a slight chance that maybe, just maybe the two of you can "work it out" and "get back together"?

I think about situations like this and wonder truly, if you break up with a person, can you ever truly go back without any recriminations and/or the opening of old wounds and hurts? Do you discuss the problems that you had initially and try to move forward? Should you even take the person back?

I know all of us at one point in our lives has had to deal with THE EX FACTOR...the question is how did you do it?

SassyScribe

Comments

Anonymous said…
Sassy,
A break up is a break up in my opinion! You pretty much summed this all up for me in the first paragraph. There is no way that you can move on productively in your life if you are carying around old baggage! Be (cordial) if you have children together. Life is too short to be bitter and nasty towards each other! All other communication should cease in my opinion..

Peace & Love,
brutbrut

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