Always Say What You Mean Always be open and honest about your wants, needs, and desires. This is not solely regarding your personal life, but this comes into play with all aspects of your life. Only you know that which you want. Only you know what you can and cannot tolerate in people. This transcends male to female relationships and tunnels its way through and into all of your relationships. It can show that you are not only a strong individual, and not strong in the negative sense as society has come to view "strong" women. I am talking about Strong in the positive sense that it shows that you are an individual that stands by their word. In today's world of dating being honest about YOU as only YOU can tell it will show a person that at times, one can be convicted by their principles, loyalty and love of themselves. I am a firm believer in women being clear when they speak to men. The need for clarification is vital in today's dating world. They have to sa...

Read the story below...and then tell yourselves, oral sex is harmless...I keep telling folks everything isn't meant to go in your mouth...and here is the other point...if you won't allow a man to penetrate you vaginally/anally raw, why allow a raw penis in your mouth? I mean if you won't Phuck it raw, why Suck it raw...JMO... ------------------------------------ Doctors Say There Is a Link Between Oral Sex and Throat Cancer By CATHY BECKER Oct. 15, 2008 — Teresa Dillon was surprised to learn four years ago that what she deemed as an average sore throat actually was stage 2 cancer on her tonsil. "People think the face of oral cancer is a 70-year-old man who's been chewing tobacco and drinking whiskey all his life," she said. "But the face of oral cancer now is  it's me, a young woman, healthy, nonsmoking, fit." But what really shocked the waitress and then 38-year-old was that the human papillomavirus may have caused her illness, a illness that i...

This posting stemmed from a discussion about a man who spent a beautiful weekend with his wife and just the way in which he described the weekend prompted the women on the board to state how lucky his wife is to have a loving, caring, and attentive brother such as GRUMPY...it was so on point, that I asked him if I could post it on my blogs...and his response was "if it helps one woman to make the right decision, then hell yeah, post on!" Here is his response for women...please take heed... ___________________________________________ I would say to the women who claim they want that: WHAT ARE YOU DOING TO ACHIEVE THAT? Meaning, what kind of man are you dealing with? Under what circumstances are you with him? If it's because he's all you think you can get or because he's the baby daddy or because he's brainwashed you into thinking that 'ain't nobody else gonna want you' or anything like that, then you won't get that. Women are like a dealer in a ...

When it comes to shrewdness, manipulation, and political moves, the GOP & the Republican Party wins it hands down! As much as I abhor having to give them credit for anything…I have to give them credit for always being able to pull a rabbit out of their hats and convince the dumb, stupid, ignorant and uninformed American that you can do/be whatever you want so long as you lie, cheat, and steal to do it… because “hey…its okay!” I mean after all, the United States of America was founded by lying, stealing, cheating, and pillaging the first settlers, so why would it not be okay for this mindset to continue hundreds of years late? On Wednesday, Senator John McCain, the Presidential Candidate representing the Republican party took part in what many are calling Karl Rovian tactics. His rash decision to suspend his Presidential campaign is nothing more than political gaming at its best. Why is it, that people do not see it for what this is…his numbers were slipping in the poles and he need...

I received this from a good friend of mine, a future leader and philosopher of LIFE...please read and leave your comments...tune into WSER Sassy Entertainment Radio on Thursday, Sept. 25th @ 9PM EST...you can subscribe to the show by clicking on the RSS tab above... Greetings Friends and Family, These days it seems that the word "change" is continuosly being used in catch phrases. The question is, what is it that is going to bring about true change. Change is something that starts in the individual. It is something that must come from the inside and then work itself out. Each and everyone of us has something that we can do to bring about change in our surroundings and our daily lives. If we wait on "a leader" or one individual to bring about changes on our behalf , it is not going to happen. Everyone makes a difference, every little bit helps, and that's where working as a colliective and unity plays its part. We must begin to think for ourselves and pay attenti...

I know that this is a forum for love and relationships, but as a certified Obamacan when I received this email from a friend I just had to ask him if he would consider it for my blog. He said yes...so I introduce to you Guest Blogger YALE T. BEVERLY... _________________________ Good afternoon friends, Look, I am tired of all of this rhetoric around the election and comparing Sarah Palin to candidate Obama!! America is being fooled and hood winked and it is insulting to me and anyone who is free thinking and intelligent. Stop being led to the slaughter!! Here are straight facts, without preaching or embellishment. You can check them yourselves if you have a mind to find the “truth” and deal with the consequences!! Sarah Palin, by many accounts is a fair and decent governor for the state of Alaska; but she has only held office for less than 2 years. Comparing Palin to Obama is ridiculous, she is UP FOR Vice President, he is RUNNING for and has been nominated to be, President. She has...

Baltimore is rich with culture and the discovery of new and exciting places is always fun! I had the pleasure of enjoying one such spot recently and although a little pricey for food and drinks it is the atmosphere that I go for...atmosphere is that which I seek, especially when I am on a people watching jaunt. This particular night was no different when it came to sitting back, sipping on my Tuaca (glass chilled w/lemon and lime) as I perused the mixed crowd of thirty and forty something's eagerly trying to catch the eye for "the one". What I noticed most especially is the way in which some of the women were dressed and yet I watched how disturbed they became because their dress garnered the wrong attention from men. One young lady in particular who I have to admit was ROCKING her outfit, at first walked in with much confidence and as the eyes of the men caressed her body in albiet open admiration, I witnessed through the night that she was not feeling the attention. Let...

Fall is almost here! And ladies this means that men are about to make their choice picks for hibernation. Yes, that is right…the weather is changing and they are about to choose a couple of cuddle buddies… Ladies its all about the booty…brothers are going to be coming out of the woodwork. Men you haven’t heard from in months and in some cases years, will begin to call, text, and or email you. You are going to wonder what it is they want, but if you understand the habits and watch the behaviors that some men exude then this phase and/or aspect of their character should be nothing new… Brothers are about to get their stable in order. They have to get their pipeline thick for the winter months and for that to happen they have to contact a rack of phillies to choose from. See the key is to have a good amount to choose from that way when it gets cold, they will know where to go and/or who to call to get warm. Yes, for some this may sound shallow, but for some kats it is all about sex…gettin...

Always Say What You Mean Always be open and honest about your wants, needs, and desires. This is not solely regarding your personal life, but this comes into play with all aspects of your life. Only you know that which you want. Only you know what you can and cannot tolerate in people. This transcends male to female relationships and tunnels its way through and into all of your relationships. It can show that you are not only a strong individual, and not strong in the negative sense as society has come to view “strong” women. I am talking about Strong in the positive sense that it shows that you are an individual that stands by their word. In today’s world of dating being honest about YOU as only YOU can tell it will show a person that at times, one can be convicted by their principles, loyalty and love of themselves. I am a firm believer in women being clear when they speak to men. The need for clarification is vital in today’s dating world. They have to say what it is they mean from ...

What causes individuals to explore celibacy? Is it something that only women will do, or are more men also practicing this as well? Why the word celibacy is looked upon as THE C and for some is being likened to cancer? Is there something wrong with a person that foregoes something as fun, exciting, and enjoyable as sex? I used to think so, until I decided to shut the shop down. I practiced celibacy from 2005 to 2007 and it was due in large part to being tired of the game. Trust me when I say that for the first 30 days, I was one irate individual and had to recognize how sex had become an integral aspect of my life…straight meaningless sex. Once I surpassed the 30-day mark, it became easy. It wasn’t done out of trickery and/or to play mind games, it was all about ME. It was becoming more in touch with myself and how intimacy played a part in my life. Although I continued to date, I vowed to always be honest about my current status sexually…to be honest the first conversation was the har...

It’s been a minute since I have written a blog because of my hectic schedule and other things, I was thrown off track for a minute, but now I am back. During my hiatus I have been doing a lot of sitting back and watching people—men in particular, interactions between the sexes…watching folk’s reactions to situations and gauging body language of what people reading what is being said and unsaid. Trolling the internet as I do 24/7, I have noticed that there are a lot of blogs, vlogs, message boards, and pod casts, etc. that are constantly denigrating black women. Black women are manipulative, bitter, unfriendly, nasty, mean, ornery, etc. you name it there is something on the web to back that up. It’s as if there is nothing nice to say about black women. As if we are the dregs of society and quite frankly not only was I offended…it pissed me off. For years the black woman has been the back bone of our race. We have had to be strong and pick up where others have dropped the ball, from ...

Please nominate my blog www.xcapadesofthegirlz.blogspot.com BEST PERSONAL BLOG for the 2008 Black WeBlog Awards…this is a nationally recognized award, and I would really appreciate your help. It’s quick and easy. You just click on this site http://www.blackweblogawards.com/database/step1.php and fill out the form…follow the steps, then scroll down to the BEST PERSONAL BLOG category and copy and past my blog link in there! It’s simple and fast…but hurry because voting ends soon! Thanks a bunch! SassyScribe

How much of your sexual history should you disclose to a mate? For some women this question remains a constant conflict because how much of the reveal is too much? I advocate truth telling, although we all know that there are some that live in their convoluted and distorted truth. But, in this day and time, it is vitally imperative to your health and welfare to always state the truth. As adults we understand that you may not want to reveal all...that at one point in our lives we may have done something that was a little wild and/or off the hook and some things you just may decide to take to the grave. But years ago, you know back in the day when dating was easier and fun, you didn't have the issues that you have today. The questions that individuals must ask today are not questions that you had to ask twenty years ago. Today we have to ask questions like: Are you currently sexually active? If so, how many partners are you intimate with? Have you ever have or currently have a sexual...

Last night I watched an HBO documentary on Douglass High School in Baltimore, Maryland...and I have to say I cried. The administrative staff is stretched to its academic limits...with several administrators designed to move the school forward and get it back on the right track academically so as not to have the school disbanded, so as not to have the students disbursed to nearby schools, so as not to have the school taken over by the state, they had to get the test scores that have been poor for the last ten years up to par with other schools in the region...I listened and shook my head...this is all due in part of the NO CHILD LEFT BEHIND ACT...a poor example of the worst sort of legislation that always tends to not benefit the urban areas when it comes to schooling...our kids are getting the short end of this stick...but its a three-fold process...it takes the student, both parents (if possible), and the school to have this act repealed...because clearly it is not working. At the tim...

WSER SASSY ENTERTAINMENT RADIO™ Sassy & Dlyte inteview Speaker, Educator, Author, and Hip Hop Head Terrance Dean of the explosive and provocative memoir, Hiding In Hip Hop…On the Down Low in the Entertainment Industry from Music to Hollywood (Simon & Schuster/Atria Books – May 2008). July 3, 2008 @ 9pm EST/6PM PST - set a reminder www.blogtalkradio.com/sassyentertainment About The Author A riveting memoir, Terrance Dean’s, Hiding In Hip Hop, uncovers a hidden and well-known unspoken secret. Deep within the confines of Hip-Hop is a prominent gay sub-culture. A world that industry insiders are keenly aware of, but choose to ignore. From the testosterone of men striving to be on top and in control, to the “by any means necessary” bravado in an industry that thrives on power, homosexuality is a reality at nearly every level of Hip-Hop. Hiding In Hip Hop is a heartfelt sojourn of a young man searching for self, love, and sexual identity in the most homophobic places – the black fam...

June 19th @ 9pm EST/6pm PST - Sassy & Dlyte welcome Valerie Gibson best selling author of COUGAR: AN OLDER WOMANS GUIDE TO DATING YOUNGER MEN, as well as a noted relationship and sex therapist to discuss the pro's and con's of this dating lifestyle. Visit http://www.valeriegibson.com/ to learn more or www.blogtalkradio.com/sassyentertainment to set a reminder for the show. About The Author (taken directly from author's website) Valerie Gibson is a well known and popular Canadian celebrity and was for 12 years the award-winning sex and relationships columnist for the Toronto Sun newspaper, Toronto, Canada. An author, radio and television personality and speaker across Canada and the U.S., Valerie is considered one of North America’s top experts on contemporary love, sex, relationships and dating. She is currently the relationships expert for the new afternoon CBC television lifestyle show Steven and Chris featuring hosts Steven Sabados and Chris Hyndman, the original D...

This is an open letter to women that have children by men that already have or will continue to have multilple children with other women. This blog is for those women [white women] that have children with black men and when the situation doesn’t work out, they then want to remove themselves from that man’s life and his family. They begin to instill in their children the ails of being black and what it means to identify themselves as white. They teach the children to hate a part of themselves, their heritage and bit hright. This is a letter about my nephew who has had multiple children by white women, but because the relationship between Mom & Dad did not work out, his family- my family is being made to suffer. My mother, my sisters and most important of all my nephews and nieces who are BROTHER & SISTER , are going to grow up not knowing the love of a sibling. They are going to grow up not knowing, having, feeling, and sharing that love and affection that is special between si...

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This is more of a rant than anything and it’s based solely on my opinion. So I wish to apologize in advance for those this may offend…. But I absolutely, positively detest tattoos on women! AND when it comes to men I don’t think that sleeving up your arms, calves, kneck, back, or wherever is a good look either. When I see women with the carefully placed rose on their breast just close enough to the areola so that it shows but not really...or the way in which women strategically place a tattoo there and then sit the girls up high and tight (we all know what the girls are) as if it’s attractive or an attribute or adds to her “sexiness”. I don’t think that we (people) think about the changes that our bodies are going to go through as we age and how the tatts will look in 40 or 50 odd years. When you’re skinny and gain weight, so does the tatt…now it’s all big and ugly and distorted looking…like that rose its now a freaking tree trunk on the arm ‘cause the arm has “exploded” in size! The r...

In the past weeks I have trolled several online communities and have witnessed various postings relating of, for, and about relationships. “Why He Won’t Marry”, “Men That Don’t Want Relationships”, “How To Propose To Your Man” and the list goes on and on. Getting that man to the church on time and not making him make you wait forever seems to be a common thread topic on most message boards. People all over are celebrating the fact that now non-heterosexual couples can legally marry in California? Correct me if I am wrong, but haven't they been doing “commitment” ceremonies for years and hasn’t that been a way of showing their love and I don’t know maybe COMMITMENT to one another!!! Why is the chance to “marry” so important IF YOU ARE ALREADY COMMITTED EMOTIONALLY, MENTALLY, SPIRITUALLY, AND PHYSICALLY TO THE ONE YOU LOVE !!!! I don’t want to hear that they can now enjoy spousal benefits yada yada yada. Some companies, especially those in heavily populated non-heterosexual areas alr...